African American women: Your response

Miriam Muley — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 23:58:40 GMT

I am very excited to see the topic of the state of African American women discussed in an open and public national forum. The sheer buying power of Black women (over $500 Billion dollars), educational attainment, and rate of new business start ups are very significant accomplishemnts among a group that has been marginalized, at best. My company, The 85% Niche focuses on the power of women and women of color in the marketplace. I work with corporations to develop smart marketing and sales plans to tap into these audiences. The work you are doing will raise eyebrows and challenge the status quo on many levels.
I would encourage you to consider producing a similar report on the state of Latina and Asian women in America. Needless to say, I would be delighted to support development of these efforts.
Great work!
Miriam Muley
CEO, The 85% Niche
www.85percentniche.com

African American women: Your response

Gina from What About Our Daughters — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:02:43 GMT

OH don't worry, you will continue to hear from us. I liked tonight's piece on Black women and cancer and we have been having a vibrant discussion on my blog about last night's piece.

I think part of the reason folks are so sensitive is because these reports aren't necessarily as common as we would like, so that when the network hyped the series as in depth and about Black women there was equal parts dread and excitement.

No, I thought last night's piece on education was the equivalent of saying "Happy Birthday, so sorry Carol didn't make is, she died last week"

Either way as a news organization you have been sucessful because I NEVER watch the evening news so you atleast got one additional viewer for the week. I have been reading the posts on this blog, you definitely triggered a strong response and there is clearly interest in this subject. I would love to hear good news about Black women without any caveats.

We'll continue to follow the series at http://whataboutourdaughters.blogspot.com

Keep your head up Rahema

African American women: Your response

Nita Overcash, Conyers, Georgia — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:08:27 GMT

Bryan, my fav anchor/reporter....NBC is mistaken that only African American women do not get care about their breasts. When I was nineteen, I lost my cousin and best friend, Yvonne McClurg, to breast cancer. She was only seventeen. She was attended by the famous oncologist, Dr. Enoch Callaway of LaGrange, Georgia, our hometown. She was a blond caucasian. Our mothers were sisters. This doctor is of the Callaway family of the mill company and Callaway Gardens. I have cousins on my father's side of the family who have died very young with breast cancer. Some have had most of their upper body removed because of the cancer, while having exams; one still living is a nurse. She found her own lump. Doctors and/or machines did not find it. PLEASE correct the information you are putting before us at this time that only African Americans are "not looked after." Thank you kindly. My phone number is (770) 483-8672. I live in Conyers, near Atlanta. Juanita Roberts Overcash I have been published this year by ATLANTA magazine and the Atlanta Journal-Constitution.

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TC, San Diego, CA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:24:18 GMT

Thank you for taking a look at the consequences of African-American female achievement. How sad that when a woman (African American or otherwise) achieves above and beyond a man (collectively or singularly), there are perceived "consequences" to that achievement. Hopefully by opening this discussion we can get to a place where all human achievement is simply celebrated.

African American women: Your response

Donna, West Deptford, NJ — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:29:55 GMT

I think the series wants to be more, but the main stream media won't give it the time or effort that this topic deserves. I do think it is a start, and should be followed up in a more thorough manner.

African American women: Your response

Chidi Asika-Enahoro — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:39:40 GMT

This is definitely a big step in the right direction. You couldn't possibly cover everything or meet everyone's expectation at once; but this is evoking positive dialogues, even when the comments are negative. It is wonderful and refreshing to see black women portrayed in ways that are not salacious, welfare mongers, uneducated and unenterprising.
I like the suggestion to do more and also to present other minority women and their plights.
Well done,
Chidi Asika-Enahoro
Author, Empowerment Trainer, Rehab.Consultant
www.loveandbalance.com

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Adrian, Lenexa, Kansas — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:42:15 GMT

1. What about the most pressing issue facing black women today??? HIV/AIDS is also a prime killer of bw due to miseducation, noneducation, and the belief of myths that have been told for ages now.
2. As for the interracial dating/marriage: I find it strange that though black woman date and marry white men, you rarely see an old black woman with an old white man who have been married for a long time. It seems to never happen. White men always leave a black woman for someone else. Shame.
3. As for hip-hop, I don't see how music can be blamed for a culture's issues, relationship's issues, or the the issues of mindsets of people. Regardless of the impact of hip-hop, only people can define themselves. Music can't. I don't care how many nigg@s, b*tches, or hoes are used in the genre, only a person can decide if he or she will fall into those categories.

African American women: Your response

Gina from What About Our Daughters — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:47:33 GMT

Sorry to be a pest. Rahema, you said:
"Mark Whitaker, senior vice president of NBC News, who happens to be African-American, came up with the idea. He suggested that if we look at the major accomplishments of the nation's 13 million African-Americans in education and in the workplace we would find women leading the way. He then asked us to take a look at what the consequences of that achievement are."

Who the heck asks about "CONSEQUENCES" for achievement? So inherently in this man's mind, if Black women are doing well then there must be a down side. Now wonder the series looks the way it does. For real. What ever happened to BENEFITS or PROGRESS? So sisters were doomed going into this series.

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Vivian Darden-Abd El Aal — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:50:06 GMT

I am an African American female of 52 years. I was diagnosed with breast cnacer 12 years ago. I am a mother of two daughters who are seniors in college. I was a divorced mother for 12 years. The big difference is I attainted a RN degree which taught me about my body. Also, I lived in California where healthy lifestyle is a must. We as women of color, we can overcome this disease with knowledge.

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V. Phillips, Columbus Ohio — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:51:44 GMT

Very disappointing and somewhat disrepectful to see such limited time allocated to a very serious topic. Your advertisement gave the impression that the series would be more than just a 3 minute sound bite.
However, it was informative despite the limited time frame.

African American women: Your response

Shecodes — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:52:25 GMT

First of all, I would like to thank you, Rahema, for tackling this subject. I am not surprised that you would draw fire from those who wanted the topic to be switched to that of African American men. That is a common accusation that we, as black female bloggers face daily.

I admit to complaining about the brevity of the coverage (somehow I thought that the telecast would be less cursory), but I am very glad to learn that you have more video on this website.

As black women, we are so used to being invisible, forgotten, uncared for and an afterthought, that sometimes when a crack opens we explode through from the sheer, bottled up pressure.

Please don't take our criticisms too much to heart -- it just means that we care about this subject.

Blessings

African American women: Your response

nunya — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:07:36 GMT

I'm glad you're focusing on black women, as well, because I think that whenever "the black community" is discussed the focus usually *is* on black males and their issues...or issues that have a lot to do with black males are framed as an issue of "the black community," not to say they aren't issues for all blacks but that black women are often pulled into focusing more on what's going on with black men than what's going on with black women.

I think that even with just focusing on black women, there are issues that are being left out. If this were a week on black men, I'm almost certain there would be a feature on "the down low" phenomenon. But as far as I can tell, there is nothing this week on sexuality outside of heterosexual dating--particularly interracial dating--and black women. The features, aside from cancer, also seem to be very positive, i.e. "look how well black women are doing"...and not really acknowledging serious problems black women face (and I don't consider difficulty finding a man a *serious* problem). I find this especially problematic considering that nobody thinks/wants to admit blacks face problems that are not entirely our faults nowadays in the first place, and because the majority of the issues explored here should be nothing new to the blacks who are watching this week. If anyone is learning from this, it's non-blacks, and what they're learning is "black women's only/main problems in life are finding men, which some remedy by dating white/Latino men--so that's not really a problem--glass ceilings, which some remedy by starting their own businesses--so that's not really a problem, either--and breast cancer." Of course, that's not the case.

In that sense, I do think the series is kind of disappointing so far, although I very much appreciate the videos on breast cancer. But at least you're talking about black women, and there's nothing wrong with pointing out the positive. And I agree with the comment on exploring Asian and Latina women, or even just those communities, period. I suspect that, at least with the piece on Latinos, it would be more of a "look at the obstacles they face in America" or maybe with both "look at the obstacles they overcome to be successful" piece than what we're seeing with blacks whereas, once again, our obstacles aren't really being mentioned.

African American women: Your response

M. Cameron, Humble, Texas — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:12:39 GMT

My sister told me about the series and to be honest I was not expecting a thorough examination of the African-American female's experience in the U.S. That the network decided to focus upon us at all during the weekly broadcast is very encouraging and farsighted. I thank Mr. Whitaker for his insight and vision. Yet, I am puzzled as to why some people seem to think that it is an affront to the African-American male when there is a spotlight upon the issues that face African-American females. I personally appreciated the topic concerning breast cancer and the African-American female.

African American women: Your response

Bian Beverly — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:18:11 GMT

I'm glad to finally see news segments on African American women. I read, see and hear so very little about people like myself in everyday media: single, African-American, lawyer, and mother (of twin college-age daughters). My greatest regret about the series is that it's too short. I'd really appreciate a 'five part-series' with 30 minute segments instead of 8-10 minute segments.

African American women: Your response

pat — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:25:22 GMT

I liked the first segment of the series dealing with education and business and buying bower of black women. However, I think our accomplishments should be celebrated not weigh against and demeaned. As a black women I would be proud of the segment if it was more in depth and detailed and did not add negative statistics that did not pertain to black women at all. I think it is a big deal that black women are going to college in disproportionate numbers and creating their own businesses because I want to start my own. I was motivated by the piece and yet so disappointed. I at least watched one day of the series, which left me very disheartened, the piece was too superficial and redundant to add any informative value. I’m not impressed.

African American women: Your response

Sandra Fisher, Stratford, CT — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:49:43 GMT

The report on breast cancer was informative but to short and not enough information was given on this very important topic. Thank you

African American women: Your response

Shelby — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:04:13 GMT

Is there a reason we are focusing on black women? Maybe I missed WHY this is important news. Because what about the challenges that white women face (cause we do) or other nationalities. Why black women? This perpetuates an issue that black women are different than others. It is encouraging racism. Or at least find educated black women to appear on your show. Disgrace.

African American women: Your response

Charles E. Campbell, Columbus, Ohio — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:18:57 GMT

Hi Rahema

I continue to enjoy the series. Black men have been systematically under attack, with the goal of destroying the Black Family. Divide the Black Woman from the Black Man and you never get a Black Family.

I appreciate and respect the sisters who are doing well. I just hope those sisters who achieve understand that White men would never date a Black Woman who had nothing. Black men will because it is that Blackness that is our common bond. It the psychology of the oppressed secretly loving the oppressor. Our ancestors are weeping.

Black People continue to receive the poorest health care, even with Black Women having a better education and higher incomes. I wonder how many White men remain with Black Women in their sickness and poor heatlth.

I hope that your series spotlights the Black Love and Unity that Black Women have for Black Men, Black Families and the Black Community. They are our queens and oneday The Quiet Resolution (TQR) will produce better Black Men, Black Women and Black Families.

Much Respect!
One Love, One People, One Goal: Black Empowerment

Charles E. Campbell
http://tqrbe.blogspot.com

African American women: Your response

celeste simmons — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:26:18 GMT

As a breast cancer survivor and an African American, I commend you for stepping out on an issue that is not necessarily in the forefront of the news. I am learning something new everyday about this disease, my self, other survivors and this countrys attitude towards women in general. After getting over the shock and treatment, depression has set in but I am determine to fight it(without drugs) and can see some success! With supportive family and friends, who want to learn more about this disease, I say please continue your specials and reports. We need all the help we can get!

African American women: Your response

Tanya Velasquez, Olympia, Washington — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:34:00 GMT

How can I purchase a DVD copy of this whole series about African American Women??? I teach an anti-bias and cultural diversity class to high school youth. I would like to show them current research and the nightly news holds credibility where outdated text are often questioned. How long with the video clips be on your website??? I live in a town that's predominantly white so these students have very little real experience with folks of color. Anything I can use to dispel stereotypes and myths really helps!

African American women: Your response

Madeline Fontaine, New Orleans, Louisiana — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:45:52 GMT

I just sent you a comment about 20 minutes ago and forgot something: I neglected to add that Geraldine Ferarro, a past presidential runner, has multiple myeloma. She is a great advocate.

African American women: Your response

joe ireland, west sacramento, ca — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:52:55 GMT

Tel Dr. Snyderman that we are all one race, but different ethnicities. Its Anthropology 101 and racist to say otherwise.

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M.A. De veaux — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 02:59:43 GMT

So disappointed. As a woman with breast cancer trying to survive, I thought the piece with Dr. Synderman was thin and disappointing. The research was old and offered very little that was new or informative. Snyderman urged early detection but with no guidance how how to achieve that or what those "buzz" words, early detection really means to the average Black woman. Am I to thank NBC for five minutes on a disease that is the second largest killer of Black woman?
No thanks.
Newengrl55@aol.com

African American women: Your response

Beverly Gatling, Indianapolis IN — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:02:31 GMT

I am very pleased that NBC highlighted our
perspectives. However, I was disappointed with the amount
of time the station devoted to it. These nightly spots were mere ‘snippets”. I was anticipating more than was showed. WOW!! It’s amazing the amount of coverage stations provide to highlight "OJ", "Paris" etc antics. Why did NBC feel obligated to minimize something about us. I was looking forward to sharing this series with my caucasian supervisor and other co-workers whose knowledge of us is limited to disparaging media images but this lacked quantity. This series makes you wonder what extent does America really care about our plight. We are an awesome and often overlooked sector in the success of this entire country. Thank God for Essence, Ebony, Black Enterprise, and other national magazines/ media outlets which continue to fully engage, highlight and advocate on behalf of African American. Thank you NBC; please continue to get our perspective.

African American women: Your response

Patrice L. Guillory, Beaumont, TX — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:20:39 GMT

I'm so thrilled that mainstream news media is finally taking advantage of highlighting the lives of African American women. However, as a young African American woman, I know that we are a diverse group from various backgrounds. I hope this series takes that into account and not homogenize Black women. If we're going to look into the lives of Black women, we must be truthful about it and highlight voices of Black women who have dedicated their lives for the empowerment of Black women such as bell hooks and Patricia Hill Collins aside from the common faces of Oprah Winfrey and Condie Rice. Again, I appreciate your charge in highlighting this topic.

African American women: Your response

Jackie — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:21:30 GMT

I have watched this on line because I can't find it on TV...I received emails and heard about it on the radio...Iwould love to record this...please give me a time that it is aired.

African American women: Your response

TRACY LAMBERT BRISTOL PA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:22:20 GMT

I am glad this forum is being aired by your network and thank your for caring. I must say i am a little disappointed that the segments are not longer than 5 minutes. It still leaves alot of unanswered questions and things that seem important are briefly mentioned and on to the next. Maybe you are testing the waters with this, but maybe for Black History month one year, you could cover these issues in a bit more detail. Thank Brian Willimas for his reporting as well.

African American women: Your response

Julie Griffith, Houston, TX — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:33:23 GMT

OK: I have no problem with interracial dating.

However, if you are are going to show black women that are "oh so happy in love" with their white male counterpart husbands, then at LEAST show black women who are EQUALLY AS HAPPY in healthy relationships with their black, male , professional men. Believe me, those relationships DO exist, you can borrow my Rolodex and find a bunch of them if you like.

You need to show some more balance on this topic. The only thing you showed on black relationships and husbands was MochaMoms and interracial dating.

Could you not find one, professional, healthy, mid-30's w/no kids, MARRIED, African-American couple? Which are somehow rampant in my social circle.

Come on, NBC, you can do better.

African American women: Your response

Valencia, Los Angeles, California — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:08:41 GMT

Rehema, thanks so much for your response to the responses found in e-mails and blogs. If I am not mistaken, Mark also played a significant role in the 2003 March Newsweek Cover Story on Black women and the gender/achievement gap. It was nice to see tonight's story within the series come a little earlier in the newscast. Like my colleague Gina at What About Our Daughters, I commend you and NBC on your efforts.

In the end, I hope that NBC would at least consider doing a 15-20 minute segment on one of your hour to two-long Dateline shows. As you are well aware, content with limited to no context can be dangerous.

I look forward to tomorrow night and be sure to checkout the responses at http://whyblackwomenareangry.blogspot.com.

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Wallye Holloway, New York, NY — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:13:00 GMT

As an African American woman I was extremely excited to see that you were featuring a week-long special on African American women. While we are everywhere, in all segments of society, we are not often recognized as a collective group for our positive achievements. With so many negative portrayals of African American women, it was nice to see us recognized as a powerful group. I was also glad to see you profile one of the serious health issues faced by African American women; this segment should go a long way in educating us and others about the risks we face. I am looking forward to the other segments this week. I am proud to be recognized in this way. Good for you NBC. I would encourage you to focus in the future on other ethnic and racial populations in our society that also deserve attention for their achievements, struggles and points-of-view such as African American men, and Hispanic and Asian men and women. I would also watch those segments with much interest. I've always been a loyal watcher, now I've got another reason to remain so.

African American women: Your response

Rob Garnes, Chicago, IL — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:29:54 GMT

I don't know whether to be amazed or disappointed. As an African-American male of 50 years, it boggles the mind that our race of people still only see in the natural... (even though we are inherently a spiritual people) totaling disregarding the deceptions they are being subjected to in the spirit. This covers every phase of our lives. If our women (since this is the topic of the weeks discussion) would just seek what the Holy Spirit's universal, moral, and individual plan is for their lives, it would smash the deceptions that has been fogging their thought patterns in the form of self-serving quests that never fully satisfy, no matter how much financial success (or lack thereof), or emotional harmony (or lack thereof) they achieve. I will add that African American males suffer from this same dilemna, but I'll address that in due season. Thanks for listening.

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Chantal, Brooklyn NY — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:40:47 GMT

Thank you so much for putting together this series on African American women. It's about time that a major news network addressed our issues in a serious thought provoking way and not limiting it to a 2 minute segment on a weekend show. I've never watched your show before and received an e-mail about the series and I am glad that I tuned it. I am now going to record the rest of the series. The most important take-away I got from the series on breast cancer is the lack of black women participating in trial studies. I am going to look up such studies and consider taking part.

Keep up the good work and I look forward to wathing the rest of the week.

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Maurice Oliver, Portland, OR — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:50:08 GMT

I think it's wonderful to show any person of color in a postitive prospective but I question why NBC would want to follow what seems to be the national trend in the media, of depicting black men as being somehow worthless or less than their female counterparts. If you really wanted to do the Black community a service, this week's special would have highlighted outstanding Black men and their contributions to their community and this nation. White people know the value of Black women, but do they appreciate the vital role Black men play in the overall scheme of things. Do Black people for that matter. Let's show a Black man standing out in front of his own business, not headed to jail, and we will really behind to change the unfortunate statistics you quoted at the beginning of this special presentation.

