African American women: where they stand

Paula Mooney — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:37:25 GMT

As a black woman, I'm very much looking forward to this series and I hope you guys put up the full series online for my readers to watch free:
http://www.WatchFreeEpisodes.com

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Deena Pierott, Vancouver, WA — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 19:25:42 GMT

As an African American woman, and now business owner, I must agree that it's more difficult to gain the exposure and acceptance as our male counterparts. However, I'm not going to use that as an excuse for not forging ahead, I'll view it as a challenge that I must meet and overcome with the strategic partnerships I'm building with other diverse professionals. And I must say that I would much rather face this type of business issues than the barriers we have to face each and everyday in corporate America by being undervalued, under-utilized, excluded from informative meetings, even mindless tasks to complete, the list goes on and on. Now I have the freedom to explore my visionary ideas and concepts and not allow them to be taken away an given to a white counterpart to oversee and get credit and accolades for...Now this sister is in the drivers seat and it feels great!

Looking forward to the show.

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Black woman, Baltimore, MD — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:07:01 GMT

You are right black women are so smart and excelling like never before but we are not too bright when it comes to having our partner wear a condom while having sex. We are contracting HIV/AIDS at the like never before. To have launch this series without this being a major issue is almost unforgivable! Where is the dialogue on HIV/AIDS and black women! While all that other stuff is important the real deal is that Black women will not be around to be MOTHERS or GRADUATE from institutes of higher learning or VOTE if we do not address the fact that we are the face of new HIV/AIDS cases with a disproportionate rate of contracting this disease and dying from it or the cancers that we are prediposed to getting if HIV+. Wake up black women/people and NBC, this was your chance to bring this most important issue to the forefront. WE(BLACK WOMEN) ARE IN DENIAL- our pastors, FAMILY, clergy, news reporters, TV and all the media, Tavis included. Who is going to honor the convenant if we are NOT around to be a part of it. We are in our own pandemic and need to work together. The US has reduced transmission of the disease to our children which is a plus. Prevention is the key to winning the battle, stigma reduction is also essential. I am not HIV positive+ and am planning on doing what ever I need to to stay that way. Oh yeah by the way while black women are earning and launching careers and businesses like crazy, our children are going crazy too- sorry to bring that up but again where is the discussion on that?

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Katina Logan, Atlanta, Ga — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:09:57 GMT

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Katina Logan, Atlanta, Ga — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:12:58 GMT

Too many black men don't appreciate black women, why would we expect non-black men to appreciated black women? Black women are not a symbol of beauty in most non-black men minds.

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Dave, Tn — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:16:39 GMT

Be nice if nbc could do an interview with Janks Morton about his documentary "What Black Men Think."

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just a black woman — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:59:48 GMT

Can we please talk about black women's issues without involving black men?

I'd rather be totally focused in solving black womens problems without towards black men.

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Cynthia Watkins — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:20:11 GMT

I am looking forward to this series. Hopefully, there will be more "positive" than "negative". I feel that of all women, African-American women in modern-day America are continually disrespected, and I hope that will start to change.

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Paige - Florida — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:28:37 GMT

That fact of the matter scares me I am young black woman with no hopes of marrying my own. Due to the fact that I am educated and successful, so now what is one to do? We should not and will not be left behind, we choose to better ourselves but yet we still get left behind with no hopes of sharing success’s, our joy, our love, and having the pleasure share child birth - with our men. What should we do? I have so many questions concerning this issue. I would love to request more information about this series.

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Gina, from WAOD — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:41:06 GMT

For some interesting questions you ought to be asking while watching the beginning of tonight's series about African American, one of the contributors to our blog wrote a wonderful post on how mainstream media attempts to define Black women and harps on all of the things we DON'T have instead of celebrating what we have accomplished.
http://whataboutourdaughters.blogspot.com/2007/11/be-revolutionary-instead-of-reactionary.html

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Tonya Bizzell, Hughesville, MD — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:41:06 GMT

The words, "you must learn how to stand on your own and take care of yourself", must be a template for most of our moms. I guessing is was a direct result of them being left alone to care for us children. But the one interesting thing that I've noticed in my family as well as exteded families, the males in my family have been left out in terms of that extra push to be independent. The moms were so busy seeing to it that their daughters don't end up like them, they forgot all about the boys. And if there was no father figure there to teach them, I gues the moms just assumed that it would come naturally. Now we have a large amount of males who are underacheivers or don't support their partners or spouses when it comes to fullfilling their dreams.

40 year old mom and grandmother.

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Edith E. Brown, Washington, D.C. — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:46:50 GMT

I don't think it is appropriate to separate Black women from Black men. Are there still not born little Black boy babies. They will grow to be men. I am a Black female who raised my children alone. I never went on welfare, never talked my ex-husband down to my children, just kept on keeping on. Black women have issues too that need addressing, really addressing...as a Black female, I know and recognize this. I believe this type of thing aggravates the situation. There must be another way.

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Peggy Washington, Brooklyn, New York — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:48:41 GMT

There is a young female rapper name "Tylibah" who has bursted on the scene in the world of hip-hop. She brings a fresh, innovative wave to the stage of rap. Her lycrics are refreshingly positive and is dedicated to inspiring young people who are the number one supporter of this portion of the music industry. She is 22 years old and would have added great flavor to the list of individuals you will be interviewing for your program.

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Pheonyx, Dayton Ohio — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 21:58:52 GMT

Black women may very well have issues yet to be addressed but dispite those issues we are still taking a stand and becoming more independant, as well we should. Too often we face a shortage of good black men and life will continue to move on for us with or without them. There is no need for us to stand on our hands any longer waiting for a prince who may never show up, especially while many of them are now looking for a Queen to come save them.

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walter plattiers, Princeton, New Jersey — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 22:30:13 GMT

I applaud your effort to assess American Women of African descent,however, I am concerned your "findings" may have common threads that are woven through other groups of differing ethnicities and age groups and not a unique phenomenon among women of African descent. Until a comprehensive study is completed of other ethnic populations and not just Women with a common "description" (e.g.Black,etc)the report does not have much meaning.

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Dr. Don — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 22:39:21 GMT

I look forward to the series but I will say this. Women of all races have issues with respect because of how they carry themselves. I can point to a dozen examples but I will focus on tattoos now. What is this new thing with lower back tattoos, that brings attn. to your butt and causes men to stare. Or low cut blouses and your name across your double D cup breast. Why ask for that attn.??? and why falt a man for that being his focal point when that is what you have highlited. All the men I councel that have ever “disrespected” a woman were given an non verbal pass by the woman’s complicitness.
All races of women that come into my office with “man issues” and as a man anonymously speaking, I would suggest you cook, clean, and initiate love making to your man just one more day a week than you do now and I would all but bet my practice that it would keep your relationship going another 10 years.

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Desiree Hickman, Chicago, IL — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 22:45:53 GMT

It's interesting to see that we can be a topic of discussion: "Where do we stand"
It seems that we are always measured against each other rather than together-black women and black mean. If Black women are doing well then the Black man must be failing. Yes, it's hard for both of us to get ahead in a society that makes sure that we know "our" place is behind everyone else. I'm going to watch this special to see what they think about us now, but what we as a people must learn to do is to care what we think of ourselves
Love yourself and show yourself lovable. Black women and men must learn to come together to re-build our family units-together we can make a difference
Everyone should watch, read and stay up on what society is thinking about us at all times.
But trust yourself and your God to know what is really important for you and yours. Educate yourself everyday to do better: When you know better, you'll DO better .........Words to live by everyday

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Kevin S. Hamilton, San Francisco,CA — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 22:52:50 GMT

I couldn't agree with Edith more. Bottomline, brothas underestimate the impact of their actions on sustas (negatively) and sustas underestimate the impact of 'themselves' in terms of their part in attracting (or the inability to attract) capable brothas. We all could learn a little something if we just open our minds up a bit and stop pointing fingers

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Tim, Detroit, MI — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 23:31:56 GMT

Zora Neale Hurston called Black women the "mule of the world" Has much changed the early part of the 20th century? Not at all. Black women who so wish to be seen as they are: dignified, intelligent, and capable people, must endure images of a 'ho', a 'welfare queen', 'hood rat', even as 'black woman at the podium', but never as complex women with contradictory interests and ideas. The rise of black women in the middle class has not really changed this, and it is disgusting. --a white man from Detroit

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Black_n_Proud, Detroit,MI — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 23:33:08 GMT

I am a black professional black man of African ancestry. I am educated and ambitious and have a J.O.B :-). My suggestion for my black sisters is to give a chance to the african brother, after all we are the same people.We cannot let our race down.

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Roy Stone — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 23:47:23 GMT

Get over this African thing.. stick with black.. there is no such individual as an American African.. after 400 years the only connection that blacks have to Africa is some remote ethnicity. Just be an American.. if whites are white blacks are black.. and not some kind of another American.

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Deondre House - Dallas, TX — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 23:49:42 GMT

In reading the write-up on the upcoming series, it appears that there will be some positive information given about African-American women. For that, I'm thankful. But we must realize that we still have things to learn - and there's no shame in that. Additionally, we can't separate ourselves from African American men - because we create them - and we must take our responsibility seriously, as should they. I'm truly excited about this series and hope we (African-American women) take this seriously - learn from it and move forward from it. Keep in mind, information is power!!!

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Donna Blackshear-Reynolds Houston, TX — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:05:10 GMT

Thank you NBC for this week of coverage, I emailed over 500 friends to watch and I know this plan of coverage was forwarded to many others. I would like to see us look more deeply into the issue of the "why" african american males are being lost in the education system and what could be done to combat it.

Also recent studies show not just education but generational wealth is an important factor in the success of African Americans -- the "40 Acres and a Mule"...we should investigate that as well...

Good job Rahima!

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V. L. Baldwin-McDuffie, Hampton Roads, VA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:06:29 GMT

Thank you NBC for this "news-worthy" opportunity to highlight the life issues concerning African-American Women in America. America really needs to see that "we" have been here making history and will continue to be trendsetters, in spite of......an assortment of obstacles.

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Patricia Goodwin, Rochester Hills ,MI — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:07:06 GMT

As the mother of three educated children, two male and one female, I know first hand that the boys were treated differently in their predominatedly white high school here in suburban Detroit...Its up to parents to get involved with the schools to insure equity on that level. Otherwise,we must strive to provide strong family values in the home for all children

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P Lawrence — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:07:27 GMT

Interesting to read everyone comments, did anyone ever think about how and why we became what we are becoming? Please take note within the daily lifestyles of black women, employers employ more black women not because of what appears to be seen via media or on videos but what comes out of a black woman's mouth when she shows up to work. There is a level of trust that has been established and that trust is a form of currency as well as education.

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Gina — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:13:11 GMT

Once again MSM is trying to convince the winners that they are losers. Now in every other part of the world BILLIONS of humanitarian dollars are expended to educate women and it is considered a success when it happens, but ONLY in AMERICA can black woman getting an education be presented as a tragedy or be couched in terms of what Black men aren't doing.

Well as promised, NBC Nightly News began a five part series that was supposed to be about African American women, but ended up, as usual, being all about African American men. How the heck did that happen. All these wonderful stats about Black women were immediately juxtaposed by some negative statistics about Black men. they should have called the series "African American Men: Where They Stand". Now if Black men outnumbered Black women in college, would Brian Williams have referred to the phenomenon as an achievement gap?

This piece didn't say anything I didn't already know. SO MUCH FOR Investigative Reporting. Reading a couple of Back issues of Essence magazine does not qualify as research. http://whataboutourdaughters.blogspot.com

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Kelly W. Dallas, TX — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:13:13 GMT

I hope this series will discuss the good news in the Black community. I am a 35 year old college-educated Black woman who is happily married to a 34 year old Black man who has two Masters degrees and works for a Fortune 100 company. It can be so refreshing when the mainstream media tells that story too, instead of the usual doom and gloom in our community.

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Barbie 1, Newark, De — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:17:00 GMT

I Am a youg black singlle mom of a now 22 year old son. I gave birth at fifteen years old I was never on welfare and raised my son and went to school full time, and worked a night job. I am now a Rn working for a hospital in Pa. We as a people always bring up the question of disrespect. A man only does what you allow him to do and what i see in the young people is that disrespect is a rite of passage it's okay to be called the "B" OR THE "W" word because its cool. I emplore all women to stand up for yourselves and not allow disrespect anymore.

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J. Sims, Benton Harbor, MI — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:17:42 GMT

The reason is simple that black women seem to advance more readily than black men; there are simply more of them. And what about us black men like myself who have done everything we were told; no drug use, a college degree (double major with honors), a clean driving record, no children, and no criminal record, and still the only employment in terms of "upward mobility" we are offered are the most menial of task? Why should we go to school when after graduating, people still wont give us the benefit of the doubt as far as having a brain or being able to do a job?

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Gloria, Freeport, NY — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:17:43 GMT

Every gift (man) is not gift wrapped. We have to look beyond the box of whether someone is black, or a professional. Many well to do families lack love and yet we associate happiness with affluence. Look for someone who shares your ideals of what makes you happy, who is good to you and has a respect for what you believe in and things should work out ok. If he earns enough money to comfortably take care of himself (knowing that you have self sufficient incoem), then that in and of itself is a start- you can make it work.

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Sheila, Georgia — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:22:01 GMT

I am a female, African-American educator. I catch more grief from mothers for chastising their sons, than I have ever caught for reprimanding their daughters. When I moved to the South, a newly found friend told me, "women pet their sons, and raise their daughters." I have found this to be so true! Some of these single women allow their boys to walk around in baggy pants, give them access to pornographic music videos, etc., and then expect something different than what they end up getting when they grow up. I can tell that my Black girls are getting a different upbringing, one that is making them strong and capable. I have already told my pre-teen daughter that she may have to marry outside of her race, but if this man lives by the same Christian values that I am trying to raise her by, and loves, and respects her, marry him---by all means!

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ER Brown, Indy — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:23:12 GMT

Please note the two very powerful comments posted by Tonya Bizzell and Edith Brown. Black female struggles cannot be separated from Black male struggles as long as we are raising boys.

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Sam Cannon — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:25:16 GMT

Is it possible to get a transcript of this evening's report? I only caught part of it, and I would like to read the whole piece.

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Maxine Stewart, Washington, DC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:25:32 GMT

I feel that as a society we do not push the African American male to succeed the way we push African American females. We tend to say poor little black boy and allow him to make excuses for non-performance. Black women are looking for more than just a racial partner. They are looking for someone who is compatible on every level. We want to hold an interesting conversation. We want someone who is not afraid that their mate makes more money than they do. Men no longer are the bread winners. They must now share that role and often suffer from ego trips when their mate makes more. Also, we want men who are willing to take part in the adventures that the daily workforce may bring (e.g. dinner meetings, dinner parties, etc.) without being intimidated by the attendees.

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MIKE COAKLEY — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:25:39 GMT

IS THIS REALLY NEWS? WHO SHOULD CARE WHETHER ONE IS WHITE, BLACK, BROWN, RED, YELLOW, ETC. I'M WHITE AND PROUD OF IT, BUT IF I WAS BLACK WHY ATTACK ME IF I'M DOING BETTER THAN AVERAGE....WHY NOT COMPARE MALE AGAINST FEMALE AND QUIT BEING RACIST....QUIT DIGGING UP DIRT, QUIT STIRRING UP TROUBLE, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM....LET A DEAD DOG LIE, AND LETS PREY, SOME DAY WE ALL GET LONG, WITHOUT SOMEONE AGITATING OUR COLOR PROBLEM

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Bernie Blackmon, St. Louis,, MO — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:27:54 GMT

I was thrilled to learn of this series and while I know time will not allow indepth reporting, it begins the discussion. African-American women have unique circumstances in so many ways and are probably the most maligned and stereotyped of all women. Good for NBC. Hope it opens the floodgates on the topic.

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Cabrel, Atlanta, Georgia — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:28:23 GMT

I thought the information was true. I'm in Atlanta and a male co-worker visited Clark Atlanta University on his lunch break to pick up and transcript and came back to the office shocked that he'd seen virtually no men on campus. Here in Atlanta, the difference is clear as day. I am in my late 30's, never married with no kids and right now, there is nothing that I want more. I am educated, in fact, I'm hoping to head back to school next yr to get my MBA. There's a large black gay population here, as well as a large prison population which lowers the numbers. Because there are more black women here than men, the men feel like they have too many choices to "settle" for just one. The every day brother is intimidated by my strength, the fact that I'm independent and my pay. I'm strong because I have to be and have had to be for so long. It's hard to relinquish your care to someone does not have the qualifications to handle the responsibility. The roles are switching, not just for black women. And it is sad because we are still women and like Stephanie Mills once said, nothing understands like the comfort of a good, strong, kind, loving man.

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rah — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:30:24 GMT

If black women were seriously attracting non-black men, we would not have half the 'issues' we currently have. If non-black men treated black women the same way they would treat other women, the majority of our 'problems' would be eliminated.
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To bad you yourself can only create a black man. From what I understand about slavery is that there was a huge mulatto population created by white slave masters and black women. Why didn't that solve the problem as you've stated? Grow up and stop the crap.

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Keisha, DC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:31:12 GMT

Speaking as a black woman, I don't think that we have to seperate black men from black women because they have already done that. Black men often use black women for what they can get such as sex, money, whatever then they leave them once they're done and successful, those that can be successful, they leave for non black women. Black men have almost become a non issue for black women except for the fact that they are not there. I think it is very good that we seperate our issues from them.

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Christa Carreker, Waikoloa, Hawaii — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:35:47 GMT

What is up with our upswing for "now" sistahs? ;o) This "enamored" interest never lasts long... I think we African American women have made strides when there were no strides to be made through the toughest and heinous of ugliness. Some with mates, some mates were absent. And we will continue as long as time in the Universe...

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hugh mclean — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:42:29 GMT

the disparity in black women vs men attending college is not only in the United States. In the commowealth Carribean the ratio of women vs men attending the University of the West Indies is a whopping 87% women to 13% men .I am a man but I have to admire black women ,I am in the housing construction business and 90% of all single black homeowners I see are women,many are as young as late 20s purchasing their own homes. congrats,keep up the great work.

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E. Thomas , Rochester, New York — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:43:11 GMT

This documentary should be taped and sold to educators at the Middle,High School, and College level. We need to let our African-American children know what the odds can be against them as well as for them. We need to encourage all of them, and let them know that they do not have to be a negative statistic. They can be a positive role model and a contributor to society. They need to be reminded daily that knowledge is power. Thank you Rhema Ellis for making the nation aware of what we already know is going on in our community. It takes God and the village to make it!!!!!!!! :o)

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Ophelia St. Stephen, SC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:43:15 GMT

What Kind of Home base business can a black women can start in the South.

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M. Middleton, Des Moines, Iowa — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:43:47 GMT

All through Proverbs in the Old Testament the soul of the female is magnified. She speaks as indicated in Proverbs 1:20 to 25 and 8:1 to 5, it directed to the male. What is not noticed is the strength that is needed to implement this caliber of character, personality and attitude, they have always had it, starting from the first created female (Eve), but no one could perceive her true identity, distinction, therefore dignity, especially men. This has caused men to be crippled, have you not notice that all human creation (male and female) come from the womb of the woman? Our young men bear the fruits of this loss vision in their macho impressions of being a male. We are horrifically suffering from these created false countenances that humiliate us males. We do need the help of our sisters, some of us realize that we have been fools and some of us are sincerely sorry. Climb the ladder of success, but do not do what we have done to you, don't forget about us caught in the system of degradation and deprivation. Reach for us, some of us still have a glimmer of respect in our hearts, souls and minds for our sisters. We just need your strength, if you can share some without fearing. I will as a black man be looking closely at this series on black women...to learn more.