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A.E. Green, Brooklyn, NY — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 05:14:23 GMT

Am truly pleased that this special has a significant African American presence as to the making of a for prime time airing (commercial considerations and all). Am greatly disappointed that for all the promotion, the segment is way too short. Am much appreciative that each segment's message is clear and direct. Cannot help but think that "African American Women Where We Stand" would have drawn a more diverse audience.

African American women: Your response

Earl Dunovant, New York, NY — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 05:16:13 GMT

Ms. Ellis:

My suggestion is, when you air a show about Black women, make it about Black women, not Black men.

I knew there would be a problem before you appeared when Mr. Williams mentioned a "gender gap that's hard to ignore," then that gap is, statistically, the same as that in the mainstream community. The only thing that bothers me more than ignoring a real issue is casting it as a racial issue when it clearly is not.

It would have been MUCH better to simply highlight sisters' achievements.

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Jennifer Jones — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 05:39:56 GMT

As an African American woman I am flattered by the NBC series because I believe that I am contributing to the advancement of my gender/ethnic group. What concerns me about the series is that it reinforces the image to the broader public that African American men are not pulling their weight in the academic, career and family arenas. Possibly, large cross-sectional population data supports this, but such studies can be fraught with sampling bias, therefore we must interpret the findings with caution. I believe that detailed analysis would uncover the multitude of African American men that are just as competitive as African American women. When I think of the African American males I in my life, they are professional, well educated and responsible. Sadly this is not portrayed by the media. It would be nice if the series could highlight that there are African American men that are exceeding societal expectations.

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Jackie Rawlings Riverside California — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 05:49:57 GMT

It is interesting to see the change as to now young black women get cancer. I have never had a woman in my family have or die from cancer. It's always strange when I have to full out a medical form and the two page questions I have to mark no. I guess it is important to study all races for illnesses. Let's hope a new President can get a Universal Health Plan so all woman can be checked and directed to make the necessary charges to eliminate cancer. We have come a long way with saving many woman but without check up and early attention we see more deaths. Most African Americans women and Spanish woman can't afford even routine check ups so a major health problem is impossible to take care of. I visited Canada and I learned about their health care services which also teaches patients how to have and keep themselves healthy.

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Katyna, Vicenza, Italy — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 08:32:15 GMT

Rehema & NBC thanks so much for doing this series. I'm stationed in Italy, and have received several emails about this series! When it comes on the American channel here I'm either asleep or at work, so I watch it on the internet!

I'm just wondering why you all chose not to include the issue of HIV and AIDS amongst African American women?

Thanks again for featuring us and I have encouraged all of my friends to watch as well!

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Amanda, San Jose, CA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 09:21:01 GMT

I'm happy to see a public dialog about Black women and the issues facing us today. I think that you are doing an excellent job with the media venue available to you. I felt tonights segment about Black women and cancer was informative and well done and I also enjoyed the internet segment on interracial dating. Being in an interracial relationship myself it was nice to have a reminder that I'm not an anomaly in my community.

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Madeline Fontaine, New Orleans, Louisiana — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 10:21:20 GMT

I just sent you a comment about 20 minutes ago and forgot something: I neglected to add that Geraldine Ferarro, a past presidential runner, has multiple myeloma. She is a great advocate.

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Madeline Fontaine, New Orleans, Louisiana — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 10:21:20 GMT

I just sent you a comment about 20 minutes ago and forgot something: I neglected to add that Geraldine Ferarro, a past presidential runner, has multiple myeloma. She is a great advocate.

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TLAP — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:16:00 GMT

I am struggling with major disappointment in this series and it's only day 2. I agree with most of the critiques; it's unfair to talk about Black women's accomplishment in the context of these unintended consquences, especially since they're not our fault. If the goal is to ask about the uneven rewards of Black women's accomplishment than shouldn't the focus be on policies and institutions, as opposed to what you're doing now which sounds more like you're saying that our successes are actually our failures? I too will be blogging on this series at: www.thelastamericanplantation.blogspot.com

African American women: Your response

Tammy Garnes — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:45:16 GMT

THANK YOU for taking the time to develop this series. I can't wait to see the segment on Stay At Home Moms. Mocha Moms has been a lifesaver to me and my "Mocha Sisters" in the San Fernando Valley and after 7 years of being a SAHM, WAHM and Working Mom....I know first hand that this is a true hot button topic in our community. Thanks for covering so many of the issues specific to us and any criticism can only come from those who obviously don't understand how difficult it is to get a SERIES about us on the air during prime time!
Blessings,
Tammy Garnes
www.sfvmm.org

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Lillian Lambert, Richmond, VA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 12:22:29 GMT

I missed the story on Monday dealing with business ownership. As the first African American woman to receive an MBA from Harvard Business School (1969), I am a strong advocate for women business owners, particularly African American women. I owned my business for more than 25 years and continue to serve as a mentor and advisor to business owners. I believe entrepreneurship is the vehicle for us to achieve wealth and power and I encourage it whenever I can.

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Deborah Swindell, Scranton,NC — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 14:46:25 GMT

I am a breast cancer survivor. I am also of the white race. I think that the research money should be spent on a cure for this cancer in all races. I would like to know if the cancer society is doing this research or if a private company. I work hard to raise money for the cancer society. Please know that I am also afraid for my daughter that she might get this cancer. I have friends that are african american women and we work hard that a cure will be found for all cancers and for all races. Thank you for allowing me to voice my opinion.

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Latasha, Indianapolis, Indiana — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:01:41 GMT

As a African American women I am happy that NBC took the initiative to dedicate a whole week to acknowledging African Americian women, however on the down side I wish that it was not just a week. African Americian women should be acknowledged all the time just as other cultures and races are. If we always received the same treatment we would not need a week of recognition. I would also like some of the knowledge about African American women to be positive, surely there is positive information that you can reveal about about African Americans right?

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Shelley Curry, Madison, Wisc. — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:02:06 GMT

Thank you for this series. Black women have often taken issue with stepping forward and allowing attention to be given to them whether negative or positive and have felt that others are more deserving. Your leadership in delivering this series helps us to realize that we are valuable and our issues and needs are relevant to all of society including ourselves.

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Kemba J. New York, NY — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:15:16 GMT

Good effort which comes up short!

All the information stated is OLD news and didn't stir up a real conversation on the topic(s) at hand. What it did do was leave me disgusted that this was the best that NBC could do when addressing the issues of the African American community.

We have to do much better than a 2 min. blurb or afterthought to make something worthwhile.

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Ms. Woo, Grand Rapids, MI — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:08:51 GMT

Thank you Ms. Ellis, NBC and Brian Williams for the series. I pray you will be albe to do more of them

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RJ — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:14:49 GMT

I commend most of the series topics but agree with those that are tired of the availabilty of college educated professional men for relationships being broadcast as a concern just for African American black women.....

Single women in the U.S. of all races have to deal with too many "mama's boys", the negative influence of matchmaking reality shows, hip hop, and the decline in numbers of the college educated male.

Why is the media always focusing on problems in the BLACK community anyway?! Why don't we ever hear about the tragedies of poor whites in trailer parks, coal mining towns or the Appalachian Mountains....hmmm??!! Even better, how are Native Americans being treated on reservations these days? Are the casinos helping?
Why would Mark as a (married? straight?) black male want to bring AGAIN to national attention that there are higher numbers of black females vs. males in college and in professional positions and that black women have to increasingly go out of our race to marry? Does it make you feel better about your position? Just go out and do something in the black community to help young black men before it's too late for them. Don't "air our dirty laundry" and make it even MORE difficult for a professional black women by making black men think we all have to run out and get a white man, or just have babies by ourselves.
Keep more positive African American things on the media forefront, got it?!

Thank you.

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Michelle, Atlanta GA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:19:27 GMT

Wow...What a disappointmenting series! Initially, I was excited about this series, but now, I wish you'd stop airing it. Not only is the reporting of poor quality in terms of information, stating that you are doing an investigative report and then only dedicating two minites to the results of your so-called investigation is an insult to the highest degree. Shame on you Rehema for letting NBC use you this way. Black women are not a monolithic group and to use such a broad stroke to paint us does a huge disservice to each and every one of us. If you ever decicde to focus on black women again in your reporting, please be sure to do a thorough job rather than the half-hearted attempt at reporting that I have observed.

African American women: Your response

Cindie Watkins, Harrisburg, PA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:32:18 GMT

It is upsetting to me, as a Black American woman, to read comments from black men and white women who feel having a special series devoted just to us is "racist" and "sexist."

It is our turn to "shine", so let us "shine!"

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Korrie, Georgia — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:42:41 GMT

I can honestly say that this whole segment appears to be a load of crap and I will no longer be watching. One blurb of focusing on the achievement of African American women and the rest of the week wants to give white America information to lap up on the perials of being a black women so they feel better about themselves. It's disengenious at best, and I really don't think the effort has any good intentions for Black Women. It isn't valient, praiseworthy, or uplifting. It's trash. Thanks for the slap in the face, but from a discerning and conscious person I now full well that this so-called segment is a JOKE at best.

African American women: Your response

KStevens, Dallas TX — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:48:25 GMT

While I think that any program that highlights issues withinour society and how we can solve them - cure cancer, etc.

It boggles my mind continually that this focus is on "African American" women or segmented groups. If we suggested a show on "White Women's" issues, and everyone would be up in arms at the racist show...what about "Ebony Magazine" - should we have an "Ivory" Magazine?

I think the focus on race is skewed. These issues are just as important to white, latin and asian women. NBC - please quit the PC commentary.

African American women: Your response

Shirley Johnson — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:51:37 GMT

How many white women are in college vs the white men? What are the points for all these isolated discussions? Our problems here in the United States have never been "our problems" they have always been our problems. Since we have isolated them we are calling them African American Women series. What about the overall conditions of people? Can we improve upon health care for all people, jobs for the ones who really want and need them? We have a tendency in this country to speak about the problem that exists NOW. The problems exists because of the way things are laid out in this country to be sure that only certain people are talked about in a negative manner (always?). There are as many successful marriages, families, educated people, wise people,caring people as there are the opposite. I am talking about in all ethnic groups. I don't like the singling out of people to pretend (insinuate)that you are going to assist in all the ways that they are not progressing. We (all of us know all the problems) what we need is someone to begin working on ALL the solutions to all the problems. We can only do that by telling the TRUTH. When the educational issues are addressed properly (teaching mind, body and spirit) we are going to go someplace. What really keeps me encouraged is that African American people (women and men) have far surpassed everyone (positively) in everything in spite of everything. When the injustices continue then the African American (males and females) continue to roll up their sleeves and still progress. This is what needs to be studied. How is it that a group of people who continually are bashed, continue to keep on going? Of course, there are areas that need improvement. How about reporting on what it takes to save our brothers and sisters in this human race? It takes righteous people who have the best interest of all people in mind before they do a weeks worth of reporting. Report on everybody so that we can have a gauge as to how good or how bad we are all doing. Statistics should be gathered on women not African American women. Then we need to know the numbers on all of them. That way we will know if it is something we need to do other than just see comparative numbers. After the numbers are in...what do we do so that everyone digs in and helps the situations that need to be helped. That's what I would like to see.

African American women: Your response

A. Braggs, Cincinnati, OH — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:23:49 GMT

Dear Rehema Ellis,

There is part of me that really appreciates the focus on the accomplishments of black women, but the other part can’t ignore NBC’s quest for the “consequences” of those achievements. You are in the spotlight, and that does demand more responsibility than just reporting on a topic that isn’t reported on often. The way your reporting is done is important, and this is what I see in many of the responses. It isn’t so much about the lack of reporting on black men, but the inequality dynamic you have setup between black men and women. Even the health piece was dripping with racialized biology. So-called scientific measurements of race and ethnicity aimed at showing biologically based differences have repeatedly been shown to be unreliable. It is also racist, and works against the goal to get people into the doctor for checkups and treatment. There are many studies that document the extensive and numerous disparities faced by black Americans in healthcare access and use. Supporting different treatments for different races/ethnic groups instead of addressing social and institutional roadblocks to proper prevention and treatment is a huge step backwards. You need to really listen to what people are saying, take responsibility and do better. Doing these things doesn’t necessarily require a quick comeback.

African American women: Your response

AVLittrell New Jersey — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:38:34 GMT

Thank you for this series - I hope that it will be rebroadcast. I had a radio show which discussed relationships. One week it just focused in on women and the next week just men. During the week for women they called in and expressed their suggestion, grievences, and opions. During the week for men - no one called - which is a big part of the problem in relationships, family and community - they just don't show up! Everyone is speaking for them, around them and protect them -but when they were given the opportunity to speak and express for themselves about themselves - a no show!

African American women: Your response

Marilyn Kirschenbaum Des Plaines IL — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 19:56:31 GMT

I'm so sorry I missed any segment you had regarding breast cancer BUT this is a wonderful opportunity for you to talk about the most aggressive form of breast cancer which is inflammatory breast cancer! (a/k/a IBC) In many conversations with African American young and older women, I have been told that this is a cultural issue. THIS IS the time .. the perfect time for you to talk about IBC which is more prevalent in African American women. ( according to statistics, which we know are outdated) Hopefully you will do a follow up piece on breast cancer noting all the symptoms. Mammograms do NOT usually detect IBC which is classified as Stage IIIb .. sad to say that ibc is in a class of its own and the only early detection of this insidious disease is KNOWING THE SYMPTOMS OF IBC which CAN save lives. The symptoms vary .. Rash or what appears as a bruise or insect bite on breast that doesn't go away with creams and salves, a pitted look on a part of ones breast, swollen breast which mimics mastitis which is a benign breast infection,inverted nipple/discharge, one breast unusually larger than the other and warm to the touch. On a personal note my daughter was dx with ibc when she was 36 years old and ten years later she continues to do remarkably well. Our slogan at our Foundation is Prompt diagnosis and immediate treatment is vital for survival. When I've talked about this with women and men their first thought is it's so frightening but then they get angry .. "I thought I was an educated person, why didn't I ever hear about this?" Why didn't I know YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A LUMP TO HAVE BREAST CANCER? Thank you for what you are doing .. YOU are making a positive difference in many lives. For more information please go to www.komotv.com/ibc
Marilyn Mare Kirschenbaum, Vice President, Inflammatory Breast Cancer ADVOCACY and Research Foundation, www.ibcarf.com

African American women: Your response

Gale, Red Bank, New Jersey — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:06:44 GMT

WOW!!! It is about time that a major news organization decided to admit that we are out here and we count. The series thus far has been good however there is so much more to being an African-American woman.

African American women: Your response

Momo — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:48:35 GMT

Great show. But if you are going to make a show about Black Women, and talk about their relationships please just be fair and look at all relationships --not just black women/white men. That is just unfair and biais to black men. There are many good black men out there that are in good relationships with good black women.

African American women: Your response

Barbara Robinson Springfield MA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:56:13 GMT

Thank you for this series it is an eye opener i pray that you will continue to have more series like this in the future. shows like this will help to increase awarness for all women.

African American women: Your response

rhesa, san francisco,ca - atlanta,ga (yes both) — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 22:33:51 GMT

the diversity among african-american women is evident in the range of comments posted in response to your series. good for you! I applaud your taking the risk to put journalism back into the nightly news - an ambitious undertaking to say the least.

i agree with comments that point to a lack of representation of opinions of african american women activists and scholars, as well as the focus on old, largely negative, issues. There is so much to tell that is positive and new.

perhaps the interests generated by your series will motivate similar series on all of the ethnicities that make up the great american experiment. you know there really is no ethnic majority in this country when all of us are asked to speak proudly about the upbringings and migrations tied to the ethnicity of our ancestors. i am always amazed when i see statistics showing every ethnicity hyphenated with ""-american and how the percentages of each make up the U.S. population.

i think you would generate the same level of interest for episodes headlining each ethnic group. you could say you just started in alphabetical order.

(or you could say... ...the uniqueness in the african american story is tied to the fact that many of us only know the continent of our origins, for this group, our hyphenated history, creates a reality in which our origins are in the culture created here - and that story, is a great story, given the impressive statistics you shared in your opening episode).

thank again

African American women: Your response

Columbia South Carolina — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 23:08:03 GMT

This is all by design for the destruction of the black family. The family is the foundation and building block of every civilized and even primitive society. The racism against African American males and their displacement by the white power structure has been systamatic since slavery. It is by design that the school system is not educating blacks particularly, black males especially. This fact affects the relationships with black females who are able to achieve educational and social success at a higher rate because they are less of a threat to the white male dominated power structure. We need to exit our children from these public schools where white teachers are bent on criminalizing our males. I know because I have three and I have seen what they attempt to do--keep them out of honors programs,not teach them, subjigate them and label them so as to impead their educational accomplishments--keep them down at all cost. Now a few of you stupid black folks are ging to say" that is not happening to my son." And your son is 1 in 7; and what affects your son affects others. One of those who didn't get educated may rob your son at gun point cause he can't read and get a job. Instead these black churches spending all their money on buildings, they need to stop the holocaust and destruction of the African American American Male which will soon become extinct. We are too dumb and blind to read the handwriting on the wall. It is so clear. People hunt deer and animals where I live in SC without a liscense and none of them are going to jail( Micheal Vick).They just get slapped with a fine. Wacked our please wake up black folks before it is too late.

African American women: Your response

Bette Fay , Illinois — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 23:22:44 GMT

Thank You NBC and all those involved in this program. Tuesday's episode on Breast Cancer was good. No program of this magnitude is long enough but, if this turns the light bulb on for only one woman, then it has been worth it. All women need to be aware of breast cancer, and I feel all female during puberty and older should have the same chance if family traits warrent. Any health issue that helps is for the good.

African American women: Your response

Pamela, Albany, GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:01:16 GMT

Thanks so much for this wonderful series. It really exposed what we as black women have to endure andhave endured for years. It also shows how resilient we are, our faith, our sisterhood spirit and the willingness to go on in spite of.....

I look forward to the remaining parts. God bess you all.

African American women: Your response

Steve Golden, Magnolia, TX — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:03:14 GMT

A very interesting report tonight on the percentage of female African American women who never marry. I wonder the effect this really has on those children who are raised in one parent homes. While I believe those women are doing all they can, nothing can replace the other parent that needs to be there for both support of the mother, but to help guide the children.

Great report....thank you.

African American women: Your response

Mal — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:04:01 GMT

Thank you so much for the series on African American women. I have enjoyed each night. There are always going to be different opinions and those that disapprove or want more. I think it is wonderful that we are getting a part of the spolight.