Your true love...

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Logan, Baltimore, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:45:06 GMT

I have a problem with the fact that black women’s problems/successes are talked about in conjunction with black men. The need not be such a close connection between black men and women. Black women have made significant progress in America despite having a more difficult road to travel. That being said I think there are two things black women areas black women need to address. First they have an irrational preference for black men, by this I mean even though black men are far behind black women, black women feel compelled partner up with black men who tend to clearly be below them. Black women need to opt out and find quality partners regardless of race. Secondly is black women’s excessive promotion of “big black and beautiful.” Black women have obesity rates far beyond any racial gender group and that is a BIG reason why black women tend not to be sex symbols in our society.

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RamonaWilkins, Oakland, CA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:48:05 GMT

While I am extremely happy that Black women seem to be making great strides in our modern day society, I caution people to jump on the bandwagon against black men. This series though it may be great, informative, etc also could service as a vehicle for divide and conquer in our community that we see so much. I think that we all, women and men of color need to be telling all our children that you will one day have to take care of yourself which is not a bad thing at all. Taking care of oneself is what we all are supposed to be doing, it is only when we get married, get into a monogamous relationship that we help take care of each other. I also believe that we as black people need to remember that together we stand and as always divided we will fall or be knocked down.

I will say this though I am glad that someone is thinking about black women other than just black women.

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Proud Black Male — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:50:44 GMT

The problem is not just lack of education. The problem is Corporate Racism. Not much has changed only that people don't call us the N word. The racism is much more sofisticated theses days. Corporations are not under the same scrutiny as in the seventies. Some where along the years coporations decided that it is smarter to hire a Afro-American woman and kill two quotas. Kill two birds with one stone!! If you are going to do a piece on this issue be real on your national televised program. Tell the truth. Take a train ride and look a the desparity between black woman and black men on the train going to work. This is a concerted effort to break down the family structure of the black family. Boost the woman up by making her the bread winner and make the black male look lazy and put the criminals in that same population on the television. Oh and always just show the criminals picture when the criminal is black. A picture is worth a thousand words! Do a survey of corporations and take poll to see how many Afro-american men apply and are qualified and how many Afro-American women apply for the same position and see who gets the job. This country is still a huge racist country probably the most of all the world nations! I am a Computer Programmer and have been in the field of Data Processing and Computer Science for more than twenty years. I have experienced corporate racism first hand. No I was not called out of my name. I was overlooked for promotions, given poor raises, offered more money to forget about training. I was told by a director that "I don't know about you but money buys the house, car and clothes". In other words take the money and go sit down because I don't want to train you on the Web design technology. There are so many games in coporate america I don't blame the brothers for not having any faith in the education system. The teacher educates every profession and they are constantly underpaid and under appreciated. I am disgusted and have no hope of every being treated equally as a white male or female or a Afro-american woman would be treated. Women cluth there purses when I get on a elevator. The news influences society by putting consistant images of negative Afro-American males poisoning and already venum filled society. Invite me to a special program and I'll change some of the racist thoughts and images of the black male. Here is another instance of filling the cup of racism.

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Kandace Godbolt, Somerset NJ — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:52:27 GMT

I am an educated black woman with no desire to turn against the black man. I feel that a man is a man and he will act like one no matter what his race is. Just because he is white, asian or spanish does not mean that he will treat me any better than a black man. Atleast at the end of the day, the black man will understand my own personal struggles that I have to deal with while being a black woman.

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Charles E. Campbell — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:57:36 GMT

The Quiet Resolutions (TQR) will resolve this issue. Our schools will teach Black Boys and Girls about relationship throughout their primary and secondary education. Read about The Quiet Resolution (TQR) at http://tqrbe.blogspot.com

Charles E. Campbell
One Love, One People, One Goal: Black Empwerment

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Debra Stone, Robbinsdale, MN — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:00:13 GMT

Was that it!!! That wasn't even 5 minutes, I hope the future segments have more to report than what I saw!!

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a white guy — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:03:11 GMT

Good overall piece.I am glad the black men did not get disrespected. Black men and black woman really have to learn to work together.Separation is not helping the situation. There are serious issues between black men and woman that need to be resolved before than can move forward as a group.

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Debbie Parker — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:04:23 GMT

I am leary also of the continued effort to dehumanize black men, even if it is by highlighting or in this case comparing us to Black men. Black people as awhole are always compared to, but our culture is never allowed to define itself without regard to other cultures. Then we add further insult to injury by giving us a one-up on OUR men.

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Louise Poole, Herndon, VA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:05:07 GMT

I dated a black man for 3 years and have been married to him for 25. He is good-looking, educated, goes to work EVERY DAY, has never been in the judicial system, has great credit, and is faithful to me. I have one daughter in college and another on the way to college and I tell them constantly to expect any man they date to have qualities like their father: one who seriously sets and actively pursues his goals & ambitions.

I also have a full time job but my black man's discipline and financial saavy has made our "good life" possible. My girls tease their dad about being "corny" because his kind is not celebrated in pop culture--but I know they are paying attention!

African American women: where they stand

Iler Boyd, Longview, TX — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:15:57 GMT

Being a native East Texan, I was delighted that Dr. Haywood Strickland, president of Wiley College, was interviewed on this topic.
African American women have always been the backbone of the family and the community. This is nothing new.
As an educator in a predominantly white school district, I always encourage my African American students to excel. I tell them that "if they think they are beaten, they are. Because success begins with your state of mind".
This series will generate a lot of discussion. Thanks NBC news.

African American women: where they stand

Dark Berry, Houston, TX — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:20:43 GMT

I would like to make a comment about the other blogger’s suggestion to keep the series focused on black women without involving black men. I think it is nearly impossible to mention where black women stand today without acknowledgement of a contributing factor--man. After all, we are women, derived from “wo-man”—we are the product of a man and woman. The economic and demographic shifts that we are experiencing today are impacted by the presence and/or absence of a man and that impact is a multi-generational cycle. The impact is also influenced by the type of parenting.
Black men are sparse in college, in the corporate/entrepreneurial work environments and the church. When a black woman pursues education and accumulates knowledge and skills to increase her economic empowerment in the corporate or entrepreneurial arena, and continue to nurture her spirituality in the church (a venue that promotes family) and the black man is not present throughout these phases…..then black men are left behind.
If black men are not present in college (and seriously pursue academics) for aspiring black women to meet, then they will seldom progress to being thriving entrepreneurs or corporate contributors which could increase their financial security to buy a home, marry their Nubian queen, provide and invest for their family and generations to come.
On the flip side, there are some black men out there who are present throughout those various phases in life (college, corporate America/entrepreneurship, and the church), but many of them are not interested in black women, especially women with a dark complexion—as that is still not the symbol that they have truly made it.
We cannot ignore the startling statistic that there is high rate of black women who have never been married and who may never marry an eligible black man—not because they don’t want to, but because black men of equal or greater footing is scarce.

African American women: where they stand

Manny, St. Leonard, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:24:50 GMT

As a young man, my mother taught me to respect a woman, not to raise a hand to harm her, and to protect her. My father modeled that advice. Now, as a father, additionally I have learned to cherish my woman and to hold her in highest regard as my partner. Continually, I have noticed that my wife of 23 years has out smarted, out achieved, and out done any endeavor embarked upon. I do believe that black men eventually realize this, but find themselves too weak to stand against the onslaught of media and hip hop models of being a "playa" to appreciate the romance that the black woman has had with our race. She will defend her race to the death, never gives up or sells out her offspring no matter how bad the situation, and yearns for the oneness of a black man regardless of his under achievement. If black women were to give up on our under achievement, it would mean the end of black America. You ladies are doing your jobs. The problem, lies with black men. Much work needs to be done.

African American women: where they stand

Sonya Woodard, Nashville, TN — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:45:08 GMT

I would like to contact the young lady featured in monday's telecast

African American women: where they stand

Tiffany, Rockville MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:46:58 GMT

Unfortunately not all of us were prepared for the possibility, or probability, of living a lifetime without a husband. I'm a 33 year-old single, African-American woman. And my mother and I have never had this conversation. My parents have been married for over 30 years; I honestly believe my mom expected things would happen "naturally" for me as they did for her. However I've graduated college, landed a well-paying job, and purchased a home -- all with no wedding day in between. And the same is true for most of my girlfriends. I fear this series will only confirm things I already feel and know to be true...

African American women: where they stand

Jo moore, Ft. Lauderdale, Fl — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:50:02 GMT

I am a black female divorced, professional and business owner.I feel that women should keep high morals and not settle for men that do not support there beliefs just because there is a shortgage.

I also agree that women should practice strong parenting skills. It is know excuse for being single and your kids turn out to be a disgrace to society.

I was divorced when my son and daughter was very young and they both are happy, highly educated, warm caring young and responsible.

I used the bible as my guide.

African American women: where they stand

Margot, Baltimore, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:52:07 GMT

Will tonight's piece be re-broadcast? If not, what time can I tune in the rest of the week? I heard this series being discussed on Morgan State University's radio station WEAA, but missed the show tonight. Although I'm happy to see NBC allowing airtime for our issues, I'd much rather see local communities, churches, schools address these topics in more personal settings that allow for real healing.