African American women: Your response

paul jones — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:04:05 GMT

Its not african american if you were born and raised in america.White people do not call themselves,german-american,italian-american ,etc....,if 3 or 4 generations were raised in america.Were either white or black american.If you are african american then speak your native tongue if you can.

African American women: Your response

Mythy, Wilton, WI — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:04:27 GMT

You should have gave the reason WHY so many black kids are in one parents families. Reason: black males are incarcerated...being housed at my expense along with their bastard kids.

African American women: Your response

Jackie, West Chester, PA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:04:29 GMT

I think the series has been great so far and I'm so pleased to see it. I hope this is one of many series to be run on this precious topic. Well done!

African American women: Your response

J. Huber — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:05:40 GMT

Brian:

I strongly object to your closing statement inferring that black women have a tough choice between Hillary Clinton and Barak Obama ! Since when are they the only candidates and, oh by the way, there are black women that intend to vote Republican. Remember that other polital party. How biased of you !

African American women: Your response

Lois McLaughlin, Philadelphia, PA. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:06:30 GMT

What a wonderful, uplifting, series. As a professional, 44 and a half, African American Female, I am thrilled that someone is finally telling MY story on national news. You have touched on all the issues that are discussed by my friends at all of our gatherings.

Bravo NBC...Bravo!

African American women: Your response

Cristal, Queens, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:10:47 GMT

Rehema, I thank you for examing such needed topics in the Africaan-American community. I would have loved more time spent on the issue, however just your graceful approach is deeply appreciated.

As an African-American woman, I thank you for putting the issues we face out there regardless of the time comstraints. It opens the doors to all and gets EVERYONE thinking about the trials and tribulations that we face.

African American women: Your response

Kim Berry, St. Louis, MO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:12:03 GMT

I am a single 32 year old African American female who falls in the 40% of African American women that live in the US and have never been married. I just finished watching the series tonight on NBC about African American women and relationships. I applaud the women who bravely spoke about their situations which are all too common in our community. Even though I have two degrees, a stable career and live independent of my family, I'm still passed up by the eligible African American men who fall in the 30-40 age range. At times it can be frustrating to go on listening to my biological clock tick louder and louder, but I continue to keep the faith and know that in God's time , I will have a family of my own!

African American women: Your response

VM, Montclair, NJ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:12:34 GMT

Excellent series and hope to see more of this in the near future. Clearly 5 mintues is not enough time, but it's a stat. A monthly series, would be very beneficial to not only African American Women, but women in general. Knowledge is power!

African American women: Your response

herbert hawkins 8913 river road petersburg va. 23803 — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:12:38 GMT

lades I have just one thing to say put god first in all you do and much will be added unto you. this is not only for you but for us all. IN gods sigth it is not our color god loves us all. so please give god a chance. god is love.

African American women: Your response

Dr. Michael Booker, Nashville, Tennessee — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:13:17 GMT

I think that African American women look for so many characteristics in a man. I am successful, African American, stable, divorced, no baby mama drama(we are friends)a father, educated--4 degrees, over 6 feet tall, and am told that I am good looking. Where are the women who can still treat me like me? I long for a woman who is successful, articulate, self sufficient, loving, willing to work at a relationship, and close in proximity to my age (44). Some women are bound by geographical locations and are literally married to their careers. Divorcing seems to be the norm. No one wants to work at the relationship, accept the fact that we are not perfect, and that two successful African Americansliving like the Huxtables is indeed attainable.Signed...A Southern Gentleman in Tennessee

African American women: Your response

P. Green, Atlanta, GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:14:07 GMT

NBC you now have a loyal viewer from this day forward. I grew up on CBS news and I am 46 years old and in the last year with the shake ups there I never could get that feeling of wanting to watch since Dan Rather left. Therefore I was a wanderer, still a news junkie though. I am happy to say, I will wander no more as you have opened up a dialogue that needed to be opened for so long: the plight of African-American women. Please continue to push the envelope which goes against status quo reporting and report the NEWS and not frivolity. In the process, you will educate and help save lives. Kudos to NBC, Mark Whitaker, Brian Williams, and Rehema Ellis. You have totally WON me over. See ya tomorrow night!

African American women: Your response

Bobbi M., Orlando, FL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:15:24 GMT

MSNBC, thank you so very much for this series! There have been snippits of information on some of these subjects, but yours - by far- is the best yet! Although I can relate to ALL of the issues you have mentioned so far this week, I especially liked the one tonight on "Relationships."

It is so very hard for Black women in America when it comes to finding Black men who we we would consider a good match. Part of this is because most well educated Black men who are achievers prefer women of other ethnic groups...almost any other ethnic group. I believe it somehow makes them feel validated. The other thing, I believe, is that America is more accepting of a Black man with women of other ethnic groups than it is of Black women with men of other ethnic groups. Even Black men will hassle Black women when they see them with White men, or men of another ethnic group. It is truly sad, because in a way, Black women are still in bondage when it comes to relationships. We still have to deal with people (even of our own race)who feel it is their right to tell us who we should have relationships with.

I am a 50ish Black, divorced female, and I am finding it extremely difficult to meet men who don't either act like I am "hard up" for a man, or who acts like I am "easy" if I take an interest in a man who is not Black. I hope someday these issues will no longer be an issue.

African American women: Your response

Angela E. Poole, Chicago, IL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:15:43 GMT

This is an excellent series! It provides a glimpse into the lives of African American women, the issues that we are facing and how we are handling them. Frankly, for NBC nightly news to feature African American women on its national broadcast in a seven part series is a very positive and bold step forward. Thanks.

African American women: Your response

Annette Hutchins, Baltimore, Maryland — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:16:44 GMT

As an African American woman well educated, this targeted my feelings in my everyday life. This was a tremendous series and well done in the brief period of time that you have. I am doing research at Johns Hopkins University on Black women's voting patterns and issues they are concerned about. This series was great along with the sensitive and tremendous coverage that Brian William did on Hurricane Katrina.

African American women: Your response

Jacquie Williams, Cape Coral, FL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:16:59 GMT

As a faithful watcher of the NBC evening news and a fan of Rehema Ellis, I have enjoyed the segments about African-American women. Tonight's stats on the percentage of African-American children growing up in a single-parent home floored me. I've been married for 13 years and have a 11 year old daughter. I count my blessings everyday. My daughter is a minority, not only in the color of her skin but on the status of her family. I see it at school, soccer practice, and church choir. She is always 1 or 2 of the group who come from a two-parent home. I came from a two-parent home and it all I'v ever known. For me, I couldn't image being a single parent raising a child by myself. I salute the women who do it. I, as a mother, am preparing my daughter for a life of being a Black woman in America. I just hope that what my mother instilled in me, I can instill in her and she to to family.

African American women: Your response

Tammy J, Dallas TX — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:19:06 GMT

my question is what's next? I appreciate and thank both Rehema and Mr. Whitaker for their vision and initiative in creating this week long segment, but I am very interested in knowing what's planned (if anything) for future segments? Any follow ups? Another segment highlighting other issues not coverd this week?

African American women: Your response

Tee M. S. Metro Atlanta — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:19:51 GMT

I've been watching. I am glad someone has noticed.
The series tonight was dead on. Black men ARE afraid of strong, independent, intelligent, confident black women.
Take it from me a Black woman with 2 masters and working on a JD. Men literally run, when they find out I have a brain. As long as I'm the cute girl, they buzz around but let it be known that I'm not only cute but I am smart, confident, and on my job I am the HNIC. Make-Way cause black men are out of there.

African American women: Your response

Scottie Lee Gray, Pickens S.C. 29671 — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:21:48 GMT

Hello,
My name is Scottie Gray, I live in Pickens S.C.
After veiwing your segment on african american woman,
I was shocked to hear, that single african american woman were adopting children.
Myself and my live in, girlfriend ( of ten years ),
raising three children, ( boys ), with an average income, of $59,000 dollors per year, have been told by persons in foster child care, That we could'ent adopt any children, because we were'nt married.

My question to you is this.

How can a single woman, ( of any race ), adopt a child, when we have been turned down, more than once,
because we are not married, and we live in a mobile home, ( a 28' by 48' , 4 bedroom, two bath home. )

Please tell me what you think about this, and let me now thank you,for your time and your thought's, on this.
Thanks again,
Scottie Lee Gray

African American women: Your response

Bob Dolan, Cary, N.C. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:21:50 GMT

Hoping this comment is not irrelevant, but being a white male, I am unfamiliar with the term " mocha mom". A definition or explanation would be much appreciated.

African American women: Your response

Carlisia Sapp, Tampa, Fl — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:23:01 GMT

As a young African American woman I was very excited to hear that a major news program was actually going to dedicate a whole week to the state of Black women. Very often issues concerning us aren’t broadcast on a national level, so I was extremely pleased. I felt the topics covered were very interesting and informative. The story covering Black women and breast cancer was very alarming. I never knew that breast cancer research was based entirely on white women and there was very few research done on Black women. Thank you for looking out for us and keep up the good work Rehema.

African American women: Your response

Priscilla Brown Tulsa, Ok. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:24:50 GMT

I appreciate NBC and their efforts to air topics of importance to everyone. I am disappointed about the limited air time and limited information given to these topics important to African American women; I hope these responses will prove there is an interest and a need for this information. To all my sisters, stay strong and keep the faith! Thank you Ms. Ellis & NBC

African American women: Your response

Sheila P., Clearwater, FL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:27:05 GMT

Thank you very much for this series. Please remember it's the evening news folks, so the topics have to be brief. But even two minutes is enough to educate someone and start a discussion . My sister passed from breast cancer one year after diagnosis. She had mammograms each year and also had recently had an ultrasound. The lump became big enough for her to feel in her self-exam, then she was able to convince the doctors to do a bioposy. Even with this family history and other triggers, it is very difficult to get insurance companies to pay for preventive measures, such as breast MRIs. So please remember to do your monthly self exams in addition to your mammograms.

African American women: Your response

Rhonda Johnson, Austell GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:29:36 GMT

I would like to thank you for the series focusng on black women. I am a black, single parent of three children. Recently, I made a decision to have my children watch the evening news with me. Afterwards we discuss how the events/issues mention on the show effect us. It was not until this series that my children started to have a serious dialogue.
Please make this series a permanent part of the evening news. There are so many more topics to touch on. I would like America to see black women in our REAL image--smart, strong, responsible, and innovative.

African American women: Your response

Brooklyn, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:30:31 GMT

I agree that this discussion needs to be ongoing, kudos to NBC for making this attempt. I noticed a previous post that really speaks to the ignorance that exists in this country today. WHY do we need these reports? Maybe b/c black women die at a higher rate from breast cancer due to misinformation or not being informed at all. Not to mention the HIV/AIDS pandemic which is our #1 Killer in the wealthiest country in the world. White women have reports affecting their health..it's called the news. Black women are rarely interviewed during these reports and concerns about our sorely lacking. Black women are almost an enigma in this country mostly portrayed as angry with bad attitudes. Or as one dimensional, sex objects in these horrible music video/movie industry. I'm glad there is finally a mainstream media outlet that is shedding some light on our struggles.

African American women: Your response

Callie Hill, Chicago, Illinos — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:37:15 GMT

The broadcast on African-American women and men really resonated with me. I hold the Ph.D. and I serve as a department chairperson at a metropolitan university. Comments by the three women, who addressed some of the very same issues I am confronting as a professional women, let's me know that I am not alone on this issue. Ebony magazine addressed the issue of African-American professional women dating men working in a blue collar field. Many of the women portrayed in that article indicated they ere in a very loving relationship with their partners. I believe it is the quality of the human being and not necessarily whether or not he is a professional. This was a timely and informative broadcast. I would like to see an hour long broadcast on this very same subject. Thank you

African American women: Your response

Danita, Detroit, MI — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:37:59 GMT

Thank you Rehema to you and your network for allocating time to highlight some of the aspects of living as a African American women in America, which at times has its challlenges. We are often, I think, the least understood and, at times, the least valued members of this society. I enjoyed tonights coverage on relationships. Unfortunately, I am a part ot the statistics --- educated and unmmarried at 40-something and considering adoption (like you have done). Keep up the good work and thank you again.

African American women: Your response

Joshua L. Lazard, Atlanta, Georgia — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:39:22 GMT

As a 23 year old graduate student who attended two HBCU's (my alma mater as a result of Hurricane Katrina) I am happy to see a report done specifically to attempt to address the concerns of African American women. I appreciate you, Ms. Ellis for finding the intestinal fortitude to deal with such a polarizing topic. Because the African American community lacks the media outlet needed to fully address our concerns, I believe that we have accomplished something by getting this far. However, we should not settle for just this--there is work yet to be done.

To address Wednesday night's piece, I'm just writing this note to let African American women know that educated, young black men, do exist. But as far as my context is concerned, I believe that too often black women are looking for this perfect, idealized man, that maybe doesn't exist--or even still caught up in the thug imagery that is displayed through other media outlets as the image of what a "Real Man" is.

Again, I appreciate seeing strong black women doing what they themselves deem necessary to survive.

African American women: Your response

Monica and Eldridge Anderson, Ithaca, New York — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:41:06 GMT

Ms.Ellis,
Shame on you for perpetuating the myth that black males are excessivly discussed in the media, compared to black women. Its a fact that when the media does choose to recognize black males, it usually involves guns, drugs and gangs. As a previous blogger wrote, I too can give you a new rolodex to find success black males. My surgeon husband has plenty, and that would be the man thats making me dinner as we speak. M.Anderson

African American women: Your response

Kimberly B.,Snellville, GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:42:38 GMT

However minimal, or abbreviated the segments may have been, they happened. I am proud that they have been aired. Anything that steers clear of the degradation we regularly see in the media is a step in the right direction. Look at the dialogue this has created. Look at the passion this has stirred. We must move beyond talking and move into action to save our girls & boys. Do we need the media to validate who we are? Never lose sight of who you are. We are strong, intelligent,intuitive, ingenuitive, insatiable creatures created in the magnificent sight of God. We should not need confirmation nor validation from a nightly news program to insight this needed spark in our communities.

African American women: Your response

Gina, Alexandria, Virginia — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:42:39 GMT

Thank you Rehema Ellis. I appreciate your work and the idea that NBC Nightly has even taken the valuable network time to spotlight Black Women. We are a complex mix of personalities and aspirations. We are also greatly misunderstood. About 10 years ago, I was told by my manager who is a Black Woman, that no Black man would want a woman with a doctoral degree. I was apalled by this remark and felt that it was quite ignorant and small minded. But now it appears to be true. I am still hopeful for a solid, spiritual relationship with a secure BLack man. But I won't wait too much longer. I'm now open to other races, nationalities and ethnicities. Life is too short to pine away with bated breath for that one special Black man who, in all probability, doesn't exist.

African American women: Your response

Adrienne, Chicago IL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:42:57 GMT

I appreciate your series on African American women; however, like many others who have posted comments, I have been slightly disappointed by the fact that in order to focus on the achievements of African American women, your stories have tended to portray African American men in a negative light. I am currently a doctoral candidate pursuing a degree in clinical psychology with a husband who is an attorney at a major law firm, and I would appreciate more positive images of African American relationships and families in the news media. I was raised in a two-parent, African American household, as were the majority of my friends and extended family members. Nevertheless, Wednesday’s story seemed to focus mostly on one side of the story on the relationships of African American women. It would have been nice to see African American women who have had successful marriages, because I know many career-oriented African American women who have been successful at marrying similarly career-oriented African American men. Historically black colleges and universities may be a place to start. It seems as though these stories are rarely told.

Thanks again for your series and I hope this will not be the last one of its kind.

African American women: Your response

Denise Marcia, Nashville, TN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:44:20 GMT

Kudos to you and the NBC team for highlighting our lives and presenting statistics that confirm your comments. Although the segments are short they are informative and necessary to not only us as African Americans but to all intelligent people. Presenting articulate, professional, and beautiful women speaks volumes to the world-at-large that we are more than our issues; we are survivors! I appreciate the platform as well as your coverage.

African American women: Your response

Happily married, educated, employed, Black mother — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:44:40 GMT

I was so impressed when I saw the soundbites advertising this special. I tuned in, excited, expecting to learn, identify, and have a sense of pride in being an African-American Female. I have watched two segments and I am still trying to determine how I feel about them.

I am a 37-year-old woman who is married to a loyal, hard-working African-American man who supports our three children as well as myself. I personally am finishing my degree while working a demanding, 50 hour work week. I am the ONLY African-American female in my management position with my employer. (There are approximately 45 or 50 of my peers in the company.)

My father and brother are married, college-educated fathers who care for their children. (My brother actually has custody of his three children from a previous marriage.) My uncle-in-law happens to be a white male. He has been married to my aunt for probably 30 years.

I guess I was looking for something more along the lines of the challenges that African-American woman face in society as a whole, not necessarily in relationship or comparison to African-American males.

I am going to continue watching this series because if it is not watched, the ratings will decrease, which implies that America is not interested in anything that is not blonde-haired and blue-eyed. I am grateful that NBC found us worthy enough to do a week-long series on.

Maybe now we can get media coverage in other areas. For instance, maybe we can have a week-long series on the injustices that are taking place that the media ignores, like Jenna Six, prejudicial sentencing, hate-crimes, and nooses in the workplace. We only hear abut these issues through media-outlets soley catering to people of color.

I really do appreciate your focus. We are counting on you, Ms. Ellis, to let the country know that we are a happy, proud and formidable group of women.

African American women: Your response

Kimberly Virdure-King, Atlanta Georgia — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:45:28 GMT

My husband and I were floored by the piece on African American women's relationships. What a sad misrepresentation of African American families.

I know this series is not meant to be about the men - so why focus on how they are "intimidated by educated women" or how divorcing them is "the best thing you could have done".

It seems a positive portrayal of an African-American man, such as a devoted husband, is viewed as taking something away from this series about African American women. Yet negative comments about the men are dominating the conversations...

I am an African-American woman, married to an African-American man - I have yet to see much of my experience represented in this series.

What would make African-American families headed by married couples newsworthy?

I'm surrounded by African American two-parent families. I was raised in one. It's not abnormal. Wouldn't this series be the appropriate place to highlight married African Americans who are raising their children and enjoying life - together?

African American women: Your response

Rosemary Victory — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:49:57 GMT

In watching tonight's broadcast, I could not help but wonder what is the ratio of men to women and does that have some part to play in the numbers we are seeing. Not only in black women with children, but white as well? What lessons are the children learning from their life experience? Will they make the same mistake as their fathers and remain absent from the family?

In 1970 I did a research paper for my civics class on illegitimate births in the 1920 vs 1968. The numbers were higher for 1920 than 1968. (No, I do not still have the paper.)Is there any way to determine if these are cyclic behaviors of mankind?

Rosemary V., Georgia

African American women: Your response

C. Cook, Flower Mound, Texas — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:50:11 GMT

After scanning thru these blogs and reading so many that state the segment should be longer, perhaps you should expand it by presenting this series on Dateline NBC. The series provides for longer segments which it appears many would like to see. Just my two cents.

African American women: Your response

Waterworks, Greenbelt, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:50:54 GMT

I am particularily glad the series is being aired. I think it will speak to a lot of the dynamics in the African American community that sometimes are not discussed as well as those that are mis-interpreted by main stream society. Tonight's segment - education and relationships - was not surprising although it did cause me think about the impact of these statistics on the dynamics that happen within the community of African American women ... as well as the other communities at large. It definitely has a rippling regardless of whether we choose to see it or not. Looking forward to the rest of the series.

African American women: Your response

Latrice, Alexandria Virginia — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:52:41 GMT

I am aware that NBC nightly news may be focused towards perhaps a different age range, but I think tonights segment about relationships would have been appealing to a slightly younger group of African-American women if there was a little bit more emphasis put on the dating aspect as well as meeting men. Or even maybe exploring the opinions of interracial relationships among African American women. I know the segment is limited, just a thought.

African American women: Your response

Al, Rhode Island — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:53:39 GMT

Good Evening – I hate to admit I have not seen every segment, but as a professional African-American man I have to say these segments are great. Although I have not married “that one”, I have met some great African-American women. Being raised in the south, I know that an African-American woman is the true backbone of a family.

What concerns me about your segment is that it implies a crisis among African-American women, when truly there is a crisis in general among all American families. Once the teenagers of the 1960’s we find ourselves now parents of young adults, and some even grandparents. It goes without saying our African-Americans statistics are not in our favor. These facts may not be critical, unless we did not learn from and take with us the harsh events of the 1960’s and early 1970’s. These events affect us daily, and I tell you these events, witness first hand, are haunting.

TV shows, DVD’s, and books teach us how to parent, how to love, how to live, & etc., but why? Are we as a whole so distracted by the profits of life, damaged by the events of our childhood, and/or suffering our rebellion against the teaching(s) of our parents that we can not love and respect each other? The complexity of our society does not allow us to point a finger at one cause, but it allows us to have many resources to change “our” world. The question is will we still remain who we are?

To my beautiful sisters…keep your head-up; I am proud to be a product of one of you. Although my search for that one has been frustrating, as I have found many tainted by what has been done to them by African-American men, I know you are out there!

Regards,
ALD

African American women: Your response

Terri Watts Houston, Texas — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:56:27 GMT

Disappointed with the topic on African American women and men. There was an emptiness, glossed over with it's okay to live with a man, have children without a commitment of marriage. Okay, a marriage fails. But is failure a substitute to still not live with morals? If 16% of white women marry, and 70% of black women have children out-of-wedlock, then that says first, there is not a moral expectation for the black man to marry the black woman by the black man or woman. Second, it validates a certain level of disrespect amongst African American men and women toward their race. Third, divorce happens when there is no forgivness and understanding in the environment. Why not show statistics of how much more advanced a race can become when marriage is first, then children, verses having children and "shacking." It shows a desparate leap for validation, acceptance and an appearance of further debasing a race who can't seem to "get it together." The rise in black women conceiving children without marrying is not a statistics I care to be included in (stereotyped) by others as being an acceptable form of living for a race of people. When are we going to stop and expect more when it comes to morality and values. When are we going to respect ourselves more. An unbalanced portrait of the black woman and morality.

African American women: Your response

Lillie McMichael, NYC — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:56:33 GMT

Thank you for this series - especially the segment on breast cancer. I lost a good friend to breast cancer recently and I often wonderful if she could have done more to get screening. Thanks also for not bashing black males. The second generation of males in my family are college educationed (3 nephews) and soon my son will also - May 2008.
Hats off to Rehema and NBC Nightly News for this series.

African American women: Your response

Michelle Ferguson, Yongsan, Korea — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:59:32 GMT

This series is right on time for me. I'm stationed in Korea and as I was leaving for work there was an slight depression that tried to enter my soul. But your series came on and brought a reassurance of a decision that I had recently made. I've choosen to no longer settle for less than I desevre. Leaving a relationship that I saw going in the wrong direction(even though it was leading to marriage) was my first step. It was disappointing to see the numbers on African-American women not married. But the numbers are true. Also, the portion on raising the children in a single parent household really hit home. I'm 32 and a single mother of 3 and I'm in the military. I just know that my children deserve the best and that begins with the best of me. How can I bring true happiness into their lives if I allow myself to be trapped in a unhappy state. I'm so proud of us as African-American women and even though sometimes I get discouraged with the state of African-American men I know that there are so many more that have, can, and will take us by the hand and lead the way. We as women can't always look back waiting but drive on to push our passions to the for front.

African American women: Your response

Veronica J. Holcomb — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:03:29 GMT

I too have been disappointed with this series. Rehema, tonight you said to your critics that there is more than one story which describes the African American Woman. Unfortunately, you have not told it. I've watched three episodes and one has no sense of the number of black women who have successful careers and are happily married. African American women are leaders in their workplaces, communities and the church but you've chosen to exacerbate sterotypical perceptions.

Tomorrow, you'll focus on "how we vote". I expect it to be very predictable. Why not discuss African American women who support Republicans - now that's another story.

African American women: Your response

Vicki, C. Golden, CO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:13:10 GMT

Being single, 55, and white I feel that the white men think they are god's gift if they work or not...until you give them their own medicine. They just don't have time for date - unless you're cooking.

African American women: Your response

Marcia Messado, Brooklyn, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:14:42 GMT

That black boys are not truly experiencing what it means to be in a whole family, manifests itself in black boys not knowing how to be a man. Now before we get defensive; let me praise black mothers who are forced to become self-sacrificing supermoms, and by the grace of God,carrying the family, where few cared. But, truth being told, we now see the by product; black boys who've only had the female influence, who are crying out for black male mentors/influences. And yes, we black mothers are aware of the pain these boys go through trying to find themselves; too often in the confines of a jail cell. So, when I hear the stats that 70% of black families are headed up by single moms; my sould cries out to God, hoping and praying that the black family can once again become what it once was--a whole family unit. More important my prayers are for every black boy; that God will send them a black male, who'll care to share some quality time, helping that child to become, what it truly means to be a black man.

My question now is addressed to the black male. Can you reach out to a black boy? Can you mentor 1-2 boys for 2-4 hours a week? Wouldn't it be great to have a black boy see you in action? How about in your social/business networks? No special qualifications are required. Your presence and influence are all he needs.

African American women: Your response

Kreeoh Creme, louisville, ky — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:15:14 GMT

When I was in college in the 1970's,,, I would asked the question, "When there are more women being educated than men, how do you expect to find a male to take care of you??? The ratio continued to get larger as time progressed... Is it so hard to beleive that Black women are buying into the idea that Black men aren't worth marrying???

Black women are being uplifted with dipolmas and degrees... While Black men are being systematically taken down socially... We are not afraid of the educated,,, money-making sisters... we just refuse to endure addition abuse that comes with the previledge of being with you,,, because you make the money...

When a single parent makes a decision that effects the household,,, that decision is final... But,,, given a spousal relationship,,, so often resistance is the order of the day... Now you arm yourselves with family court...

The media portrays interracial partners with Black females as comedy,,, but Black males as drama... Excuse me,,, TRAGEDY...

It is by design that y'all make the money and run... The Brothers go to jail,,, or die by the gun...

African American women: Your response

A. Fox-Glendale, AZ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:16:52 GMT

I applaud NBC for trying. I have to say the pieces are really just too short and don't tell us anything we don't already know, so I'm guessing that this foray into our lives is for people who have no clue what we are all about. I would have like to have seen something concerning our location on the pay scale (still at the bottom), how many of us are in boardrooms and how we still have two strikes against us in corporate America. I would like to know too, why it is that some white males are still adverse to acting as mentors to African American women who want to get ahead in business. Hopefully you'll expand these vignettes into a two hour special or something like that so you can really go in depth and tell our story and explain where we stand. I'll look forward to it.

African American women: Your response

H.V. Bennett, Suitland, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:16:57 GMT

I applaud NBC for primetime attention given to REAL issues affecting a huge segment of the American population. I've been watching the series and tonight's installment on black women and relationships and single motherhood hit very close to home. My girlfriend and I spent over an hour last night addressing this similar topic. This is a piece I wrote recently addressing this and how it might affect my teen son.

SATURDAYS AT THE BARBER by H.V. Bennett

Seems like I've been a single mother now for more years than I can remember,
Giving birth to a male child, my warmest memory of that cold day in November.
And over time, he's missed many special moments that a son should only share with his father,
But perhaps none more special than Saturdays At The Barber.

My little boy was on my lap for his first haircut when he turned one,
That barber's chair was a special rite of passage and tradition.
And as I scanned the room full of adults and children I couldn't help but see,
At least half were women, who, for whatever reason, sat with their sons, just like me.

What will I teach my boy about a nan's place in the home,
When he looks around our dwelling place and realizes there are none?
When is the right time to explain the actions of his father and me,
That altered God's plan concerning the family?

Though living apart, as parents, we must do what we say and say what we mean,
And work, if we can, to resolve our differences to bring our child up as a team.
For while our disobedient behavior may have been flawed,
"This child is my creation and I don't make mistakes," saith the Lord.

In his life he'll be faced with bad influences and tempting temptations,
So "woman up!" and do all that you can to strengthen his spiritual foundation.
Teach him to know right from wrong, that will help him have a clear conscience,
To make his "no" mean "no" when so-called friends approach him with nonsense.

Expose him to male role models in and out of his family as much as you can,
The main focus is not on his becoming a good parent, but laying a foundaiton for his becoming a good man.
You can be friendly, but your job's not his friend; you're his mother, not his father,
And one day when it's his turn, hopefully he and his son will share that Saturday At The Barber.

African American women: Your response

Sandee Smith, Richmond, VA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:17:19 GMT

Kuddos to you Rehema and Brian Williams. NBC news is tops on my list of informing the nations on issues. I applaud you for your efforts on the issues concerning African American Women and hope to see a continual series going forward. How about a story or two on raising african american children in as single parent, making under the poverty level and succeeding to pulling your children out of poverty..the success storys. Or, African American Women and the Motorcycles they ride..It's a Million dollars business. I should know, I'm a successful african american women who rides a bike (My mom rode, so I'm part of her legacy) founder of a all women motorcycle club who gives back to the community. If the story appeals to you contact me...:)

African American women: Your response

M.M. CENTRAL, INDIANA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:19:15 GMT

This week long look at Black women (yes, I said Black instead of African American--old school) is a start. I applaud NBC for this. I have read most of the responses and it is wonderful that NBC has provided us with this venue to hold a serious conversation about Black women. But, now let's have a serious conversation. The number one problem facing black women is not HIV/AIDS(no disrespect to anyone suffering from HIV/AIDs), in my opinion, but the fact that black men are marrying white women in historic numbers. Yes, I will say it again. BLACK MEN ARE MARRYING/DATING WHITE WOMEN IN RECORD NUMBERS. In my town (somewhere in Indiana) there are so many biracial children until the white kids identify each other as Black, White, and Mixed. The number of Black men married to White women is five times the number of Black men married to Black women. Yes, we black women have taken an informal poll of the mixed race couples. In addition, White men are not marrying Black women in any great number--it is still a rarity in my town. Therefore let's not skirt or "white wash" the issue. Black men marry White women!! Are there any Black athletes left who are married to Black women?? Michael Jordan and Shaq, I believe, have divorced their Black wives. Black men crave White women. No, I am not racist--I I am a realist. I am a successful and educated Black woman living this nightmare. I am a Black woman who knows that the our race may die eventually because Black men want vanilla and caramel babies--yes, this was told to me by a Black man. Well, I think a caramel colored world would be nice. BUT CAN A BLACK BROTHER JUST LOOK MY WAY JUST ONCE????CAN A WHITE BROTHER JUST LOOK MY WAY??? I AM WELL EDUCATED AND CUTE. SO NOW AMERICA, LET'S REALLY TALK ABOUT RACE IN AMERICA!!!!!! BLACK WOMEN OUT THERE KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT--THE ONLY AVAILABLE BLACK MAN IS WITH A WHITE GIRL.

African American women: Your response

Leslie Walker, Columbus Ohio — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:19:57 GMT

I am responding to the single black woman delimma. Unfortunately, this is nothing new. I remember growing up in the 70's and 80's with both a Father and Mother who were married and being the oddity among my friends. I am now a married woman with a family. One critical perspective is african-american mothers roles with their sons. They love their sons, but do not raise their sons, (in translation) mothers (single or married) have to empower their sons to be responsble from a woman's perspective. This includes creating a rights of passage by teaching and showing by example values and trust of a relationship, being a descent human being, how to prepare early for marriage by being responsible for one's future by way of getting an education, the importance of savings and credit, loving and respecting self, the important unity between two people, exposing married couples to your sons that can positively impact that child's outlook on relationships and marriage.

Stay involve, stay interested, stay in-love with your son for surely his ways will be impacted by these actions.

Let's break this lack of committment chain, I dare you, set up your son for success and responsibility and patiently and lovingly watch through the years and I bet your effective nurturing will filter through many generations to come.

Mothers I leave you with spiritual instruction.
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Once again, this is my perspective. (smile)

African American women: Your response

p. williams,westland mi — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:22:40 GMT

IAM GLAD TO SEE A PROGRAM ABOUT OUR AFRICAM-AMERICAN WOMEN....WE NEED TO BE HEARD.....THE BLACK WOMEN HAS BEEN THE BACKBONE OF OUR MEN AS LONG AS I CAN REMEMBER.....I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO OUR MEN.....THEY CAN'T RELATE TO US LIKE THEY USED TOO....THEY WANT TO LEAD US TO NOWHERE AND WE AREN'T WILLING TO GO.....YOU CAN'T TRUST THEM,,,,YOU CAN'T DEPEND ON THEM,,,,YOU CAN SPEND 20,30,OR 40 YEARS BEING THERE MATE AND THEY WILL FRIP THE SCRIPT ON YOU....I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT OUR MEN......THEY ARE GETTING WEAK,,NOT ALL OF THEM BUT MOST OF THEM WILL FLIP AND THINK NOTHING OF IT????WHAT'S WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE??????THERE KIDS SUFFER ESPECIALLY THE TEENS....NO THOUGHTS ABOUT HOW IT WILL EFFECT THE FAMILY.....WHAT IS A WOMAN A MOTHER SUPPOSED TO DO???????WHAT ABOUT HER LIFE AND THE KIDS?????I THINK IT'S GOT A LOT TO DO WITH OUR KIDS RUNNING RAMPANT IN THE STREETS TODAY.....

African American women: Your response

RC just curious — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:23:47 GMT

Hey, Brian have you ever dated a African American woman? Would you care if your son dated an African American woman? Apparently, Dog the Bounty Hunter cared. I wonder how many people share Dog's viewpoint????

African American women: Your response

Sha; CT — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:27:17 GMT

I just want to say I commend GE, NBC, Ms. Ellis and Mr Williams for creating some great news content on real issues. This series has really caught my eyes and I've been tuning in every night and will continue. Thanks for creating more awareness.

African American women: Your response

Jeff, Oak Park, IL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:34:19 GMT

Kudos for tackling this subject. I found the information on breast cancer among African American women very informative. I found the part about African American female relationships enlightening and it made me think. As a single African American male with a masters degree, I had only looked at the "achievement gap" from my perspective (i.e., more choices for me). However, I now see how it could be frustrating for African American females. I believe that black women should be encouraged to look for happiness in a mate with whomever they find it, be they black, white, latino, or asian. We all know that black men do the same. I saw the previous comment about someone never seeing older black women with older white men, and I have to disagree, I know of a few couples like that whose relationships have stood the test of time.

African American women: Your response

Lawrence D. McNair, Beaumont Texas — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:50:33 GMT

They say God, bless the child, that's got their own. It's good to see American Black women filling good about themselves. As an American Black male, I see all American Black women as Queens and as a Queen I ask them. What good is it to have 500 billion dollars in buying power and the American Black Family foundation is fallening apart? It still goes back to, Willie Lynch and his plain to destory the American Black Family. Our American Black women have come a long way and I asure you, they didn't make it, all by themselves. God, said "man and woman will be counterparts and helpers to each othrer as one". Thus I pray, our today's American Black women, will be at their highest gloy, being a Wife and a Mother keeping the Americam Black Family strong. Don't let pride and greed defeat the will of God.

African American women: Your response

TMS, Phoenix, AZ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:58:59 GMT

Ms. Ellis-

I was happy to hear about the 5-part series on African-American women. The topics are critical not only to African-American women, but to all of America. We are a force not to be ignored.

I shared information on this series with the women in my book club, all of my friends, and the women in my social circle. All of us agreed to watch it, and discuss the topics presented.

Thank you and all of those involved in bringing these critical series to life.

African American women: Your response

H.V. Bennett, Suitland, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:03:28 GMT

Kudos to NBC for making issues affecting African-American women primetime viewing. The segment on relationships hit close to home. The piece that follows is my own personal commentary.

SATURDAYS AT THE BARBER by H.V. Bennett

I've been a single mom now for more years than I can remember,
Giving birth to a male child, my warmest memory of that cold day in November.
And over time he's missed many special moments that a son should only share with his father,
But perhaps none more special than Saturdays At The Barber.

My little boy was on my lap for his first haircut when he turned one,
That barber's chair was a special rite of passage and tradition.
And as I scanned the room full of adults and children, I couldn't help but se,
At least half were women who, for whatever reason, sat with their sons just like me.

It's here that the gathering of street-wise mena and also scholars,
Sit in this neighborhood forum, sharing opposing opinions for hours.
Between snips and shaves, trims and waves,
Discussing the plight of Black America before they pay.

What will I teach my boy about a man's place in the home,
When he looks around our dwelling place and realizes there are none?
When is the right time to explain the actions of his father and me,
That altered God's plan concerning the family?

Though living apart, as parents, we must do what we say and say what we mean,
And work, if we can, to resolve our differences to bring our child up as a team.
For while our disobedient behavior may have been flawed,
"This child is my creation and I don't make mistakes," sait the Lord.

In his life he'll be faced with bad influences and tempting temptations,
So "woman up!" and do all that you can to strengthen his spiritual foundation.
Teach him to know right from wrong, that will help him have a clear conscience,
To make his "no" mean "no," when so-called friends approach him with nonsense.