African American women: where they stand

E. Conley Pittsburgh PA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:52:40 GMT

The reasons for the disparities between black women and men lead directly to slavery and the efforts of the dominant community to divide and conquer. Until this society faces the atrocities of slavery and gets over its fear of black men our society will be divided along racial lines. Black women are not viewed as threatening as black men and are therefore more accepted. The government should concentrate on sending black males to college or training programs rather than prison.

African American women: where they stand

Tedi Morris, Saginaw, MI — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:58:09 GMT

This is a very good discussion. Comtemporary men and women have significant differences just as men and women have always had, regardless of race. Nevertheless, when discussing "African-American Women: Where They Stand", it is very relavant to look at our connection to Black men. However, if the precarious situation that we, as Black women, find ourselves is ever to improve it is imperitive that we raise our self-esteem as women, affirm our self-worth, and embrace those who do see our beauty and embrace us. If our Black brothers have been brain washed by the media, and society to believe that Black women are "bitches" and "hoes", it is their loss. We must move on. Move on to become successful with our choices in life such as career women, wives, and mothers. The women are powerful people. We raise the sons and daughters. We are their first teachers and role-models. It is the better when their fathers are by our side. But, until Brothers re-educate themselves and tune out society's description of their women, we must continue to be the beautiful proud creatures God created us to be. This is a wonderful discussion to reaffirm who we are.

African American women: where they stand

Marvette Critney, Atlanta, GA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:01:02 GMT

When I awoke this morning, I was a black woman. A proud black woman. More importantly, I was simply a woman. Like most women, black , white or brown, I am sure that I face similar issues. Why do we as a collective group of people always utilize race as a separation factor. We allow people to study us as though we are some inebriated lab rats on display and our accomplishments are out of the ordinary. For the record, my mother never told me that I may have to take care of myself without a husband so it's imperative that I develop skills. What I do recall my mother telling me is that I was smart and gifted and I could accomplish whatever I believed in. Nothing more, nothing less.

Has it occurred to anyone that the disparity between black men and black women may have to do with the number of black girl babies born vs. black boy babies. Looking at my own family tree, females in my family outnumber the males 3 to 1. I’m sure that there are other factors.

African American women: where they stand

Tedi Morris, Saginaw, MI — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:01:58 GMT

African American women: where they stand

Grace, Seattle Wash — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:20:25 GMT

Nice to know we, Black Women, are being seen nationally in a positive light as a strong and well educated group. I think one of the reasons we excel is do in large part to the fact that we cant just give up and make excuses. We need to keep moving on for the sake of our families. I have always pushed my sons to be the best they can, make no excuses for their shortcomings as they can only blame themselves. To stay in school and to always remember knowledge is power and no one can ever take away from you the education you have earned.

African American women: where they stand

CARA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:28:17 GMT

This should be an informative program. My question though is why is the time not displayed anywhere on these advertisements...? Even on the webcast snippet, there are no times to tell people when to watch. This may be a mistake, but it's definitely a problem...People don't know when to watch. Is this supposed to be a webcast only or what. please someone from MSNBC read these comments asking for a TIME. The local listings aren't clear at all. I'm in DC...fyi.

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Logan, Baltimore, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:31:14 GMT

African American women: where they stand

Concerned Black Woman in America, San Diego, CA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:58:29 GMT

I really thought this was supposed to be about Black Women....They should have called it "Black Men in America: Where Do They Stand." It is so frustrating that everytime discussions on Black women are brought up, someone, somewhere takes the focus off Black women and puts it on Black men. It's all fine and dandy if the conversation was on gender relations in the Black community, but I thought the focus was on Black women.

Nothing new was discussed. I have read it all before. Discussions on just Black women has nothing to do with disrespecting Black men!! It is about showing Black women some respect.

African American women: where they stand

donetta, severn, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:04:55 GMT

Society has left black women with no choice but to succeed because we are so focused on making excuses for the short-comings of black men.

African American women: where they stand

Ralph Watson, Jackson, GA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:22:46 GMT

The problem for the black man started in the 70's when quotas were first enforced. I am a white man who was in management at the time. Women and Blacks were lumped together for quota calculations, so if you hired a black man, you got 1 point, if you hired a white woman, you got 1 point, but if you hired a BLACK WOMAN you got 2 points! Guess what?? Black women were hire by the droves leaving the black man behind. The African-American community has suffered for decades because of quotas while black politicians keep hammering for MORE quotas.

If you want to solve the problem, give 3 points for a black man!

It is time to get this dirty little secret out in the open.

African American women: where they stand

Lavette P. New York — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:31:58 GMT

Thank you NBC for this week of coverage. I am so glad it is airing now and not in Febuary!
I am a medical professional and I so blessed to be married to a wonderful blue collar, hard working African American man who loves the Lord. Ladies do not compromise and seek God for a husband, while you waite get involved in your community, start a foundation. Black women are really standing up in many places and doing it well. I am proud to be a black women. We can do anything! Our men can too, they just don't all believe it yet. We will get there. So ladies encourage a brotha today.

African American women: where they stand

Denise Bethune, Whitesboro, New Jersey — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:34:02 GMT

It seems like the timing couldn't be any better for this series. We are going to have lots to talk about.

Black Women are moving forward and onward no doubt and we should be commended and not have to feel guilty about any advancement that we make whether it be for our own individual selves or for the betterment of family and community. And yes we may still have issues, concerns that need to be addressed but that doesn't mean we have to stop striving for excellence.

I am not taking anything away from our brothers we need them on different levels just like they need us whether they want to announce it in public or not. Just like we expect our daughters to excel with higher expectations we have to do the same with our sons without a doubt.

We are a royal people; and when we understand that; together we will be able to build even bigger mountains and close those gaps of separation together instead of apart.

And if the black man doesn't understand the beauty that we hold then you know what we have to keep doing it for ourselves.

African American women: where they stand

Ricardo, New York — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:40:44 GMT

"For years, Black women have told their daughters they may have to take care of themselves without a husband so it's imperative that young women develop skills."

This is why i cringe every time i hear something in the media about black women. I love my sistas, yet in every story, they always throw salt at the brothas.

The overall tone of this article and many like it throws black men into a negative light, beginning in the first paragraph. This subtle message continues to plague the media and popular opinion--that black men are "boogie men" whom are pretty much dead weight to the community, while black women are professional, astute and are left single because of it.

I'm tired of it. Moreover, the article contradicts itself. On one hand it states:

"And the huge achievement gap between African-American women and men is astounding."

but later it refutes that by saying:
"And according to the Center for Women's Business Research, as of 2006 just 5 percent of companies owned by Black women had employees, versus 10 percent for Black men. Annual revenue averaged $29,000 compared to $77,000 for Black men."

So explain to me, how is it that the achievement gap is growing with black women ahead of the curve, while at the same time, black men are ahead of the curve? Huh? Yeah, exactly.

While I love my sistas, I despise the notion that we (black men) bear the brunt of the negativity that we are the undesirables whom are dragging their heels behind black women. Because truth be told--for every hardworking black woman who's struggling on her own after a man left her and her kids high and dry, there is a professional black man who takes care of his family, donates to his alma mater and mentors black children. For every deadbeat brotha is a chickenhead black woman. Lets stop dehumanizing and "villanizing" brothas.

To the author and the rest of the media, stop pigeonholing us.

Thanks.

African American women: where they stand

Tamara Tomlin,St.Louis,MO — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:41:12 GMT

This is the first time I have heard anything positive on African American women. African American women are more independent than ever. They need to be acknowledged for their success. African American women have raised children independently from the beginning of time. African American women in the past relied on men to assist them financially,but now we are empowered to take care of ourselves by becoming more educated on business and politics. It will be intersting to see the direction African American will go i the next ten years. I am glad to be apart of this discussion, and the women from the reports this week empower and motivate me.

African American women: where they stand

Jackie Rawlings Riverside California — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:45:14 GMT

I'm a black woman at 60 years old and I've seen so much it's scary. As for your report well I only have life lessons to go by. When I was young I had the hopes and dreams of the words JFK told us. We were Americans not black/white but just Americans. For some reason my family didn't die of most illnesses listed today. My grandmother lived until she was 99 years old. My Mother is 85 years old and doing well. My family member who have died none of the woman ever had cancer or any major illnesses. As I'm one of the millions of Black Americans who can't find a job if I get sick I have no insurance. I'm praying that Hillary can get in and put the Universal Health Care in place. I was much younger when Hillary tried to set the Health Care Plan up during the Clinton years as money was available. I really didn't think about it as I was working and had full health benefits, but she knew what I didn't, I would one day need Health insurance. I have resolved to the fact that if I get sick I will be left to die. Unlike people like Mrs. Edwards I wouldn't get treatment for cancer. The victims of Katrina showed proof of what's it's like to be a poor Black American. Now if I was a favorite of the White House and foreign I'm have a better chance. My daughter has a small business, daughter two served in the US Military and both of my sons are just trying to make a living and keep those noses clean. None of the boys have ever been in trouble. My older son was coming from work at Universal Studios when the LA police attacked him as they mistook him for a 5 foot black man but my son is 6 feet. I asked him why didn't he speak up he said a black man would get killed for talking. My oldest daughter handled the problem and sued the LA police and won. It's still hard being black in America. With this current Administration bringing back the past I can only say pray for God's help. It is nice to see NBC do a report on Black women as it is important just as other groups.

African American women: where they stand

C. Williams — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:03:01 GMT

I wish someone would list the time that these series are being broadcasted as my friends & I would like to hear the series.

African American women: where they stand

Janie, Texas — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:11:54 GMT

Honestly, black women have no choice but to take care of themselves and their children. Black men are known for walking out on black women, which leads me to believe that this is one reason black woman are getting more education. I wish more black woman would shoot for the stars. There are many state programs out there, but 1st black women have to dig deep inside and discover that they have a lot to offer society.