Expose him to male role models in and out of his family as much as you can,
The main focus is not on his becoming a good parent, but laying a foundation for his becoming a good man.
You can be friendly, but your job's not his friend, you're hism other not his father,
And one day when he has a family, your child and his son will share that Saturday At The Barber.

African American women: Your response

Dan Pokima, Winter Garden, Florida — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:12:33 GMT

Thank you all team members who put this series together. I am an African American male. I'm happy to see that the sisters are doing very well.

I believe that there will always be a disparity in any relationship. It could be education, income, social class and so on. But this lists do not hold a marriage together. Rather, they cause things to fall apart, because of pride, control, dishonesty and lack of trust. Both partners should see to it that they walk circumspectly. "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" In order to make it work, the sister needs the brother and vice versa. I believe, we sometimes allow society to tell us who we are or who we should be. I did not expect my marriage to end in divorce, but it happend.

African American women: Your response

Renee Moore, Rock Hill, SC — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:17:10 GMT

When I first found out that NBC was doing the series on African-American women and issues that affect us, I was so excited! I sent the email to EVERY woman of color I interact with and I Ti-Vo it every single night. Tonight's topic on the plight of relationships concerning our women is so valid and so very true. Once again, thanks SO MUCH for the topics and I hope this is something that NBC continues in the future!!!

African American women: Your response

C W — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:37:01 GMT

I look forward to seeing the rest of the series...I have a blog named "Black Women Deserve better"
http://thecwexperience.wordpress.com ...Helping Black women expand their options & make better choices

African American women: Your response

Rita Johnson — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:55:33 GMT

I had to stop reading the e-mails. The mispellings and incorrect English were astonishing, especially when most of the women with the most mispellings and incorrect English identified themselves as professionals. Come on sister women. Read it over before posting.

African American women: Your response

Leon Tunctsoin, Baltimore, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:03:57 GMT

I am an African-American male. I think that this series places African-American men and women in a very negative manner.

All of the statistics are negative. I should have known that if NBC was willing to highlight this subject than it was going to overall be negative.

The series provides 5 negative "so-called" facts for every 1 positive comment about the African-American women.

I sitting my chair watching this series, saying to myself... I am not like that, the African-American men that I know not like that either.

Of course, you cannot please everyone, but this piece is just overall very, very negative for both African-American women and men.

African American women: Your response

Winnie Holmes, Los Angeles — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:04:20 GMT

Rehema, it is nice to hear that you have adopted. I am a single African-American woman, who has never been married. At 44, I am still staying positive, but my desires to be a mother are still very strong. I have begun the process of adopting, but felt reluctant of moving forward as a single mother. I am planning to wait in hopes that I will meet someone soon, so that I can have a 2-parent home. My timeline is not that long, which is why I continue to move forward in preparing for motherhood through adoption.

African American women: Your response

K1MtnTop — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:12:06 GMT

Rehema and MSNBC...this was a good expose' on Black Women which deserves more time and attention. As a married Black Man and father of an extraordinary daughter, I have great concerns around the future of all members of our Black families both male and female.

I would like to say that any strong man, worthy of anything good and admirable is neither turned off nor intimidated by a high achieving, positive Black woman. In fact, those qualities only add to her lovliness and make her that much more attractive as life-mates, wives and partners. While I understand that while some may cower away from the involvement and interaction of dealing with a Phenominal Woman; do not dismiss all men of color as ones to run from the awesome privilege and responsibility of loving and being in love with a successful Black Woman. When we as men step-up to the task, NO One does it better!

Black Women- the real Black Men admire you, support you, lift you up and take pride in your success and achievement!!

African American women: Your response

Paulette, Los Angeles, Ca. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:12:24 GMT

I really am happy that this series is hearing on NBC. I am an african american female who happens to be a single parent and could relate to the session tonight. Rehema I am also happy that you are the one that was chosen to do this series. Thanks to Mark Whitaker for his vision and NBC for airing it!

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Lesli — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:12:32 GMT

I appreciate your work and would like to see more. I would like to understand some of the historical reasons that Black men have acheived differently than Black women. How much of that has to do with societal and racial differences in the treatment of black men and women and the resulting psychological impact of that. It is very painful and sad stuff, but my belief is that it is borne out of our legacy of racism. We need our own history taught not just in college but in elementary. Knowing our history and that we are survivors and an amazing group of people is essential.

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K. Lins, Richmond, VA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:30:22 GMT

I was absolutely thrilled to see positive examples of Black women happily married to white men showcased in the series. I am a Black woman who has been happily married to a white man for more than nine years; I constantly promote the idea of dating and marrying men of other races to other Black women every chance I get.

As Black women, we don't HAVE to live a life of intimate loneliness. We don't HAVE to settle for men who are not as ambitious or accomplished as we are. We don't HAVE to settle for raising children on our own because their fathers are irresponsible. We don't HAVE to settle for serial cohabiting instead of marriage. We don't HAVE to settle for men who are to "cool" to express affection toward us in public. We don't HAVE to settle for men who are too immature to understand the value of emotional and financial partnership in marriage. We don't HAVE to settle for men who are unwilling to be sole providers for their families even when they CAN be. We don't HAVE to settle for dramatically increasing our exposure to the HIV virus, by choosing from a subgroup of men in society who value promiscuity and looseness in a woman much more than they do decency. We don't HAVE to settle for men who have never grasped the concept that in American society, the proof of your manhood lies in how well you take care of your family.

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Cherie Oyaifo, Rancho cucamonga, Calif — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:31:52 GMT

I was excitd to see a piece on black women. I am disheartened by the information concerning the black family. I think black women andin this country must also take a look at the history of slavery and how that has an impact on our families today. For instant the male slave was not allow to remain with one mate in most cases and form a family. When slavery was abolished most male left their families to find work. In the early sixties the threat of divorce was prevalent and now black women must content with education and social gaps produced by ourselves as a people and this society. I think black women, unfortunately do have the historically long challege of raising a family by themselves and because of this it makes it difficult to teach your children about marriage and family. I myself am a product of a single black mother. I have been married for 18 years, but the thought of I can do this by myself has always been in the back of my mind. I believe in order to rectify this problem black women may have to look towards other cultures of african descent that value the institution of the family so that our children will be able to have productive families. That is what I've done, along with changing my beliefs of 'I can do this by myself.

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Tiffany, Greenville SC — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:32:16 GMT

This is wonderful!! Yes, it is short but sweet. We have to start somewhere, and this coverage is getting out our REAL storys and struggles. We are not just jobless and on welfare. To everyone at NBC thank you so much for thinking of us and doing such a fantastic job!!!! You gained a new viewer.

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Frances, San Antonio, TX — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:32:57 GMT

First, I would like to say thanks to NBC for presenting such a series, if for nothing more than to begin people's minds to wondering. My story stems from the being in a marriage of 25 years, raising 3 children and fully supporting my husband who served 22.5 years in the US Air Force. Upon marrying him I had only a H.S. Diploma and my husband had very little college. Taking a few classes here and there while traveling in the military. After about 12 years of marriage I later went to school and received a BA in Finance and went to work for Corp. America. While working I later went on to obtain my Masters degree believing it would put is in a better place financially all the time while supporting and encouraging our children. I became the major bread-winner of our family, but after 25 years of marriage my husband walked away. It is real to say that Afro-Amer. women do face having to pay a price for bettering themselves and especially is they are willing to remain in a marital relationship or any relationship for that matter. They frequently face the issues of emotional, mental and sometimes physical abuse as a direct result and extra-marital affairs. Families are torn and Afro-Amer. women are left with having to continue trying to bond the family after being abandoned or left not to excuse the issues of dealing with divorce, additional financial issues or crisis put upon them and then the suffering of issues in the workplace with no support and being the only bread-winner (at this point) makes it very difficult if she begins to suffer issues on the job and begins to feel stuck. This barely touches the surface.

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Carol Patrick, San Diego CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:46:02 GMT

Hi Rehema,

You need your own show! I am enjoying this series and hope to see more.

Thanks,

Carol

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Ray Jones, Piscataway, NJ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:46:36 GMT

Great series on Black Women. It would have been nice to have this on an hour long segment so you can dive more into the issues. As a father of a daughter I am interested in how these issues and trends will affect her. As a single man I am also interested in listening to the relationship concerns of successful black women so that I can further my relationships.

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Cynthia, North Carolina — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:53:08 GMT

Thank you. I think the misogynistic views perpetuated towards black women will be looked upon a little differently.

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stephanie, gilroy, ca — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:56:01 GMT

Rehema, I commend you and NBC for taking the time and effort to bring our stories to light! I as an African-American woman, and mother to an African-American daughter will definitely take the time to watch!

Thanks!

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Jennifer Birks, Laurel, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:00:50 GMT

Ms. Ellis, I'm really glad to see this series, and I think you are doing an excellent job. I don't think anyone should expect this to be an in-depth, all-encompassing report on black women's issues--there just isn't enough time in the show.

I am the only African-American person at my firm, and the only professional female. This series makes me feel less invisible. It seems like (some of) the people I work with walk on eggshells around me because they don't understand where I come from or how I fit in. They also have a very stereotypical view of black people. Everyone in the black community is aware of the issues we face, but others are not--definitely not the people I work with. It is evident that some don't even believe there is an issue. But it is undeniable that the issues you are addressing this week are just another manifestation of the legacy we have inherited as descendants of slaves. I don't think there is anything to argue about, be ashamed about, or feel depressed about. It is what it is and we have the power to change things and make them better.

Sure, there is a lot to talk about, and many more topics that won't be touched here. But it is a great start and more time and care than we've ever seen devoted to black women on any national news show.

Thank you.

(PS-my husband has a great web site for victims of domestic violence: www.sighlentstorm.com)

African American women: Your response

Angela, St. Louis, MO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:11:57 GMT

It is encouraging to find that your news organization is recognizing the uniqueness of the American experiences of various ethnic groups. Far too often, the perspectives that have been considered on a range of topics from the mundane to the very grave have been limited to the White experience. America for Blacks, Latinos, etc. is starkly different from America for Whites, thus our experiences and views tend to differ in many ways that we consider to be important. Life for anybody is life, but life with color is just a different kind of life.

African American women: Your response

Dee Jackson, Dallas, Texas — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:12:14 GMT

Many thanks to NBC for having the courage to open a pandora's box of queries, criticism, and banter on a subject that has been the polka-dotted elephant in the middle of the room for too long. Though it is impossible to satisfy every issue, I appreciate the initiative to bring awareness to a dynamic of the African American culture that has been under reported and ignored. Keep up the good work!

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Bridget B. Sullivan, Ashland, Oregon — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:15:51 GMT

Rehema, thank you for the wonderful piece you aired this evening - Redefining Black Relationships. Your willingness to personalize the discussion with your own life choice allowed this viewer to embrace your style and approach to delivering a story that got straight to the point and hit the mark. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could continue the dialogue in each city, suburb or town by supporting, applauding and embracing each other in our quest for whatever makes us happy in life after this series is over. Thank you to the sister who verbalized the hope that a partner would accept we Black women who are educated, proud, strong, employed, real, and willing to be true to our partner. I don't plan on giving up on my brothers, I just hope they get to a place where they can appreciate us for who we really are...strong, Black, phenomenal women. Cheers to all of you and much love.

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Jean Fenceroy, Milwaukee, WI — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:18:35 GMT

This series is really important to the population in general. Thank you for taking the time to produce it. I'm encouraged that NBC is illustrating African American women as dynamic leaders who make a myriad of choices and sacrifices to achieve their goals to uplift themselves, the race, and America. Hopefully, American viewers will see that African American women are not a monolith, but a group of diverse and extraordinary individuals.
BRAVO on the series. I'd like to see more.

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M.Rogers — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:18:47 GMT

Sista Rehema:

I appreciate the series about African-American women, particularly the one on the state of relationships and marriage. I am an African American professional single parent longing to find a black husband. If there is a follow up series, perhaps it could address ways solve the issues the series exposes. Thank you for your wonderful work and continued success.

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Mike Davis — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:26:37 GMT

I believe that it is good to spotlight the achievements of black women and my hat's off to the strong black women who perseveres in spite of all the odds. However I find the slant of this attention to be misguided at best and divisive at worst. Todays challenges are much too complex for anyone to face alone and anything that serves to divide black women and men only serves to further subjugate the black race. All of us must face up to the problems of young black males that results in keeping this segment of the population as a permanent underclass. Lack of education, unemployment,crime,hopelessness, drugs, police profiling and brutality etc. All of us must do
what we can to encourage black men to once again have faith in themselves. Let us not forget that all the black women profiled in the segment have brothers, sons, fathers, grandfathers etc and anything that retards the growth of these males retards the growth of the entire family. We must never forget that immigrants to this country with strong traditional family ties (i.e mother and father in the household) tend to do much better economically and their children also do better economically, often better than native americans. we must also never forget that although your program tended to focus on many successful black women, many black women are still trapped in the underclass and living from paycheck to paycheck, However for those women striving to get their piece of the pie, I say more power to you.

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Bill Edwards Johnstown, Pa — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:27:25 GMT

Ms Ellis
I'm not saying that racism is the answer, I may not have a college degree. But what I got from your story is all wrong! In a way Afican women are wrong!
Because African women are more opinated than white women. And the black male rather be with a white girl, they are more easier to manulipate than a black
female'ss and thats where it lies.

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Vickie Lee, Amityville, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:34:37 GMT

Thank you Ms. Ellis, Ms Schiavanocampo and Mr. Williams for bring these issues to light. I am a 49 year old divorced mother of 3 and I am perplexed at sad dilemma of our children being raised by single/or divorced African-American women. I have read the statistics and the problems causing this situation, but now I am looking for solutions to decrease this trend. I would like for the reporters to explore what type of men white women are marrying. I ask this because most of the black women in my age bracket want financially stable men along with many other positive attributes(looks, spirituallity, honesty etc...) Are we saddly aiming too high? I welcome your comments. Thank you for your time and keep up the excellent work in your newscast!

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K Folsom, San Diego, CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 04:49:04 GMT

Dear Ms. Ellis,

Thanks to you, Mr. Williams and Mr. Whitaker for putting together this informative, inspiring, yet brief series. I think the timing of this series is serendipitous given Oprah's increased support of Barah Obama's campaign.

I have not been a regular viewer of the Nightly News, but I made a point of watching each night of the series. I hope you will do an update to this series on one of your weekly magazine shows.

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Donya: Columbus, OH — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:09:51 GMT

Indeed, there is just so much ground to cover here, thus to fault NBC for their inability to play catch-up in five days is neither fair nor reasonable.

Like most African-American Women, I appreciated NBC's decision to air a series about us! And surely, most blacks believe our stories are newsworthy and deserve to be told.

But you know something, my problem is not with NBC or its media personalities and staff, it's with us!

Tears form and I get a pit in my stomach when I think about all the collective talent, wealth, knowledge and other intangible and tangible resources we have as a people, and yet we are still so darn far behind.

We do not trust each other. We do not honor each other. We do not respect each other. We do not support each other. So if these statements are valid (and you know in the pit of your own stomach that they are), then logic would suggest that we also do not love each other.

We are some of the most church-going folks we know, and yet we are some of the most undisciplined, unreliable and unaccountable.

When we send our children to school, do we opt to send them to their neighborhood or community school or do we send them elsewhere? Do we support our inner-city schools where a large number of black children attend? Oh but we wait, we want the best education for our children, right? When we purchase a home, do we try to move as far away from places we once called home as possible? Sounds like black flight to you? What about our purchasing dollars? Why do we continue to make everyone else rich but us? I smile to keep from crying! When we go to the store, do we go to Target and Walmart, or the black-owned mom and pop grocery store in the city? How many fully-owned black banks do we have in this country? How many in your city? We talk a good game, but after the Million Man March and Million Woman March, what measurable outcomes or “cultural corrections” did we really see?

Sure, I could go on but my tears are blurring my vision!

Until we decide to really be about our Father's business, we will NEVER have collective anything much less collective enterprise.

We do not need others (mainstream media, B.E.T., a boss, a neighbor...) to validate us!

Ok, tears set-aside!

My final thoughts are:

God created us ALL for his pleasure. He created us to be Stars. Are You exhibiting and releasing the Star qualities in you as daily as possible? My friend, Stars do not merely exist in the heavens no more than they just exist in Hollywood. Listen, until you believe that you are just as great or greater than Oprah and just as capable and more capable than Bill Gates, the unique blessing and purpose that's been placed on your life may not manifest. Do waste your star power, embrace and know it to be true. Know that you are a Star and that you are a child of God. We ALL are! We all are.

Irrespective of whether NBC aired this piece for 5-minutes or 50-minutes, know your worth and value to this world. Frankly, I respect folks like Oprah and Jordan for their own personal achievements in entertainment, but until we as a people are COLLECTIVELY MORE BETTER OFF, than my suggestion to you is that we (Stars who shine just as bright as Oprah) have a lot of unfinished business that folks like Oprah has not even remotely touched.

Let's stop living life worried about mistreatment, hatred, haters, racism, and the past. We cannot change factors outside of our control. But what we can do is start being about our own business, God's business. When we get that right, we too will be all right with ourselves and right with all of God's Star creations.

Merry Christmas! The Star in Me greets with Love the Star in You.

And remember, we cannot change the past (not even yesterday), but the Present is a Gift from God. Let's do something with it because the day after is promised to no one.

African American women: Your response

Adrian, Riverside, CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:19:14 GMT

People we are getting away from the problem here, it was said that 70% of African American children are raised in a single parent home, but all I here is the accomplishments of African American women and there positions in corporate America , we have a generation here that is in trouble, and what about the Black male that is being raised by a single mother? are you folks out of your mind, I can care less of the buying power that African American women may have when we have a national crises here, lets talk about how we can help get African American Men and Women on the same page to raise children together in a home, to Stabilize the on slot of destruction that is plaguing the black race. GOD, MAN, WIFE, FAMILY, SUCCESS, now what part of that you don’t understand.

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T.Lynne, LA, CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:23:01 GMT

It is about time any new media attempts to speak freely regarding the African American Women and our amazing accomplishments, but the piece comes across as if we are a school of fish or small "ojects" of this human race.

I am deeply concerned that this "series" is in fact not a series at all, but a week of 5-minite "snipits" at the end of the Nightly News. That is unfortunate, because we as African America Women play a much larger role in society than we are given credit for.

Every news media outlet reported for hours, days and weeks on Paris, Nicole and Britney's nonsense. As of today, these 3 "girls" are still receiving more airtime than they deserve. But, the African American Women "series" has received a whopping 5 mintues of airtime a day for a week.

Get it together, NBC. Of course you can do better than this.

This certainly is not the "series" that it has been purported to be.

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shirley simmons ,Atlanta,GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:36:28 GMT

I have seen the series and as a single professional African American woman, I can relate to the topics especially the one from Weds' segment. You are doing a great job of capturing our thoughts. I thougth,mhowever that the women of Weds segment did not represent those of us without children and who have not been married.(They all had children) It appears that the numbers are just stacked against us due to the number of Black men in jail or who have sucumbed to the unfortunate ills of drugs. I lost a lot of options with the Vietman War, many of the men in my age group were sucked up by it. We must keep livng our lives and unfortunately more often than not ,without an acceptable partner! :-(

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Valencia, Los Angeles, CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 07:00:19 GMT

Rehema:

You knocked it out of the park tonight. Great way to use facts and stats in combination with the diverse panel of Black women who came from varying perspectives based their individual personal relationships with Black men who didn't bash those men. Of course the clincher was your courage in communicating just how personal this story was for you as a Black woman journalist - gotta love that. I appreciate you and the quality of your efforts and work on this series. I'll continue to watch.

A Content Black Woman
http://whyblackwomenareangry.blogspot.com

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LAR, Indianapolis, IN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 09:36:46 GMT

I'm pleased with the efforts that went into addressing the plight that African American women in the mid to low economic class face daily. In addition, to other women groups all African American women must check added filters of: race, skin complexion, age or size, that might be connected to slave reminiscence.

Where do we go from here?

Since talking can be therapeutic, dialogue across the country could be the vehicle to uncover surpressed prenotions about other cultures. Many healthful groups already exists however, the disconnection between these groups maybe the reason for the slow healing process in the country.

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LAR, Indianapolis, IN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 09:41:22 GMT

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Terry, NJ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 10:05:12 GMT

It's great to see that NBC has devoted time and money to produce such an excellent series. Hopefully this is a first with many more to come!!

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Lewis Robinson, M.D. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 12:25:56 GMT

The series on the African American Woman had some fine points. However, with regards to the African Amercan male and the African American family I'm afraid you did a poor job. In fact, this was very biased and did great harm to African Americans and to America. Unless we can correct these biased notions that you projected and get America on the right path, we can only continue to make things worse. I would be happy to discuss this with Mr. Williams. Thank you.

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Vickie Lee Iregbulem, Amityville NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 12:40:41 GMT

Dear Ms. Ellis,
I have just viewed the extended roundtable discussion about black woman and relationships. While it may seem frustrating for women over the age of 30 to find and maintain a happy union with a partner, I agree with the panelist who stated that she is afraid of having to compromise and "lose her freedom" that she feels she has gained after her divorce. Many of us feel that we have to somehow supress our intellect, and opinions in order to "keep a man"! This should not be! Women must be able to be their authentic selves in any relationship and be able to reside peacefully with their male partners. There is an old saying that says mother's love their sons, but raise their daughters. In my opinion this has resulted in(at least in my case), women whose mothers have compelled them to acheive academically and financially, so that we are NOT dependant on any man! Maybe we have to demand that both our sons and daughters to acheive and succeed equally in our homes so that when they enter in to relationships and marriage, they may be on equal footing. Thank you for the wonderful job you and your team did with this series!

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Janet T. Harris, Shaker Heights, Ohio — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 13:14:43 GMT

Thank you Ms. Ellis, NBC and Brian Williams for an excellent series. I have watched each segment. African American women have held their families together through some very difficult socio/economic times, eduated their children and founded colleges. They have been able to do this largely based upon their abiding faith in God to help them make the world a better place for their children. I would like to see additional series featuring the African American woman. From a 73 year old grandma who worked to put myself through college on a meager income before financial aid or scholarships were available. Thanks again.

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Glenn Bynum, Charleston, South Carolina — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 13:24:32 GMT

I personally like the idea that the plight of the African American Woman is being talked about. It is insightful to look iinto the mind set of our sisters and some of the things that are now going on or happening to them in everyday life. I did see the documentary Soul mate and found it interesting about what my sisters think about my brothers. I heard one lady in the segment say that it would be hard to date a man that is out of her educational and economic arena. I find that in our society we are more concerned with how much money a person can bring into a relationship, than with the core values associated with having a healthy and productive life. There are plenty of intelligent supportive men out there that may not have the education that they have but it does not minimize the ability to have a intelligent and informed conversation with a man that doesnt have a colleg degree. I only wish that someone would do a positive segment on blackmen. It is not that hard to find positive black men in our society. Im not talking about the college educated,company running types but about the hard working and overlooked class of men that are invisible to our society. These men are the ones that give positive advice to brothers to stay in school and try to acheive the ones who are the little league coach the ones who dont run companys but are not stealing or hurting anyone the ones that want good wives but cant find them because he doesnt own a BMW or a Benz or is not a tie and coat type. These men no one talks about and are overlooked by everyone, to include our sisters. We are not hard to find, we live between the line of $30,000-$50,000 we are not gangsters, murderers, thugs or on the down low, but are hard working, intelligent, and loving men who want the same as everyone else but are simply overlooked.

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Dannie R., Abilene, TX. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 13:44:05 GMT

Thank you Ms. Ellis for sharing these stories. You are doing an excellent job and I am thankful that NBC chose to do this series.

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Cheryl, Dorchester, MA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:14:24 GMT

Ms. Ellis, and Brian Williams, what about the African American women whom didn't do well because of so many obstacles in their present life? They should be heard as well. These segments are great, but don't get me wrong, they should have been added somehow to these viewings. Prehaps, their should be another viewing on how to tap into that arena. Their are so many African American women that need help trying to figure out, how to get out of the mess they are currently facing.

Thanks for highlighting the achievements of AABW; we really needed to be recognized, a long time coming.

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Lazara Cedeno, New York, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:17:37 GMT

My native country was Cuban, I am black and a American...I think this series can inspire all of us to become more active in our communities and our children. I also think we need not just these types series every "blue moon" it should be throught the year. Thank you (Muchas Gracias) Ms. Ellis and Brian Williams.

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AAWilson Plantation FL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:24:53 GMT

Living with a man 14 years, having 3 children and now getting engaged? Come on now !!

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Dean, Rochester, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:30:38 GMT

I commend NBC for airing this series. I sometimes believe we are the "forgotten group" in the media.

You can never satisfy everyone with news reports and when dealing with a topic that is so vast, there is no way to touch every angle. I just glad that some of what we talk about over coffee or drinks with each other, is finally reaching the mainstream.

Thank you!

African-American Woman - 44 years old - educated - single-mother of 1 - just moved back home from Phoenix - professionally starting over again......

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Guy Sims, Blacksburg, VA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:31:18 GMT

This is an excellent series that is long overdue. African American women face some unique challenges in our society. They have also overcome tremendous challenges and deserve the recognition.

It is also great to see Rehema Ellis out of the field and in the newsroom. She has done a tremendous job over the years.

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John Dasher — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:35:25 GMT

Thank you for addressing the role of Africa American women in America. Comments and stories are long over due to the public at large. I would like to see ABC have the courage to give you real talk show to deal with real issue. I am sick and tried of jokes!!

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John Dasher — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 14:36:56 GMT

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Cathy T, Piscataway, NJ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:12:35 GMT

I had the opportunity to view your series last night, and was only sorry that I missed the earlier segments. Thank you, Brian and Rehema for bringing to the American forefront such an important issue. But we as Black women must realize that it's not something that government can fix. We as Black women must place the boundaries on our bodies, our sexuality and our relationships. The old adage, "why buy the cow..." still holds true. We must respect ourselves enough to not allow men to use us, impregnate us and dump and leave us. There's no excuse for that, particularly in the age of HIV/AIDS. No one should have unprotected sex- ever, yet this message is lost in the black community. We all want to be loved and in secure, stable relationships, but that is behavior that is learned, not given at birth. We are seeing multiple generations of single parenting and it's tearing the black family fabric apart. How are young boys to learn what a father and husband is if they've never seen one? How are they to learn the proper way to date and treat a woman? Why do we tolerate advertising and programming that furthers the "thug", "Baby Daddy" nightmare? But it starts with us as Black women. Men will never respect us until we begin to respect ourselves, our bodies and our boundaries in relationships.

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Marlene, Branson, MO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:19:40 GMT

Rehemma,

After watching the show yesterday I wanted to say that we as African American women have got to stop saying there are no men out there who are up to standard. IF the the truth be known many men are not looking at us as potential wives because they do feel beaten up by our opinions of them. A worthy man doesn't have to hold a PHD if he can give a woman all of the things she needs emotionally, socially and spiritually. It's time we start lifting up our men again.

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S. Dillard, Jackson MS — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:24:47 GMT

I'm enjoying the series, though I echo the fact that other than the news about cancer, it's pretty much old news around the black community. It's very interesting to see how our men are responding to this. Many have said the segment should highlight African American men and their contributions. Well, guess what, the segment is about US! And, so sorry to say, our men ARE lagging behind. Maybe not the ones in your life, but there is DEFINITELY a problem there. Also, the segment may not talk about how statistics in the white community compare to those in the black community, but the segment is about African American women, not white women. It's just journalism. It doesn't have to define who YOU are. Take it as you would any other media presentation.

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Sharon Valentine, Richmond, VA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:44:53 GMT

Wednesday night's segment was not a fair representation of Black women in America. It gave America the impression that all women choose to have children outside of marriage. Now that's one more stereotype that we have to contend with. It would have been more balanced to have a single woman without children and a married woman.

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Ivy Rogers, Oklahoma City, OK — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:51:38 GMT

So far I've found the series, too short and not informative enough. Also, I don't think all sections of the U.S. are represented. It's disappointing, but at least it's a start at recognizing that black women do face certain problems that other women don't.

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Pierre Blackwin, Tampa, Florida — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:55:39 GMT

As a Caribbean born,black man,father of four, professional adult, and U.S Marine corp veteran (In that order) living in the U.S; I must say I am glad that some of these issues have been placed in the publics view. Although I do maintain a pessimistic viewpoint about summing up the broad subject of the African American woman in such short order. The sentiment does still have effect. I would like to see a series on the black man in America, and display some of the statistics from our side of things. They are shocking, but what I believe is even more shocking would be the fact (although dispersed in a more subtle and quiet manor) that racism is still alive and well. Unfortunately the black male is the most threatening/therefore most widely targeted member of its barbaric institution. To thoroughly understand the situation I think that all the factors from education,spirituality,slavery,communities, drugs and who is truly profiting and the ongoing sense of disparity should be looked at. A people who have had their past stripped away from them and their future prospects gloomy at best, not only needs to be given all the facts about a situation. But also the tools to succeed at such an en devour.

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K.Martin, Knoxville, TN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:59:59 GMT

Although the attempt at placing the spotlight on the elevation and achievements of the black woman is commendable however, it does not address the real problem. This situation can not and should not be addressed without reflecting the light on the other. Your piece (what little of it) says that we cannot relate to each other once the female has obtained a higher level of education. But for some reason the statement cannot even qualify as fact without real stats. You have a few women that say their failed relationships tanked because SHE received an education. Now is that his fault or her fault? Hmmm... The so called fact that the black males and females cannot relate because they are not on the same economic level, has a certain ring to it, it becomes true when you say it long enough. I saw a post by a male speaking stupidly and passing on his information as gospel (a few posts up Bill Edwards). Even what he said is pure conjecture and does not include every Black man in America. Answers to the problems in Black America seem to come from everywhere but within. We are ignorant in believing that our only solace is a relationship with a white man/woman. Are we convincing ourselves that we cannot do better on our own? Well it sure looks like it.

Have you ever heard of the monkey catcher? The trap is set when someone would dangle a shiny and new object in a cage in front of the monkey, the monkey is so enamoured with it, he walks in thinking he's got the prize but, what did he really walk into? These so called ideas created to divide us serve in the same purpose. An idea constantly introduced and periodically proven depending upon the percentage creates the exact mess that Black America is experiencing. What we need to find out is why is there no cohesion, why is there no trust? Where is the solidarity? Where is the concern for uplifting ourselves? Why are we glorifying the white race? Is it money, status? Are we really upholding those asinine preference tests that claim blacks really favor white? Have we not moved past the white and black doll theory? Guess what the answer to that question is... a resounding no. Our reality is so intertwined with theirs we are conditioned to want to BE them and we cannot even see it! Unless we actually force our minds to deviate from it. The Black race will slowly dissipate. Who really is the monkey catcher here? We are still acting like slaves, being controlled and convinced that we cannot trust each other. If other races can come together why not us? If only we can stop looking at the so called shiny prize for just a minute to see what we really can do.

I hurt for us, I cry for us we are the fragmented, we are the disenfranchised and we do not even care. If we really did care we would have reasons to save our culture, our way of life. We would have programs set up for success and empowerment... they do it,why in heaven's name can't we?

African American women: Your response

Peggy Van Buren Memphis, TN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 16:53:51 GMT

I saw the segment about black women having a hard time establishing a relationship with a black males who do not have a problem with college educated females. I have a 23 year old son who has recently graduated from college, works at a well establish firm in ATL. He does not have a problem with meeting college educated black females. It seems the problem is with the young black college educated females. They have problems connecting with black males that are not bad guys with dramma. He constantly finds unmarried (and never been married)black women that are in their late 20's or mid 30's with children. The one's in his age catergory are hands off, one night dates, and gives out wrong phone numbers. He has always had an out going personally and he is handsome. I hope this does not sound like I'm trying to find a date for him. But I've heard this from other males in his age group.Young women are different from the 70's and 80's. My son was raised by 2 loving parents. I found his father after I graduated from college a good male without drama. He was not afraid of a college educated female and we are still together.

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Peggy Van Buren Memphis, TN — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:11:28 GMT

African American women: Your response

Kim, Waldorf, MD — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:39:20 GMT

I am elated to see a national news forum devoting time to real issues facing African American women in this country. We should not be upset about the brevity of each segment, but be thankful that we are getting any time at all. I am especially looking forward to the following upcoming topics: Heart Disease and Interracial Dating.

My mother died from a massive heart attack during my senior year of high school 12 years ago. She had gone to the doctor, but her symptoms were misdiagnosed, and she was dead within a month. This life tragedy, and the subsequent counseling services I received, inspired me to give back to others. I’m employed as a bereavement counselor where I help people of all ages cope with the death of their loved ones. As an African American woman I have numerous African American clients who would probably not feel comfortable talking to a white counselor about their grief. My suggestion for a future newsworthy topic would be to examine the stigma of counseling in the African American community.

The second topic of interest to me is interracial dating, because I feel that we as Black women have to date outside of our race to get a mate in this lifetime. The odds are stacked against us regarding dating within our own race. I gave up on the possibility of marrying a black man years ago and haven’t looked back. I am a 29 year old black woman who prefers dating white men. I’m not married yet, but am dating a white man who prefers black women. Many men of other races do appreciate the unique regal beauty of Black women, and we as black women have to become open to other races to have a fighting chance at getting to the altar in a white dress.

That’s my two cents…Thanks so much for reading my comments.

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Mag, Birmingham, AL — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:54:18 GMT

I didn't see the show but I extremely proud when I heard Brian Williams on the Tom Joyner Morning show. Brian spoke about workplace diversity and that is an issue that concerns me greatly. I am a naturalized African, a registered voted and pay hefty taxes. I work for a great company that is very big on promoting diversity like many others these days. My only issue is that our children are still being looked at, and treated differently. I believe the issue of diversity should be raised at the elementary school level, not in the workplace. it's easy for all of us to pretend at work when we don't even say hello to our next door neighbor, or have never met them face to face because they don't look like us. Please help our children by raising awarness, and educating the American public.

I hope for more shows of this nature in the future.

Kindest regards,

African American women: Your response

Letha Hassen, Canton, Mississippi — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:09:41 GMT

I watch NBC news with Brian Williams every night and when I saw that you were going to do this series my first response was anger. I thought, "here we go again, belittling black men and women." After watching the series so far and reading the background information for the series I am now VERY confused. It seems like you want to promote positive things about black women but you feel you MUST say the negatives first. On Mondays show with the education gap, the point of the show was to say that black women are highly educated but that fact was overshadowed by the negative points that was stated. On Wednesdays show you highlighted every negative statistic regarding black women having the highest percentage rate of unmarried women and single parenting, then an afterthought was mentioned that 46% of black single mothers adopt. It's great that you are doing the series especially the health segments but I'm not sure you accomplished what you wanted to accomplish.

African American women: Your response

rjweems — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:16:37 GMT

Thank you for this important series. But I have mixed feelings about last night's "Where We Stand." I wished a segment on the achievement gap between black men and women had not ended up as a melodrama on the failed state of black male-female relationships. Of course, the achievement gap has played a part but economics, imo, isn't necessarily the chief reason for the demise of our relationships.

Believe me, I love sitting around talking about love, marriage, and children as much as the next woman. But I don't like or expect news specials to end with the same "sigh" and hand-ringing as me and others do when we sit around the kitchen table discussing these topics.

I applaud Ms. Ellis' decision to adopt and commend the other women around the table for doing the righteous work of being single black mother. But gosh couldn't one dang positive, hopeful, thoughtful, uplifting nugget about black children, black love and black family life have been the conclusion of the segment. Okay, leave that to ministers and religion to leave us feeling good. But how about a specialist who might have offered a broader social comment on the strengths and challenges of this generation of high achieving black women.

Certainly, a more productive conversation might have been on how the disparity in incomes and achievements between men and women forces couples to rethink and renegotiate what exactly do we mean when we talk about "needing," "supporting" and "loving" each other.

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MWM , Detroit, MI — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:29:59 GMT

Thank you NBC for this series. It is nice to have issues of importance to me highlighted on the national news. For the most part African American women appear to be invisible to the media.

The series while laudable could not possibly in the time alloted fairly explore this topic. I'm glad you did not let that stop you. I hope others will consider your efforts a jumping off point to delve deeper into the lives of black women and share it via mainstream television.

P.S.: Brian Williams next time you are in Detroit you can bring me some Bazookas. ;)

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Palo Alto — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:45:00 GMT

If you wanted to insult the African American community in general and the African American male in particular you couldn't have done a better job.