Also, society should stop labeling black women as women with attitudes. ALL women have freedom of speech and do so as they please, yet, black women are the ones that are labeled!

African American women: where they stand

Valencia, Los Angeles, California — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:31:22 GMT

I like the segment and love the idea. We just need more time. In light of the hour Bill Cosby and Dr. Pouissant took on Meet the Press about all that is wrong with the Black community in general, three to five minutes is just not long enough. Check out my commentary and post at the blog Why Black Women Are Angry. Good effort and idea, NBC.

African American women: where they stand

Sher, Connecticut — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:35:10 GMT

Very educational. Looking forward to the next few Days! Let's start taking better care of ourselves and that of our Mothers, Sisters, and Daughters. www.sparkpeople.com/aaw

African American women: where they stand

Kim Everett, Ames, IA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:38:28 GMT

I do not advocate separating the plight of the Black man from that of the Black woman, but I do resent how popular media uses the successes of Black women to highlight the perceived shortcomings of the Black man! As an educated Black woman who is on track to excel professionally, I appreciate being acknowledged, but we have to be careful of allowing others to use our gains to beat down our men.

Thanks for opening the opportunity for dialogue NBC. I look forward to the conversations that will come.

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Logan Baltimore, MD — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:55:57 GMT

African American women: where they stand

Jane, Ca — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 05:34:38 GMT

This was nothing more than the traditional black woman chat that drives African American women away from main stream. I used to think it was only in the "community" that black female progress would be undermined, devalued, and treated as nothing more than an insult to black men. Now, it's clear more than ever that the mainstream has defined us as people in purely misogynistic terms. With what other group could female college rates and achievement be viewed as a problem besides with black women?

If you want insight into the state of black women, look towards the biased interpretation of justice we see in NBC and other stations. Compare black men who molest black girl children or any one who molests black girl children to those who molest white children. Black women don't get raped, they don''t get molested, they don't get kidnapped, they don't invent, and they don't save lives- according to mainstream media. So, why the hell can't you let us alone to get our measly little undergraduate degrees?

African American women: where they stand

Annamarie - Aurora, CO — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:03:15 GMT

As a white single mom of bi-racial children and very involved in 1) Supplier diversity and 2) working with my school district to help close the acheivement gap of black and brown students (PASS) - I find this topic very interesting and hopefuly a topic that will continue to be discussed. Sometimes we need to unlearn some of our thinking and the way we have done things in the past. It's time we all - black, white, male or female to step up to the plate and do what is best for our children and helping them form thier future in society without any color or gender barriers.

African American women: where they stand

Ms. Bynum, Georgia — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 07:55:16 GMT

In response to the conversations around the shortage of Black Men.....

There is no shortage of Black Men on the Planet. In my travels to the African Diaspora, there is an abundance of Black Men. What we need to question is our immigration policies. Why are the conditions for black men from other countries so difficult or in some cases inhumane when attempting to get a visa to enter the USA. I thought that it was because of the polices set in that country; however, it is really because of how the USA has things set up in that country. If someone were to research the rate of which black men from other countries apply to enter the USA or to move here; and how many visa are approved for whatever reason verse the rate in which non-black males (non-blacks of any gender) are approved, and it was shared to the entire American Public, especially the black community – I think you would find an alarming disparity. Similar to not letting the Haitians enter the US, yet we let the Cubans and Hispanics stay. Why is there such a huge disparity in the agenda when it comes to letting black men into the USA. If the black men from other countries were allowed in, I assert that the ratio of black men to black women would be much smaller and it would provide the vehicle to strengthen the black family dynamics so we wouldn’t have so many black families without a father in the household. Food For Thought.

African American women: where they stand

Mark Lang, Manhattan, NY — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 09:50:31 GMT

So far this is a very interesting and eye opening report for those that don't see what is going on around them. I am a 38 year old African American male from NYC. I am in the computer business which takes me to many different companies in my area. What I have seen is Black women in the office, managerial positions working alongside asian and white men and women. There were a few black males sprinkled here and there in those offices but most worked in the mailroom.
I have seen this trend COUNTLESS times while I work on servers and talk with clients about their systems. This disparity in employment and education between black men and women has now moved to the dating arena. Sistah's who in the past were not even thinking about dating a white or asian man are now looking at the interracial couples they pbass by and are having second thoughts.
One interesting thing a black woman said in the interview with her white husband was from what I remember was this;
"Looking to date/marry someone based on their race is not something I wanted to do, it just happened I found love with a white man"
This is the black woman that placed an ad on Craigslist of a single black woman looking for a single white male. The narrator said this as they were showing their picture together and also stated they got married in central park. I think either she made a mistake when she said that because, not to knock her in any way but, isnt that what she did? Looked to date a man first based on his race???

African American women: where they stand

Vivian Ford Barney, Lansing, Il — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 12:21:32 GMT

I enjoyed this segment, seeing black women branching outside their box. For so long we were told that no one loved our large full lips, thick hips and thighs, brown toasted skin, etc. Why should we be denied of happens, no matter the color. I am a 43 year old woman, single mother, and ready for something new, ready to give love a try. If GOD sends love my way and he happens to be Mexican, Irish, Italian, etc. I refuse to tell GOD "no", I will accept my blessing with open arms.

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Sher, Connecticut — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 12:43:13 GMT

Very informative, this must be shared with family members, church members and the like. Looking forward to Series. Come post with us at www.sparkpeople.com/aaw

African American women: where they stand

Tiara Tompkins — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 14:26:18 GMT

I think it is important for America to realize that black women are good for other things besides being in rap videos and being symbol of abuse in rap lyrics. As a black college student i do see as a attend classes the lack of black men in campus, but i do not blame the men, I blame society for not praising our black men when they accomplish good deeds. i blame record labels for allowing the over usage of guns, and drugs in rap lyrics. Nothing in this life is going to stop me from getting my education. Hopefully in time a bridge can be gaped between black men and women so we can become a more unitfy race like our foe fathers in slavery and when we begun seeking civil rights..

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CJ in Columbus, Ohio — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 14:28:46 GMT

Thanks to NBC for daring to cover this topic. This series is necessary to highlight the struggle of AA women in America.

Thanks for this information! It's about time that relevant and significant attention was given to the plight of black women. Why do we have such high degrees of killer disease in our ranks? I don't believe it's heredity as much as environmental and social. Yes, we can improve our diets, but for years a number of southern whites ate (and still eat) the same way we do. Why such a large difference in health and longevity?

This is my take - we don't get the support that we need from our men. I'm not bashing, I'm not angry, I'm not upset - I've long let all of that go. I'm just giving you my honest take on the matter. We are incredibly strong women, but we are not superwomen. We were not meant to bear the weight of the family by ourselves. And the truth of the matter is, for many of us who have male companionship either in the form of a husband, boyfriend, or live-in partner, if their are children involved, we still carry the weight of the family - mentally, emotionally, and yes spiritually. This is not what it was meant to be.

We are in need of God more than ever. There was a time when I never consider dating or marrying a man outside of our race. Growing up I remember being so proud of being a black girl. I thought we were all that and then some. There was no people like us. We were so unique and rich and full of flavor and life. We did everything with such attitude and love.

Poor black people still had a sense of pride and dignity and tried to instill some home training in their children. It was the worst thing in the world for a child to go out in the street and bring shame on his/her parent by not being respectful and carrying themselves in a certain way. They may have been poor, but they were not "ghetto". That was the beauty of "Good Times". Poor black people facing the burdens of life with dignity and humor. Now I find myself wondering what is going to come of us and feeling ashamed of what a segment of our community has become.

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Nikki Wright, Princeton, NJ — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 14:52:53 GMT

Advice for black women: As an attractive,intelligent, educated black woman, I too wanted a black man to share my life with ,but many of those I met didn't share my diverse outlook in life, and were not driven to succeed. I crossed 'black'off my list, and while I was in college, dated white, Hispanic, and black men from other parts of the world. I am not of a light complexion, and have full features, yet men from other cultures liked me. I ended up being happily married to a Caribbean man who's very intelligent, and successful. I believe that men in general look at women who are confident,come across as friendly(not hard or arrogant), and of course attractive. Typically they do not like women who are too overweight(which is a problem for many of us-let's be real). Also,I think our society in general limits ourselves too much by looking at someone's race. The divorce rate in our country is high, but it's higher in the black community. Focus on getting a life partner who fits you if that's what you really want, not just someone who fits some kind of image people expect you to have.

On male and female children: I have one of each, but we invest equal amounts of energy into them both. Our expectations are high, and at 9 and 12, the know they are going to college. I believe having a united mother and father to support them is key. Many young black males today I feel, live in homes led by single mothers who do the best they can, but male children need fathers and/or strong consistent male role models.
Fascinated, I watch the interactions between my son and husband, and know that it's nothing I could have done to duplicate that. Male bonding is critical for boys. If they don't get it from a young age at home or by a positive mature male in the community, they seek it from other males, or take that energy elsewhere, lose focus in life, and get into trouble. Because black females aren't lured by the streets, basketball, and hip hop as much, it's easier to focus on school.
My own son is strong minded, and loves escaping the house, much more than my daughter. It simply takes more work to harness his energy, and keep him focused, but it has to be done. It has to be done more for all young black males so they can be competitive in society, and begin to become leaders and role models themselves.

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Lawana Pete, Atlanta, GA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:22:31 GMT

Black women are not symbols of beauty in black men minds not white men.. I am in only race(African American) where the men don't stand up and put their women on pedestals.. Look at all the commericals and count the black women.. Then when black men have the opportunity to let us shine such as P. Diddy and Denzel, what do they do: THEY PUT white women and non-blacks in their commericals, videos and movies.. They won't stand up and say, "I want to be seen with black women.. in the same breathe they claim to love their Mamas! Do you see other white males putting other races or Black women beside them on TV or before their women.. NO. Black men are not valuing married or their women.. and the sad part about it.. what do they have to loose.. not MUCH! I think black women need to start looking at other races and stop sitting around waiting on men who don't want them! Also I believe black women need to stop having babies from men who won't marry them.. Also black women with sons and daughters, need to teach their boys to love and respect women and become role models and keep standards for their daughters to show them how they should be treated by a man(not just black men, all men!

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Tami ~Traveling Companion of AALP — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:34:52 GMT

We as the majority, are also the leaders of the future. Without us as black men and women our black youth will never rise. We as a race are our own worst enemy. We don't speak while passing by each other. We are jelous of someone elses skin color, Like they chose to be how they are. We hate on each other instead of supporting each other. Don't hate, congratulate. Don't dispise, emphasize your love, and support. Be about it, Seek it, Share it, Love one another. We are all innocent to our coming here. But once we've made it here, it's our job as a community, and race to keep our selves alive. I love living, I love my race? Don't YOU?? I'm a 40 y/o African American women with a great career, 3 grown daughters, and 3 grandson's. My interest can dictate my childrens future. I choose to be a force that will continue to stand for my people. Educate one, educate all. Remember we are the Majority, be treated as the Minority, why is that??

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Cynthia, Washington, DC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:39:43 GMT

Unforunately, I did not hear about the broadcast in time to view or record. Will there be a replay of the broadcast?

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GA to LA, Los Angeles, CA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:56:01 GMT

Dear Paige in Florida,

I empathize with your concerns and my advice to you is to marry who ever loves you for you. It doesn't matter what color he is because if any Black female settles for less, she will regret it in the long run.

African American women: where they stand

Marilyn Morrison, Jacksonville, Florida — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 16:22:49 GMT

the system/government is set up for all people of low statis to fail. but as a race of people most of us do not consider ourselves as a minority. women in general have always known that we must achieve our goals for the welfare of our children... the black women have always realize that their survival is in education and vocational trades.we must use all revenues to make our life a success for ourselves and our heir. we must also representor uplift and assist our male counterparts and recognize that the system is set up to tear families apart and not to recognize the importance of family structure. the systems plays one against the other.... we must promote every opportunity to help stable the foundation of what is consider to be a FAMILY. women recognizes the important structure that should exist with both parental heads working or having the income in the household to live and provide for the family to operate as a unit. we do not need or males against our females and vise versa.. the system or government needs to recognize that one can not survive without the other without drastic circumstances that will cause damaged to the children and the relationships of a family. The attention is brought to the african american women because we are a force to be reckoned with and have always been that way. we will accomplished the goals that we set for ourselves.... when I was a child I was told to finsih high school and married a wealthy man.. the main ingrident was left out... get your own education and marry by choice, with love being the clue that holds the relationship together with prayer and faith. the center goal for anyone making it is to have Faith (CHRIST) the center of your life and keep helping others to help themselves achieve their goals... we are a village of people that need each other whether we want to accept that as a reality or not. NO MAN is an ISLAND to HIMSELF. the titile ask where does african american stand.... that is it WE STAND.. meaning we will go forward and we will also have our male counterparts STANDING WITH US....MOVING FORWARD

African American women: where they stand

Camilla, San Antonio, TX — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:11:35 GMT

Great job so far NBC. I am 55 year old black woman, who raised three daughters. My ex-husband did not help after we were divorced and the reason for the divorce was that I couldn't take his cheating anymore after the third time I caught him. That was 15 years ago.
Let me tell you what the Lord has done with me. He has enabled me to have graduated from college approx. 10 years ago, all while raising three very independent and hearty young ladies. Raising them to be disciplined without killing their spirit to achieve. I have been promoted three times. I have been able to help in my community and church. To God I give all Glory. Yes, I too have told my daughters to stand and do for themselves. Stand on the promises of God to them. Yes, I have taught my daughters to balance a checkbook and to think critcally. I could not wait to to see if their father was going to support them or not. My reality was to keep praying and keep moving, because faith without works is dead. We all know this. So for Black women, it is definitley a reality. I had a divine duty to my children -- loving them, raising them according to how the Lord wanted them to be raised. Life happens. Women cannot afford to wait to be married to do certian things such as own a home, get an education, buy a car, get insurance, draw up a will or do an estate plan, invest, etc. I don't believe that most black women say that they don't want a black man, but as you move through life, you rarely stop to say, I need love and from a man. You are moving everyday. In my office the few black women that I work with are just doing that. Yes, we all would love to be married, especially the younger ones, but they are working hard to pay back the school loans, to help parents pay bills, bought homes, working hard with young women in the community. Just living. Yes, they too would love to stop and say, where is that man, but just taking a day or two off to catch up with friends and family is such a wonderful blessing. No one is stating that they don't want to be married, but where do you go after a hard days work? Who has time to keep pounding the pavement for men, you just want to relax.
You decide to have a full life, either married or unmarried. I have two best girlfriends that we do so much together and apart. I volunteer within the church as well as within my community. I joined an Investment Club with my church and joined a Book Club in my community, I go on cruises and trips with my two best friends. We have been such a great support for each other. Would I love to have a gentleman there for me and I for him, yes, but since that is not my reality, I will not stop living.
I say to my daughters, have a realtionship with your God, serve your community and your church and keep fighting the good fight.

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An AA mother with two sons — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:14:33 GMT

Thank you, NBC Nightly News, for your efforts to uplift AA women with this series. Will equal time be given to uplift AA men? I believe it is more important to try to get the message to them. The ladies already "get it." Reach out to teachers, ministers, boot camps, and prisons. It should be required reading/viewing. I realize NBC may not be able to cover each ethnic group/gender. America owes a lot to AAs. Just think about it.

African American women: where they stand

Concerned and Centered — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:15:35 GMT

Many women in America, not just Blacks, are re-thinking the value and virtue of marriage, and many are finding it more trouble than it is worth, so those numbers are not a mystery. The emphasis has been, and will continue to be, the ability to get a good education and take care of yourself and your family financially. Apparently many women of color are doing just that. That doesn't mean we want to be seen as a threat and end up lonely and unloved. We want responsible partners who see us and themselves as valuable. Towards that end, a serious change of attitude towards education and achievement is in order.

African American women: where they stand

Lana, Dallas Texas — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:53:25 GMT

Interesting dialog... The series on this topic will only be viewed by a small group of informed among this racial sector of Black males and females. The crust of the problem we as Black upwardly mobile, educated and working class citizens of the USA is that Black men as a whole as American Indians are not willing to make the sacrifices necessary to coexist in a corporate environment. They see athletics and music as a way to aquire wealth. Being a well read, thoughtful as well as atheletic human being will serve you and yours so much more than being traded to the highest bidder for a contract you don't control. Be a renaissance man or woman will give you the knowledge to handle business ventors when presented and the forsight to know when you need to move on and find your own path. Everyones destiny is there for you to discover and make it your own. If you don't put enough into yourself and expect everything to be given these disperates occur. That is what is going on with the Black family...Life is what you make it. If you put junk in you get junk out...

I to am a single Black female never married with two degrees trying to find a single, health, Black man..

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NH — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:11:13 GMT

I look forward to watching the series on AA women as well. I believe that it is important to talk about the growing trend: the lack of the "traditional black family. I am young, black attorney, single mother and have received about $50 dollars in child support from the father of my child. He couldn't handle the fact that I was goal oriented, independent, very educated and made more money than he did. Instead of working side by side to create a fruitful future for our family, he was too busy complaining about how it bothered him that I made more money than he did, that he was raised to believe that the man is the leader of the household. Well, I am not with him because it seemed he was more jealous of my accomplishments than taking the time to praise me and be happy for me. It is just so sad what is going on, I am 28 and I just don't even dream about getting married anymore, I don't even have hope of finding love because having dated strictly in my race I have found nothing but disappointment after disappointment. My mom was disappointed by my father now she is married to a white man. My daughters god-mother was married to a black man and now she is with a white man. There are a lot of women in my family who have just given up on dating black men. What is going on with our black men, why are they staggering behind us and leaving us to raise their children while they go out clubbing with their friends or just simply don't want any responsibilities. My parents were very strict when I was young and now I appreciate that because I can affored to take care of my daughter. I am sad that my daughter will not grow up around her father, but I am going to teach her how to be independent and make sure she gets educated so she can stand on her own and not be dependent on no man. I wish for the traditional black family like on the Cosby show but now that is more of a fantasy and not reality.

African American women: where they stand

E. Butler, Suitland, Maryalnd — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:17:30 GMT

Whatever happened to the praying mothers and fathers for their "black" children. Anytime a group of people forget about the True and Living God who delivered them out bondage and provided for them when they could not provide for themselves began to depend on their own power then you will have what you are seeing now. No matter how much education a person gets "black woman" if they eliminate the Lord Jesus Christ from the equation you will have destruction and decay. Our forefathers prayed and trusted in God to deliver them and we must do the say.

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Whren — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:27:10 GMT

Wait a minute...I teach middle and high school mathematics. The young black girls and women I see are headed for disaster! A huge amount of them do not respect themselves, and the things that come out of their mouths are deplorable! How is a young black man or boy supposed to respect that? I know what I'm talking about. The young black girls that I see and interact with, on a daily basis, must have lost their freakin' minds!! These are the future black women of America, so there is definitely a possibility that the gains made by black women today will be reversed in 20 years. If black women are significantly and quickly rising above black men, then... they must be the middle-aged group or older women (not the young ones). Eventually this group will have to be replaced by the young black girls that sit in my classes everyday. So, you well-educated black women should hurry up and get in the schools and clean this mess up before you lose the lead. Seriously! So, to every black woman: be very careful when discussing the relationships we have with you, because you might return to the bottom with us, after someone has had their fill.
Whren

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Laura Brooks, Alexandria, VA — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 19:29:11 GMT

It's quite interesting that NBC has taken note on the plight on many issues that affect both African American females and the impact on African American males. I can't recall any major news cast wanting to report a series on such but I'm somewhat glad NBC has choosen to do so. I would hope they would continue to be positive, however, I think it would be a good follow up to view the African American MEN and show the good side of what I know MANY who are doing quite well despite certain gaps.