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MistaO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:40:18 GMT

K. Martin and a few other commentors have made excellent posts and observations. What is strikingly sad is the number of women on here who have actually fallen for the "monkey catcher" theory you present.....And let's be honest and real with it, as much as they promote IR dating for Black women, and Black women know it, there aint nothing on plant earth like a Black Man!!! Why you all see such strife and consternation from those without? And trust, all the white women you see with Black men, those women typically agressively go after Black men, not the way many would have you believe...Because they know it's true too. And why do you think those in "power" have a vested interest in keeping Black men disenfranchised? They know it too, look folks it's hard, very hard to substitute for the original in anything in including man....With as much racist vitrol you typically see on these boards on the internet, I wonder just how some of you folks views would change if NBC took the racist filters off and let you see what America really thinks of us.

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Ingrid Anderson, St. Louis, MO — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:44:18 GMT

I appreciate that Black women are FINALLY getting some attention in the national media that does not just focus on how we appear in rap videos. As a group, we are accomplishing a lot (as well as sacrificing a lot), and it's good to see that reflected in the media.

African American women: Your response

Larissa A, Atlanta, GA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:32:04 GMT

I have been watching this segment the whole week and Nightly News is part of my evening every night. It was good to see a series of stories on African American women. What disappointed me is the negative feedback. These segments did not have to be shown and the plight of the African American woman could have been ignored like it has been. But now here we all are in discussions about our lives and these discussion are not about being called hoes, B's or jiggling our scantly clad bodies in front of the camera in some hip hop video or any where else for that matter. The women who have been featured have been what I have know all along; smart, ambitious, and somewhat unsure of their future since our success and the black mans plight has taken two different roads. I would have liked to have seen this segment on Dateline because it would have been televised later and more of us could have gotten the chance to watch. But nonetheless I am thankful for the segments that have been shown and to the other women who are not of African descent, especially the white women who feel like they have been cheated by this one week of 3 minute segments, imagine how we feel daily.

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JUNA Phoenix,AZ — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:39:05 GMT

I am a black female with a graduate degree, divorced and over 40. (I think it is a big deal that our women don't have mates!) I know many women face challenges but I have enjoyed the attention and the conversations started with this series because I relate to the issues raised so well. I always watch NBC nightly since Tom Brokaw, and yet missed two nights already so thanks for making it available on the website. I am sure you know there is NO way to please everyone so please continue to make me proud as you always do and thanks for the reporting. Your son is adorable by the way, you are one of my favorite reporters. Keep up the great work you do every day.

African American women: Your response

Juana — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:07:54 GMT

Saying thank you is not enough. I applaud you for this topic and NBC for airing it. Please do not stop here. My only wish is that you talked more in detail about us in our relationships with men(interracial dating)our relationships with each other, and our families. Again, Thank You.

African American women: Your response

Charles E. Cambpell — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:35:52 GMT

Hi Ms. Ellis

My heart goes out to you. I could see the pain and joy on your face and in your voice. You and NBC are doing a great job with this serious. I needed to hear from those women as a divorced 40 year old Black African American Man.

I am working to implement a plan to improve the Black man, Black Woman and Black Family. Black Love must be our common bond. A degree or job can never replace a Black man, neither can a White or Hispanic Man. Therefore I offer this idea to solve the problem. Serious Black Men and Black Women should form Bi-monthly meetings where they talk about a topics regarding relationship: These groups should be no more than 20 people per group. They can be held at a local school, church or community center on Saturday Mornings from 8-10 AM. The topics should be the same for each group each month. However, the second meeting should be mixed, where men listen and not talk. The following month's mix meeting women must listen and not talk. One requirement is that you must have spent the previous month listening before you can talk at the mixed meeting. Why this idea. Black men and Black Women have never been taught how to honestly communicate with each other.

Ms. Ellis, I believe that you could establish and become the spokesperson for such an effort.

Black men love Black Women! Black Women have helped to restore our humanity after racism repeated takes it away. Our pride and ego often gets in the way of our common sense. To answer the question, when did things start to go down for Black People, it correlates with integration and desegregation.

Thank you so much for helping to shed a light on Black Women.

Much Respect!
One Love, One People, One Goal: Black Empowerment

Charles E. Campbell

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N. Darling, Oxnard, Calif. — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 22:38:47 GMT

It is refreshing to see a series IN THE MAINSTREAM MEDIA on the issues affecting Black women. Often, these issues are only addressed in Black publications. As a Black woman, I sometimes feel slighted, ignored, and marginalized by those outside the Black community know absolutely NOTHING about me and my experiences--nor do they care to know. The one "negative" I have about the series is that the information presented is not "new" information for a majority of Black women. This series is serving to hopefully educate other races on the issues affecting Black women. Our society overall is sorely lacking in compassion for others which is a sad commentary regarding our humanity.

African American women: Your response

Roslyn Jefferson, Albany, NY — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 23:03:10 GMT

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! As a a middle class, professional African American woman, I feel pretty invisible in our American culture. Many poverty stereo types and portrayals of African Americans in news and media do not fit who I am. I am grateful for this comprehensive series. I look forward to one on African American men as well.

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GB,Columbus,Ohio — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 23:06:11 GMT

The series should have been on in prime time and not just at the end of the broadcast. Next time how about an hour each night with a round table Q&A.

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Mark Sawyer, Los Angeles CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 23:54:00 GMT

The interracial marriage segment was just garbage!
Why is everyone is so pushing interracial marriage as the new assimilation? 134,000 is a ridiculously small number given that black
women have been here for 400 years! Also the 81% approval rating of interracial dating is compared to what? Was there sometime when black women were AGAINST people being able to date or marry whomever they
wanted? Show me the poll numbers say one year or five years ago that demonstrates some change!?!?

Let's also put this in perspective. So 134,000 out of 22 millions is roughly .6% of Black woman and .1 of
white men (100 million) are married to one another. I also wonder what percentage of black women
married to white men are in the military. Last I checked it was the largest group.

Maybe I am being too sensitive about this but having just saw Gregory Rodriguez pushing our "mongrel nation" or mestizaje from the perspective of a Mexican American assimilationist. I find this
"whitening" discourse scary especially those of us who know how it has eliminated racial inequality in Latin America (tongue planted firmly
in cheek).I am so interested in the fact that everyone I seem to turn I find
something that is pushing some version of interracial marriage
(NARROWLY DEFINED-because it is only truly interracial if the person is white) as some indicator of "something new" in American society.

African American women: Your response

C. Brown, Spartanburg, SC — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:14:50 GMT

I wish more time could have been given to the breast cancer segment. Both my mother and stepmother were victims. My mother survived until her death in Oct of this year from a heart attack and my stepmother died from breast cancer. Black women need more information on both illnesses and NBC had the opportunity to provide that info and failed.

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Brad ,Jackson,Mi — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:17:19 GMT

I'm a 29 year old black male, and I just caught the special on black woman and heart disease.It's a good piece, but the question I have... When is the news going to start showing specials on white americans that get pushed aside for what used to be minorities in this country,everyone is so scared to hurt someone elses feelings or to get in trouble with the representation the blacks have, Jesse Jackson,Rev Al Sharptin.Sooner or later the white americans need to stick up for themselves!!! I work in a factory in Michigan and I watch the white people get pushed around almost everyday for the blacks,because management doesn't want a lawsuit. It's terrible.

African American women: Your response

Patrick Tooley — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:20:49 GMT

Now let me get this correct. Since my cardiologist is from India, I should change and get a Dr. who is white male and a grad of the U.S. to get the proper care for my heart problems since I'm a white male from the U.S.?

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Jim Rogers — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:27:15 GMT

I believe it is good that someone is talking about black issues with a black point of view on mainstream tv.

I am a black man and I feel that a lot of black women are not looking for a good black man. I know some good black men that do not drink and smoke and party and are looking for a black women that is not over weight and enjoys working out. Staying in shape does not seem to be important to black women. This seems odd since more black women are finishing college.

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CYNTHIA E. FIELDS, YORKTOWN, VA — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:33:26 GMT

I was very excited about this series and congratulate Rehema Ellis for her expert journalism; however, I was extremely disappointed in the few minutes NBC allotted for public viewing. A group of my friends had decided to review the series and discuss each topic over brunch on Saturday morning. I feel that we may not have enough of any topic to discuss. Is there a plan to run the series in its entirety?

African American women: Your response

Kellie, Baltimore MD — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:35:06 GMT

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

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Kimberly, Lake Charles, LA — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:47:48 GMT

Although I am pleased to see that NBC is willing to address the issues of African American women, I am somewhat disappointed that the time dedicated to each night's topic has been less than 5 minutes.

The topic concerning African American women who opt to marry outside of their race is hardly an issue worth discussing. Instead, the issue of HIV/AIDS and the impact these diseases have had on African American women would have been more appropriate given the record number of African American women who contract HIV each year.

Last, the percentage of African American women that are slated to never marry is astonishing. I believe this is largely due to an increasing number of African American men who are in prison. I also believe that the decline in marriage amongst African American women is related to the increasing number of African American men who are choosing to marry outside of their race.

African American women: Your response

Ray Stanley, Columbia, Maryland — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:58:08 GMT

I just viewed NBC clips of Black women. The one that prompt me to write is the number of black women who are adopting.

A lot of our problems in the black community starts in the home. Every since black women found out that they could get welfare if a man is not in the home - the divorce rate started to go up. This trend started in the 1960's. I mentioned this because so many black children grow up in a single parent house. Now with adoption the single parent trend will continue. How does that help build a strong community. Also what happens to the women bloodline? With no natural children of their own thier bloodline ends. A high price to pay

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Ray Stanley, Columbia, Maryland — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 01:01:19 GMT

We have so many problems facing the black community. This series doesn't offered any solutions to the problems.

In the 1980's it was Black men who was featured on such series. Now in 2007 it's Black women- the new flavor.

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SDP — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 01:33:13 GMT

I am a long time NBC/Brian Williams fan and I am truly proud of the special this week. Unfortunately this week has been my busy week and I've been unable to watch all of segments and caught only the special on breast cancer. I must say that I commend NBC for focusing on our demographic in such an open, visible forum. Please continue to report on issues, that are relevant to our community, in whatever avenues you can.

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Taniya Hanspard, Livonia, MI — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 01:54:33 GMT

I really like the series on African American Woman. I think that society is very sensitive to issues of race. It's not wrong to acknowledge our cultural differences. It's important to understand why they exists and what can be done about it.

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Janet, Baltimore, MD — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 03:24:58 GMT

Grateful that Brian Williams and NBC was brave enough to touch snippets of African American women, issues that affect our communities as a whole and snippets of our accomplishments. And I am not suprised WE did not get the time on air that WE( African
American women) and other ethnic groups deserve. That's why I strongly believe WE must continue to tell our own stories in every way possible.

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Kawana, Chicago — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:15:06 GMT

Thanks for airing stories for and about us. I've Tivo'd it every evening! It's not a Dateline special where every facet can be covered in depth...I appreciate what's been done each day.

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Benilda Tillman, Little Rock, AR — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:23:23 GMT

It's finally going to happen. African Americans are getting some very good publicity through regular media. It's a start. I'm encouraged by Mr. Mark Whitaker for suggesting Ms. Rehema do this piece. If you will allow me to remind all our readers without being censored, Mr. Jonhson, owner and publisher of Jet and Ebony Magazines, dedicated his life to uplift the African American community with good reporting. His company continue to show our Brothers and Sisters in a positive light for over fifty years now. There are millions of young boys and African American men that are doing well, thank you. Yes, we have almost a million black men and boys in jail, and some in the free population are not striving for the American dream. The solution to the shortage of black men is to begin with early education (from birth), teaching our babies the history of this great country. We need story-tellers; call the preachers to attention, call the real daddy's to reach out to other young men with mentoring. Encourage them to create avenues for history to be thought with exhortation and application. One of the ways to end the shortage of black men for the next generation (this generation missed the mark), is to teach and show our young people that they too add value to society and the community. Everyday is a new opportunity to excel and be good citizens. Not to worry my sister: live, love and date were your heart takes you. The last census showed a figure of 46,000,000 African Americans as U.S. citizens, and counting. Do we expect everyone to stay within the race? "Come on, people." The brothers have been stepping out for the longest. Can we have a real discussion?

Benilda Tillman, Little Rock, AR (Sent Thursday, November 29, 2007 10:18 PM)

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Imani, Colorado Springs, CO — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:45:08 GMT

I applaud the efforts of everyone involved in the production of this series. It was very nice to see a major network devote time to some of the issues that are faced by African American women. Thank you!

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Jean W, San Mateo, Ca — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:54:51 GMT

Many thanks to NBC and Brian Williams for preparing
those brief dissertations on the various issues related to African American women.

It was very disppointing to watch because my expectations were so big.

But I truly believe all things happen for a reason and I would estimate that 80% of the women who watched the broadcast now have a bigger " fire in their belly " to help spread the word on the top five issues facing African American women and this broadcast has brought us all closer together.

I have started to brainstorm with friends on new
ways to disseminate literature on women's issues.

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Chantelle, Atlanta, GA — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 05:06:23 GMT

Very disappointed in the series, it was so much hype about it and then to see 3 or 4 minutes of coverage which was not very interesting. But I guess we should be happy that we had that much huh?

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Jun Nishihara, Japan — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 07:29:59 GMT

First, I wanna say "thank you" for this series. I'm a Japanese man who have dated an African American woman. Personally I have never considered "color" as a factor to start a relationship with a woman. And this kind of series focusing on relationship, health care, politics and so forth from the standpoints of Black women just simply help us broaden our minds. Telling us that it's just just black and white in this world any more. It's beyond that and at the end of the day, when you turn out the lights, we are all same "color." I am currently in Japan now, but this is what I love about America. America, or U.S.A., is a country SO DEVIDED IN COLOR AND YET, SO UNITED IN "COLOR" that is NOT afraid to talk about ethnicity on a national news broadcast. I do not believe ANY other country in this planet has guts to do that. And that is why I love America. America is so diverse. America is so colorful. And yet America AT LEAST tries to be united as ONE. And this series is an example of that. For that, thank you!

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G. Haferkamp, Thomasville, NC — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 11:40:02 GMT

This series is very insightful. Thanks for your good reporting. I am a Black woman with a Masters in Information Systems. I worked for 40 years. My first husband died when our daughters were young, so I raised them alone. Now that I have grandchildren, I decided that I could have a life. Being a computer geek, I joined an internet dating service even though I was in my late 50s. Well, I couldn't believe it! Even though I stated a preference for Black men in my profile, I received lots of comments from White men. Just when I decided that internet dating was taking too much time and started to quit, I received an email from a special guy. My older daughter told me to answer him. Well, I did. After dating one year, we married. My husband and I have been married 4 years. We are now in our 60s and travelling the world. Oh, did I mention that he is White and wonderful. I was married twice before to Black men and my life with them was challenging. Now I am living the life I dreamed of.

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Sybil, Supply, NC — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 12:48:44 GMT

Hmmmm. We are still being noticed. For all the ways we impact this nation. I just 'watched' the first couple of days and attendant video and am informed, pleased and thankful that you chose to make this an issue for Nightly News.
As a survivor of breast cancer surgery and the attendant 'stuff' of 'survival' I am always interested to see if anybody else is handling that piece the way it affects me. It's all going to boil down, in the end, to how we take care of each other, 'neither black nor white', but individuals, 'fearfully and wonderfully made', one by one really make a difference.
More when I get to finish the series. Appreciate the professionalism of your work.

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Linda Harrs, Stone Mountain, GA — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 15:40:54 GMT

I applaud NBC for recognizing that African-American women have 'issues' that are unique to them simply because they have racial, women's, AND economic issues. I am so sick and tired of people taking the attitude that African-American men are being overlooked in the workplace and are being replaced by African-American women. The fact is: Generally, the bar in the African-American community is higher for women than men. Women are held to stricter discipline rules and higher educational goals. The result: a very successful person. Our problem is 'the downside'. The majority of my college friends left the workplace to become stay of home moms. None of expect to return to work. Why? We are no longer the 10-hour day workaholics and most of us do not want to start at entry-level. And even at that, if the decision is between a 'younger person' who has been in the field a couple of years vs. a returning middle level manager who has been out of the field a couple of years, the 'younger person' will get the job. And very few people will hire an African-American woman returning into the workplace as a middle or upper level manager. Alternative: start your own business. And so the story goes. I am not complaining, that's the story. The last time I checked, the most successful African-American businesswoman on the planet owns her own business, Ms. Oprah Winfey.
What NBC did not say, but I think inherently understands, is that what affects one of us, affects all of us. If African-American women are negatively or positively affected, we are ALL affected. African-American women tend to be 'leading indicators'.

African American women: Your response

Metropolitan DC area — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 16:03:24 GMT

As a responsible black male who reviewed the discussion on family, I am saddened and a bit angry at how black men are pictured. You intereview three women who were divorced and seemed to blame black men for all their problems. Why don't you interview their ex-husbands to get their views? All the men in my circle of friends are responsible, and if divorced, pay their child support. They desparately love their children. You don't reference the women who use these kids as tools to vent their anger at the father. Few men want to involve themselves with women who are angry, have three or more kids, bad credit, and physically out of shape. That's really why these women remain single. For single, never married black women, there's no reference to women who place career ahead of relationships. I've dated women who say they don't want a relationship that interfers with their career. Women put shallow requirements on men, such as their income,hair texture, and unfortunately, men do the same to women. The men I know believe in a two parent household just as much as the women you interviewed. There was no reference with the hidden racism and contempt black men who are NOT atheletes and entertainers deal with everyday in the workplace. I've seen bright, capable black men passed over for promotions and other perts for people less qualified many times. The hiring of a black female often addresses race and gender EEO requirements. In no other race of people do the females actively seek relationships outside of their race, EXCEPT for African Americans. Black men are tired of hearing "where are the good black men?" They'er everywhere.
PROUD BROTHER

African American women: Your response

Jayme G, New York, NY — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 16:32:08 GMT

I have so many problems with this series. Let me start with the few good things: Some higher ups agreed to allow this series to happen. Black women are not an ongoing part of the discussions that go on in this country, and at the very least, this series put our issues on primetime TV and acknowledged that we are overlooked by the media, the medical world, etc. Rehema Ellis's goals are admirable as far as continued coverage of Black women in mainstream media—good luck. The issues touched on were ones that needed the limelight.

Now, as far as this being a well reported piece, a full service to Black women, and an act that motivates people to pay attention: the five minute segments barely scratched the surface. You told black women what we already know: our men are not staying in school or not doing well, our doctors don't know anything about our bodies and often dismiss us, most of us are single and wondering what corner of the world are good black men hiding in. The problem with this, as it relates to us is that you didn't dig past that. Not just that these things are happening, but investigate the predujices behind it, and how we can move forward positively, not just as black women, but as a country. You didn't go to the doctors that blow black women off, you didn't talk to black women who haven't been able to find a partner and hear they're concerns and not put a charge on black women to find someone to help raise their children, negating the single mothers that have to regardless if they can find someone to help or not... there was so much more work that needed to be put into this report.