African American women: where they stand

Roy Stone — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 19:48:50 GMT

Interesting that the story on the web site had a black woman with an Aunt Jemima head dress..It would appear that a black American woman might have been chosen that would have been more inclusive of what a black American woman is. Or is this the result of the African designation?

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Khadijah Jacksonville, Florida — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 19:52:18 GMT

The problem is not just lack of education. The problem is Corporate Racism. Not much has changed only that people don't call us the N word. The racism is much more sofisticated theses days. Corporations are not under the same scrutiny as in the seventies. Some where along the years coporations decided that it is smarter to hire a Afro-American woman and kill two quotas. Kill two birds with one stone!! If you are going to do a piece on this issue be real on your national televised program. Tell the truth. Take a train ride and look a the desparity between black woman and black men on the train going to work. This is a concerted effort to break down the family structure of the black family. Boost the woman up by making her the bread winner and make the black male look lazy and put the criminals in that same population on the television. Oh and always just show the criminals picture when the criminal is black. A picture is worth a thousand words! Do a survey of corporations and take poll to see how many Afro-american men apply and are qualified and how many Afro-American women apply for the same position and see who gets the job. While this is true. In Florida because more African American sisters are furthering their education. White Corporate America are looking for other ways to keep African Americans from excelling in the workplace. I decided to start my own corporation. www.theconciergecorporation.com.
Addressing the African American brothers in J-ville. This place is a total turn off. African American women are making tremendous strides, mostly unappreciated by our African American brothers. I live in Florida in the Jacksonville area, I see a trend with the black man with light skin women or white women. This leaves brown and dark skin women out of the mix. I just recieved a masters degree and I welcome relocating. I am originally from New Jersey, there was never a shortage of African American and othe black origin there. This is a culture shock. I just lack the desire of going back. I want to forward move West or maybe the DC area.

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Margaret NYC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 20:17:25 GMT

Black folks are just lost. Martin is probably rolling over in his grave at how his vision and dream has become a nightmare at the hands of his own people. Opportunitties squandered. I've signed off from trying to affect a change in so many misguided folk. ANd yes, I'm black--and proud of it. just NOT proud of the foolishness I see today.

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Khadijah Jacksonville, Florida — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 21:15:29 GMT

The problem is not just lack of education. The problem is Corporate Racism. Not much has changed only that people don't call us the N word. The racism is much more sofisticated theses days. Corporations are not under the same scrutiny as in the seventies. Some where along the years coporations decided that it is smarter to hire a Afro-American woman and kill two quotas. Kill two birds with one stone!! If you are going to do a piece on this issue be real on your national televised program. Tell the truth. Take a train ride and look a the desparity between black woman and black men on the train going to work. This is a concerted effort to break down the family structure of the black family. Boost the woman up by making her the bread winner and make the black male look lazy and put the criminals in that same population on the television. Oh and always just show the criminals picture when the criminal is black. A picture is worth a thousand words! Do a survey of corporations and take poll to see how many Afro-american men apply and are qualified and how many Afro-American women apply for the same position and see who gets the job. While this is true. In Florida because more African American sisters are furthering their education. White Corporate America are looking for other ways to keep African Americans from excelling in the workplace. I decided to start my own corporation. www.theconciergecorporation.com.
Addressing the African American brothers in J-ville. This place is a total turn off. African American women are making tremendous strides, mostly unappreciated by our African American brothers. I live in Florida in the Jacksonville area, I see a trend with the black man with light skin women or white women. This leaves brown and dark skin women out of the mix. I just recieved a masters degree and I welcome relocating. I am originally from New Jersey, there was never a shortage of African American and othe black origin there. This is a culture shock. I just lack the desire of going back. I want to forward move West or maybe the DC area.

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Cierra Malone, St. Louis, MO — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 21:26:33 GMT

It seems as if the black women is becoming the new threat. To be: 1st black, 2nd a women, 3rd educated, it is like there is to much going on. This is the new threat in society, but it is the new black women in the black community. No more baby momma women, we are the new CEO's, President, and Directors!

African American women: where they stand

Kim,ny,ny — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 21:59:49 GMT

Because of the ignorant statements like the ones made by Logan from Baltimore, I get so angry and tired. Why should Black woman not prefer Black men.
What in the hell is wrong with all of you.

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commentator, Durham, NC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 22:03:35 GMT

One poster mentioned obesity and black women. Immediately I groaned. Yes obesity is prevalent among black women, but has anyone ever asked why? I doubt it is because all we do is cook, and eat, and sit on our butts. Stress and depression are factors that can lead to weight gain. Stress from caring for children and aging parents. Stress from feeling like we “out there” by ourselves. A large number of us who long for the dream of a husband and family, but find that there is a shortage of black man who can be the provider is depressing. I may ruffle a few feathers with this next statement, but I cannot be in a marriage with an able bodied man who cannot be the breadwinner. I have just found that men don’t feel as manly if they can’t do this. I know I this is not true for all men, but this is what I have found. Also in the black community so food is an accepted substance to abuse. The same church ladies that condemn the crackheads and drunks are the same ones who gorge on peach cobbler, collard greens, macaroni and cheese, and fried chicken. Many people don’t realize that using food as a drug to escape is what they are actually doing. Let’s focus on the reasons for obesity rather than attacking the obese for being fat.

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J. Neila, Greensboro, NC — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 23:07:43 GMT

American news media focuses on ills of minority GROUPS while excluding the impact, reaction, and influence of the majority population per scenario aired. “For every action there is reaction,” we are connected at the hip eternally and as you know desperate people react desperately. When investigative reporting is incomplete, bias is automatically assigned to the ONE whose story is told. Rarely is the majority race mentioned relative to their involvements and this causes great concern amongst African-American Women. To spew half truths is a form of hate! Historically this same majority has classified us as expendables, non-essentials, common domestics, unequal and you get the picture. Our short comings are broadcast over the airwaves by a few strangers disconnected from our experiences, yet they espouse a view point minus facts. How many Black think tanks survey Black women for our opinions? Case Closed!

He who has the GOLD makes the rules and though we have fought as hard as anyone for freedom, life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, Black women earn less than our white sisters by a significant margin. Now we are forced to take a back seat to illegal immigrants because the majority race of rich people (10%), are deliberately fleecing America again, in retaliation to the Civil and Women Rights movements of the 1950-1970’s. WE are deliberately excluded from dialogue concerning Genetically Modified food and other pollutants most likely the root cause of our breast cancer and diabetes. WE are not allowed to discuss the New World Order/Globalization, NAFTA and trade policies for 99.9% of all talking heads are Caucasian men then their women. WE are denied access to forums relative to chemical agents in everyday plastic goods because our influence would usher in a national health care program and we are told such policy change would harm the wealthy 10% who say we do not deserve to protect our health and well being—just die for population control. Corporations want 90% of American consumers to be individually and financially responsible for illness and death associated from the purchase and use of their poison products sold without proper labeling. WE are not LOVINGLY in this life journey together for elitism and classism rules over all. Unlike European countries and Canada who share the cost of their civilized status, the U.S. penalizes the common man. INFORMED WOMEN PROTECT THEMSELVES AND THEIR FAMILIES. WE would not purchase items that cause harm knowingly. Injustice overwhelms when we are forced to pay fully for the deception of others because elites erroneously categorize and write us off. WE are the government too so let us care for one another as God intended and as needed. Stop creating barriers to destroy the good we can do for ourselves collectively. After 50 years I still do not know what Communism is THEY hide behind.

A major issue excluded from your documentary for 20-40% of single women who never married deals with reproduction and children. Diverse panels of women are not allowed to discuss women’s issues such as abortion on networks because Caucasian men dialogue and offer talking points despite gains made by women in areas of education, business and finances, population, and political office. Women desire laws that mandates a man to support ALL CHILDREN they biologically father: providing one half or more of everything a child needs to develop her/his potential as a whole person (food, clothing, shelter, utilities, transportation, health and life insurance, a postsecondary education, day and after-school care, tutoring, an inheritance, paid vacations/summer enrichment programs, extracurricular activity expenditures such as scouting, performing arts lessons, Christian education, etc.) Men ejaculate and most times that is it! Besides an inadequate monthly child care stipend to nurture a child not beyond kindergarten he is FREE of responsibility. FULL responsibility is indirectly dumped/imposed/forced on women: Native Indian, African, Hispanic, Italian, Asian, Caucasian Americans, etc. Men designed systems for their advantage (sexual promiscuity, contraception, abortion, child custody, etc.) centuries ago and today women are too confused to understand that the reversal of Roe vs. Wade means going back centuries and this is what we rebelled against, INEQUALITY. If children are born in America, a commitment must be made to them by BOTH parents and our society. DNA testing empowers us to determine paternity so accusations that once dominated the guessing game about a baby’s daddy is almost history. Equal Responsibility assigned to parents works better than contraception and abortion. Children are our greatest resource so let’s stop cheating them by throwing up road blocks that inhibit progress so adults gain personally at their demise. Real women want INFLUENCE, INCLUSIVENESS and FULL INFORMATION TO REPLACE REACTION to everything Caucasian men introduces as good for us.

This is a good first step but much more is expected and most needed.