Now certainly, if for whatever reason, you could not give an entire show or a longer segment per day to these subjects, then why not partner with an organization who can reach people more directly and get into issues in greater detail? A group that could carry on the discussions and ultimately find solutions and you could bring these discussions and solutions to the national spotlight as often as you could. The five seconds you gave the Editor in Cheif of Essence magazine should've been utilized better: here's a forum where these discussions will continue and where appropriate parties will be held accountable or asked to comment on the injustices, the inequalities, etc in this country.

And the emphasis should've been put on the fact that black women's problems are not just ours, but they affect communities as a whole. You're speaking to a country, who, for the most part, turned the channel when they saw African American Women series. This country thinks that we've got our own problems and should take care of them, not realizing that there are outside factors involved—many of which affect citizens who aren't super wealthy no matter their race. That is how you sell this campaign to America. You can talk about the plight of black women, and give us a service that can help our individual situations, but you must pull a national concern. Much like your story about black women and their vote will probably convince this country of our power, talk about how the aggressive nature of cancer in black women, how our growing numbers in higher education, how our single status and the growing number of single mothers who scrape together whatever resources they can to care for their children, and how our boys and young men not having role models and not doing well in school, all affects this country.

We must empower ourselves to handle our situations, as should all races, but when you're dealing with a group of people who clearly have suffered not just from personal bad decisions but also from a country that does not care about the value of black women, it is a national issue. And just imagine the women and children facing not only the issues you brought up in your series, but also other devastations that will no doubt hinder their experiences and access to better things in life and will strike the core of their faith in this country and even in themselves. (ie. Katrina victims) For those that suffer the everyday unimaginable for most people in this country, imagine what their future holds, and how it will affect yours.

More work, more effort, more concern, more visibility...I just hope that this is not the end of your coverage on black women as a national concern because there is so much more. Do not pat yourselves on the back yet, NBC. Not yet. Read these comments, and see what the next steps are. Make change; Don't just talk about the fact that change needs to happen.

African American women: Your response

Sandra Pigott, Baltimore, Maryland — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 17:04:18 GMT

Even though most of the posts addressed disappointment that the series on Black women in America was not longer, I am just happy that ANY mention was made of us at all. I agree that most of what we have seen only touched the surface, but I applaud NBC, Raheema Ellis and Bryan Williams for stepping up to the plate to present this series. This is an evening news program, not a special hourlong series on the subjects presented. Maybe something can be done in the future on Dateline or NBC news can do something special on the topics that affect African American women. Bryan Williams is the best evening news anchor and I commend him and the team for their reporting, no matter how short it was.

African American women: Your response

Kesha Boyce Williams, Cleveland, OH — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 19:17:23 GMT

It is difficult to really deal with the issues that face the African-American woman in three minutes. Rehema, kudos to you for even trying. However, I would like to see us go a little further in this dialogue. We already know the stats. The question is what are we going to do about it? Are their positive models trying to rebuild the current pattern of black relationships? Yes, they are. If you want to know about a really good success story, contact me. I'd also be interested in hearing about programs that are teaching our young people about developing healthy relationships. If this dialouge doesn't start happening now, it will be even harder to turn the tide.

African American women: Your response

Yolanda Anderson — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 02:00:04 GMT

Rehema Ellis and Brian Williams, I would like to
Thank you both for the week long series on Black Women. I'm an AA Woman, College Professor, I'm 52 yrs old and sad to say; I have never been married…. And NO, I have don't have "Baby-Daddy-Drama" either - I have NO children. I have labored in deep thought about the disparity of AA women in America. You are correct; there is a shortage of quality, intelligent AA men in our current hemisphere. Over the past year, I have been extremely depressed with my current single status. Altho, I am very grateful and blessed for my job, family and friends -- but, I still have a certain void in my life. I have dated other races, and enjoyed their company in social gathering and private time. However, I am NOT ready to make the quantum leap to commit to an interracial marriage. So I will continue on w/my life and focus on better health choices and hope I find a worthy companion in my lifetime. I'm not overweight, but I need to exercise and eat right.
I am well aware (in some areas) that white women receive better health care information and healthcare resources than AA women.
I will begin to lecture to my young AA students about better healthcare choices, diet and exercise that will improve the quality of their lives – not just today – but for the future.
Again, thank you for the great series on AA women.

Professor, Detroit

African American women: Your response

CW — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 13:46:31 GMT

It's ironic that the loudest critics of interracial relationships for black women...are neither
black women, nor..white(hispanic,asian,ect)men....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-xReCc1AF_I
"Black Women Deserve Better"
http://thecwexperience.wordpress.com

African American women: Your response

Robin "Robbie"Ayele — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 20:57:26 GMT

Black women need to stop feeling guilty for taking care of ourselves and handling our own business. We should be more than willing to celebrate our achievements and be pleasantly surprised that we are being lauded as being not only successful women but also complex human beings.

African American women: Your response

Robin "Robbie" Ayele, Hebron, Maryland — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 03:49:24 GMT

Thank you for that wonderful and informative segment on the growing trend of African American women dating and marrying white men. However, it should be noted that many sisters are also exploring romantic opportunities with men who are of the same race but from different cultures. Most of my girlfriends are married to non-African American men who come from places like Jamaica, Barbados or Africa. And I have been happily married to an Ethiopian man for two years now.

So it is wonderful that African American women are being open minded and exploring new avenues to get what we want in terms of relationships. I applaud our determination to find love and happiness where we can.

African American women: Your response

Yvette Christina, Los Angeles — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 04:48:03 GMT

Dear NBC/ Brian Williams/ Rehema

What an explosion your series has created and I am so GLAD! This is my first time ever responding to any media report . Two weeks ago I laid in my bed crying my eyes out trying to figure out what was wrong with me. I have been wracking my brain trying to figure out why I have been having such a difficult time finding an African American mate. My esteem has taken such a beating over the years. You’ve now confirmed that I am not alone. I am 47, intelligent and a so called beauty. I do not have any children and have managed to care for myself without outside financial assistance. I don’t have a degree but have accomplished great success on Broadway and in television. I have taken every route a person could take in embracing my African American men. Not trying to be funny, I have dated younger, older, educated, unemployed, mama’s boys as well as being open to those who are “challenged”. It’s not out of desperation but the desire to create my own family. I am flabbergasted at how often the African American man is intimidated. I promise every one on this blog including all the outraged men that this is a HUGE dilemma. Just this past year I dated a 35 year old Prince/lawyer from Nigeria, a 42 year college grad, and a Pastor/Minister with a Ph.D. Each ended in failure as they were not interested in dealing with someone who was strong and had some common sense. I also found that they presented themselves in a manner which was not exactly truthful to who they really were. Something has happened in our community whereas they have lost faith in who they are and do not trust to present their true identity whether they are struggling personally, financially, or spiritually. I keep wondering if it has something to do with the economic strain of survival in our undoubtedly biased society. I also have experienced a substantial battle in men who are in denial of their sexuality thusly leading them into the world on the down low. I have come out of each situation devastated. Although this may be a strong statement to stand on, I wonder if it’s the uprising of single motherhood that is keeping these men from a good balanced upbringing? I admire single mothers but I can’t stop thinking that this may be influencing the lack of commitment in our current and future men. I also noticed that a few of the male bloggers stated that the women are looking for too many characteristics. After what I’ve been through you have to be specific and pointed. I won’t lie, my first questions are, “Have you worked in the last five years? Are you inclined to sleep with a man? Do you believe in health insurance? Do you know how to turn on a DVD? Are you willing to get tested?” It’s that DEEP these days!

I also would like to ask for the happily married bloggers to have a bit more compassion for the sisters who have not been as blessed as they are at this point in their life. This issue needed to be brought to light. The great family life has been brought into focus plenty of times. So many African American women are hurting and we need to be heard. The operative statement is “Look at the statistics”. Pray for us.

In conclusion, I still love men and will continue to have hope even though my experience has been disheartening. Thank you for letting me know that I was not crazy.

African American women: Your response

K. Martin, Knoxville, TN — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 13:38:11 GMT

Ms. Ellis,

I have read some very compelling and VARIED ideas and solutions regarding our relatioships with each other on this one response board alone. Our ability to communicate has always existed but not encouraged on a larger scale other than a few of the sistas or brothas gathering together to lament about their status. First off we have to realize that time and effort on our parts is the only way to treat these all too important issues. With regards to the health issue for instance, we constantly hear that black americans are mostly likely to die of this or that disease and, yes, we have continually asked why! Is it because we do not arrange for our yearly physicals nor make the time for them? The entire race of blacks are not ignorant as all would want us to believe. This excuse is the one that is constantly presented. How true is this statement? Obesity is NOT indicative of blacks alone. Could it be that no one particularly knows or even care that much about the physiology of blacks in general? Deeper still are we THAT different? How much of a role is racism playing here? There must be issues in certain health solutions that do not work for us and why do we not know about them? What does that say about the medical field? I am not one that just accepts the "excuse of the moment" scenario. There is always something more.

A suggestion comes to mind, we are very much in the know of what the state of Black America is, now what we need is the various solutions to be given air time.

African American women: Your response

hobey stanfield , louisville, ky — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 23:02:40 GMT

I am a white man, married to a black woman and i have dated only black women my whole adult life, so i thought this was an interesting piece, although it focused too much on professions. My wife and I are both blue collar type people who fell in love. She wasn't even seeking a white man, but i was friends with her cousin and thats how we met. It is true about a shortage of black men...most of my friends are black men and i don't know one that don't cheat and for that matter , most of them think your a square if you don't cheat, so i think black women get sick of this mentality. I'm not sure why this is so, but it has been my experience that this is a problem.

African American women: Your response

Angie Hubbard, Reynoldsburg, OH — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 23:16:32 GMT

Rahema,

I thought the series was absolutely awesome!! Kudos to you and Brian Williams for such an impactful television segment. I also am a divorced mother of a son, and I share some of your same experiences. I encourage you to continue to uplift the rest of us sisters in the media.

African American women: Your response

Sandra Magnavito, Rapid City, South Dakota — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 23:54:49 GMT

As a 59 year old retired professional black woman, who has been married for 37 years to a white man, and whose mother and grandmother both died of breast cancer, I thought Rehema did an excellent job, given the time restraints. When I dated while at Temple U. 1965-1969) and dated both races, I was ostricized by black sorority but I did not allow it to bother me. My husband and I got married secretly at Temple U. in Phila., and then 4 months later married again with all our families gathered together in New York.
I supported my husband while he worked on his masters and doctorate, yet he always had the GI Bill and part time jobs for extra income while he was in graduate school. After my diagnosis of lupus in 1975,he was my support while I struggled with masters program, teaching fulltime, and a 4 year old. Then 15 years later, when I decided to go for my doctorate,and our oldest could help take care of her brother, my husband supported me as well, even when it meant spending summers 500 miles away! I am ABD (All But the Dissertation) because severe lupus flares forced me to rethink my priorities. I now use all of my energy to keep myself alive, while helping others with SLE, since every day is a gift from God.

African American women: Your response

Jennifer Mabry — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 05:14:48 GMT

Thank you Ms. Ellis, Mark Whitaker and NBC for focusing on US - Black Women - and allowing our stories, successes and life be on the front page of mainstream media reporting for once. You did a wonderful job and covered the issues that are facing us very thoroughly,objectively and with thought and solid execution. Ms. Ellis, I've followed your career at NBC News for years, you're to be commended for your fine work on this and every other story you cover. I really appreciated that you also took off your reporter's hat, momentarily, to show that you, too, as a successful, high-profile Black woman face difficulties in life. Your little boy is adorable and very blessed to have you as his mother. Keep up the good work!

African American women: Your response

Anne Wyman, Charleston, SC — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 15:49:27 GMT

I teach in a predominantly black school whith a very high rate of teenage pregnancy. I heard you mention a documentary you had been working on examining the changing lives of African American women. I would love to get more information on this video, I think it would be benneficial to many of my students to see positive role models who are making decisions as opposed to having them forced upon them. Please email me any information on this or other documentaries concerning issues related to the current African American experience would be greatly appreciated.

African American women: Your response

SheCodes — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 20:01:59 GMT

Dear Rehema,

Thank you selecting my message to be read on the air on Friday. It was a huge surprise!

Our readers at <a href='http://www.whataboutourdaughters.blogspot.com'>What About our Daughters</a> and have avidly watched your series, and would love to talk to you further -- not only about this series, but also about the firestorm of issues that invariably crop up when one attempts to present a black and female perspective in the television and digital world.

If you are interested in talking with us, please contact me via email.

Again, thank you for thinking of black women, and for opening a national dialogue concerning the issues that we are concerned about the most.

African American women: Your response

gwendolyn goldsmith leonard Lawndale, ca — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 23:25:25 GMT

I think that black man are intimidated by their women, whether it be in a marriage or dating relationship. Black women has always had their backs, but somhow alone the way they have become less respectful of us. I hope in the future they will regain their real manhood and honor and respect us again.

African American women: Your response

Nichelle McLemore, Houston, TX — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 23:40:08 GMT

Thank you for doing this special! I like the forum/round tables that allow us to showcase our varied ideas and the diverse opinions that we represent. Often, I feel that African American women are forgotten so I appreciate the attention at the national news level!!!

African American women: Your response

Loren Faith Buford — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 12:39:26 GMT

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African American women: Your response

P. Kelly — Sun, 09 Dec 2007 15:15:55 GMT

I enjoyed the focus of the report, but not enough is being done about racism, sexism, and discrimination on the job against Black females, especially those who don't fit the stereotypes.

In education, there is a movement that seeks to eliminate the Black middle class, and there is plenty of evidence, and stories reporters are missing.
Also, the stress factor, and how this is killing Black educators.
In the past five years I have either heard or attended the funerals of colleagues (majority Black female), who have died from complications of stress due to the racist climate the current administration has done nothing about. Even worse, to pretend that it doesn't exist. What does this say to young Black girls that after you get an education, expect to still be disrespected, overlooked for promotions, or told you have "an easy job" because you are perhaps, a librarian or computer specialist? Why is there still so much professional jealousy? Also, what about reverse racism from immigrants? Blacks from the Caribbean, and native born Black Americans are in conflict (in many schools), and competition for jobs, and I have also witnessed situations where administrators listened more to the gossip of their paramours, rather than eyewitness hard working staff members. There is "Pandora's Box" of problems in education that would truly reveal why our children are behind, and this hurts many Black mothers, daughters, and teachers, when no one listens to the cries of the inner cities, and our children continue to die intellectually, morally, socially, and physically due to the corrupt and racist institutions that are still flourishing in places such as New York City.

African American women: Your response

Patricia — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 03:33:44 GMT

Thank you for taking time to do this series. I am an African American women who is married to a white man. We will be celebrating our 6 year anniversary in 2008. I think it's about time that we really discuss race issues and the obstacles that black women face when looking for another mate. Thank you so much. BTW I am 27 and have a masters degree.

African American women: Your response

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African American women: Your response

Alicia Lacy-Parker York Pa — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:19:56 GMT

I have really enjoyed African American Woman where they stand. I am a 38 year old african americam woman who has been thinking about my what contributions I can elect to use in startign my own business I work for a major corporation now, and have been very unproductive in the setting, and obstacles provided with my current position with them. I have been home now for about 2 months and so far I have really made a great attribute to the productivity of my childrens sucess, as well my realtionship with my husband. I have alot of skills that I am tapping into to use a means of support. Your broadcast has inspired me to become aprt of the little percentae of african american wemen who have set the I can do aspect of saving the most important thig which is the family we provide for. Thank you,
Alicia Lacy-Parker

African American women: Your response

C Cooper, Indianapolis IN — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 18:50:32 GMT

It always amazes me when African Americans say: "Don't air our dirty laundry.." It's not a secret.

It probably would have been good to include a happy, successful family(ies) with two parents in the relationship interviews. I read a comment that one doesn't see elderly interracial couples because the relationships don't last. That may be because because it was illegal or severely frowned upon for blacks and whites to marry in many states in the not too distant past. Plus, many people have been afraid to stand out in the "wrong way." I am an African American woman married to a Caucasian man for almost five years now and I really love my husband. I didn't have a particular preference when it came to race. I wanted someone who shared my faith, standards, and could work with me toward common goals and still be his own person. A good man is difficult to find so I would not limit myself to one race because of others' opinions. My husband and I complement each other's personality and have a lot of fun.

Anyway, I'm enjoying the video segments online and will continue to read the posted reports and reader/viewer comments. Thank you, NBC.

African American women: Your response

Leslie Newson, Cedar Hill, TX — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 01:01:08 GMT

Rehema,

First, let me applaud you and Mark Whitaker from coming up with the idea. I am a big fan of NBC news, and I watch the broadcast with great anticipation and enjoyed it. I wished you would have included a story for women like myself. Black women who realized that with an education they would never be able to make it in today's business world.

I was one of those individuals who made between $18,000 and $30,000. But then it hit me, in order to make more money and move up in Corporate America I had to go back to school. When I decided to go back to school, it was a sacrifice not only for me, but my family as well.

Today, I am working in my field at United Healthcare as a telecommuter, and my future looks brighter than ever. I will be graduating on May 23 with my associates degree and my Bachelors Degree in Business Management in May 2009. All by the time I am 40 degrees.

Education! That is one of the things we need to let other black women know. If you want to make more money and move ahead in life or just extend your limits of your mind, education is the key.

Again, thanks for the broadcast and keep up the good work.

African American women: Your response

Tanjji, Somewhere, Illinois — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 03:52:37 GMT

As an educated young 29 year old black female, with NO kids and not on welfare. I say thank you. Too often we are depicted as being lower classed hoochies. Let us not be afraid to take the college degree out of storage and hang it up! After all, it was through a lot of tears and sweat that it was earned. As far as interracial dating is concerned, it is time that black women stop being afraid of what society thinks and do what makes you happy.

African American women: Your response

Craig — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:03:48 GMT

This series is a giant stepping stone! Thank You!

The African American Woman is to diverse for one series to define her. As history has shown us all (if we are students of it). She is blessed to be unlimited in her accomplishments regardless of the obstacles she has faced.

When she rises. We rise! When he rises. We rise!
So as man and woman, We must rise together to met the challenges that our community's face. Together We will make these challenges our stepping stones not our stumbling blocks. But we must first acknowledge them. Then act on them appropriately.

Sisters continue to rise!