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pat — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:26:59 GMT

I liked the first segment of the series dealing with education and business and buying bower of black women. However, I think our accomplishments should be celebrated not weigh against and demeaned. As a black women I would be proud of the segment if it was more in depth and detailed and did not add negative statistics that did not pertain to black women at all. I think it is a big deal that black women are going to college in disproportionate numbers and creating their own businesses because I want to start my own. I was motivated by the piece and yet so disappointed. I at least watched one day of the series, which left me very disheartened, the piece was too superficial and redundant to add any informative value. I’m not impressed.

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R. Stevens, Conyers, GA — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:55:07 GMT

No matter what will be aired on these shows, I know that Black women will keep moving on and reaching their goals. If the shows are positive, this is good, but if the shows are negative, they won't put a dent in our efforts because if all other negatives have not brought us down, a few news shows sure won't bring us down either.

The reason for most of our successes are based on survival and taking care of our children. Survival does not and will never stop because of what people think of us whether it is good or bad.

I know this may sound silly, but sometimes I think the absence of a Black man was a positive because if he had been home, the inspiration may not have been there for us to succeed.

All I can say is God does not make mistakes. He knows exactly what he is doing.

Black women have suffered for a long time and still do suffer from things that other people don't have to deal with, but we keep moving on.

AA women succeed from sheer "workin' it". If success finds it way in, great.

AA women don't set out to be "strong" we have no choice but to be strong for our families.

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rah — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:26:45 GMT

Brazil here we come. Seems like all these BLACK women are so proud of being BLACK, and love their BLACKNESS, but at the end of the day their solution is to remove their blackness in their offspring. It seems like they don't want to duplicate self. The truth is many suffer from low self-esteem...especially many dark skin black women. If you really thought highly of dark skin black women, then there is no way you would be eager to erase that by procreating with a non-black person. This is why whites procreate outside their race the least. They have very high regards for their racial makeup. Why Brazil? Well just like brazil the dark skin black people will still be on the bottom at the end of the day, and a new mulatto class (1/2 or 1/3 black) of people will be created that thrives over the more negro looking true blacks. At the top will remain the blonde hair blue eyes. Matter of fact you can see this in more countries than Brazil. Brazil (south america) integrated right after slavery. North America is on track as expected.

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Robin Ayele, Hebron, Maryland — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 04:40:47 GMT

I was glad to hear that NBC decided to zero in on African American women because we are largely ignored by the mainstream. However, I was disappointed in the first series on the educational achievements of African American women. It was very brief and failed to provide an in-depth presentation on how and why African American women are so successful. There is so much in terms of our history that could have been mentioned in order to put things in proper context. After all, there are reasons why we have been so ambitious, strong, driven and successful in our professional lives.

It would have been nice to have more examples of other accomplished African American woman instead of one case study. If they had done a cross section and shown women in various professions and even gained their opinions on what made them so powerful, it would have made a more well rounded discussion.

Also it would have been nice to hear doable solutions to some of these problems. What is the point of highlighting our issues without providing ways to make things better?

Robin "Robbie" Ayele

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Nsikanson Benson — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 09:55:44 GMT

Black men should treat black women nicely, I love black women because they are beautiful to behold.

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LT Flint Mi. — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 13:48:42 GMT

What was the point of this bullshit. Why in the hell do Black People give a shit about White stats.Will Lynch and the KKK most love this.

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Kimberly J. Gibson, Miami Beach, Florida — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 19:10:37 GMT

I am enjoying your series on the status of the Black woman. The number of Black women starting their own businesses is on the increase which is a good thing. I am considering starting my own IT business. My concern is that these accomplished and high-achieving Black women won't be able to find a Black man with the same level or education to be her life partner. That is the issue facing too many well-educated and professional Black women like myself. I have degrees in science and math and work in the IT field. There are no Black males where I work and I am the only Black female in my department. Close to 70% of Black women are single. The achievement gap between Black men and women is only getting worse and this statistic spells doom for the Black family unless this problem is addressed. The majortiy of Black children are born to uneducated and young single mothers and not to Black married professional couples. Young Black men drop out of high school in record numbers. The dropout rate in my area is close to 60%. Furthermore too many young Black men do not attend college. The number of Black women on college campuses clearly outnumbers that of Black men. I think rap and hip-hop culture have "dumbed down" Black males. It isn't "cool" to be educated. It is easier to rap or throw a football than buckle down and study hard. Too few minorites are majoring in math, engineering, or the sciences. A lot of professional and educated Black women like myself are considering dating and marrying interracially rather than remaining alone and childless the rest of their lives. Unless the achievement gap between Black men and women is addressed, the divisons in the Black community will only get worse.

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Dezz — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 23:42:13 GMT

It's pretty sad that black women are falling for this divide and conqer technique. Do yall hate us now? Instead of trying to uplift us you're saying we are just failures and it's our fault now. If I ever have a daughter I will make sure she doesn't fall for the traps I can see alot of you have fell in by your reply's. Big up's to the real black women that are still around we black men really appreciate you. Also why do black women always say their's a shortage of "good black men left". All black women aren't good alot of you are brainwashed, golddiggers, etc... You don't hear us saying their is a shortage of good black women left.

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Wilfred Milton, St Louis Mo — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:20:24 GMT

It was inferred that if a woman dates or marries a man who is less educated or less accomplished than she, she is settling for less. Why is formal education, money and or position the barometer by which we judge each other as mates. Importance must be placed on the person, a great wife, husband, mother or father may have chosen to be just that. And not to devote the majority of his or her energies to the work-a-day world. I am not espousing that we should not strive to achieve, but we should allow ourselves to seek out a partner that makes us happy and not seek out a status symbol.

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Erica, West Orange, New Jersey — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:16:57 GMT

I received 4 different messages urging me to watch this series. Each time, I felt a little sad because I knew, I just knew, the focus would be on the negative. Why not "What They're Up To" instead of "Where They Stand?" More with the comparing black women to white women. (So sick of this and the reason I no longer read Essence.) More comparisons to black men...How much we're struggling...How fast we're dying..."Resorting" to dating outside the race. (Now white men will think they are our B-plan. Great. Thanks for the set up.) And when you talk about our achievements, there's a caveat...doing well is holding us back in many ways!
Where's the joy?! Where are the interviews about how we're mentoring girls and teaching self-worth? The research about our interests and the activities that consumer marketers should tap into to reach us and our spending power? (Did you see that MasterCard commercial with the four black women enjoying cultures around the world? That's from great research!) Where are the interviews with the black women happily married to black men? The SINGLE black women enjoying their lives? (Yes, they exist. And no, they're not single mothers.)
Jesus, Rehema. Just in time for the holidays you and Maria are telling me why I still haven't arrived and why I should feel sad.
Can you PLEASE wrap this up or follow it up with a story about some unadulterated happiness among black women? Please. It's Christmas for God's sake.

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Clarence H. Johnson, Covington, Georgia — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:28:19 GMT

That was a great news story except for one thing. Will Brian or someone there at NBC please explain to me what an "African American" is? I gather from your news reporting you assume that all Black people are "African American"? I am sure that Brian Williams has some European roots somewhere, but does anyone refer to him as an "English American", or "German American"? No, I am sure he refers to himself as an "American". I am Black, and I have never been to Africa. I am sure theAfrican people are mostly hard working honest people trying to survive in this cruel world, and I surely sympathize with them and wish them the best in their struggle, whatever it may be. But contrary to the philosophy of the so-called Black spokespersons, (Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton), being native born in this country, I prefer to be referred to as an AMERICAN first of all,who happens to be Black. NOT an African-American. I can only speak for myself. Thanks for your indulgence.

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Keith G. Wright — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:12:36 GMT

Black America should be studied as a model of demise... well past the tipping point, this is a race lost, divided, and quickly losing relevance.

And I say this for the sake of America's women, to monitor their own path.

The continued demise of our women is a matter of life or death for America... it is the unchecked cancer... it is bigger than race, cutting through all cultures, and in my opinion, it is the most critical concern for America, moving forward.

And if this is life or death for America’s women, then it is, indeed, the Black Woman who will be the first to die. Black women already exist in a broken culture, having to carry the mantle of “Strong Black Woman”, having to carry the “double negative effect” of being Black and being a woman, in a prevailing environment of Rap culture, littered with misogynist, sexist, abusive, uneducated, “jail-bird”, “down-low” black men... yet, white women are in lock step, on the same path, trailing behind by a definite, measurable, time & distance.

It is incumbent on all women, Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, and otherwise, to study the history, the problems, and the issues of Black America, as it pertains to the demise of America’s women. These issues we face, are an individual reckoning... we succeed or we fail by our own hands, by our own decisions, and by our own actions, and Black America, as a model of failure, should be researched, studied, and analyzed.

And I say this for the sake of America’s women.
- Keith G. Wright, AintNoJoke.com

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Lynn, Washington, DC — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:58:05 GMT

I have many responses but I'll limit them to just four.

First of all, thank you Bryan, Rehema, Mara and all at NBC who developed and contributed to this piece. It's wonderful to hear the positives about African-American women as a group particularly given the recent onslaught of racial slurs and acts.

Secondly, I am thankful that when discussing the number of single mothers within our community, you highlighted the number of women who adopt and therefore "choose" motherhood. Another growing segment of Black women who choose motherhood via artificial insemination or other means are women who are well educated, gainfully employed, single mother over the age of 30. These distinctions are important as they counter and refute common stereotypes of irresponsible, ignorant, lazy and welfare recipient single Black mothers.

Next, I must respond to the men criticizing this piece. I, as an African- American woman, am so tired of you all complaining whenever you think you've been slighted in the least way, particularly, when it's even not about you. You're so concerned about your perceived negative depiction of black men but you fall silent when black women are degraded in rap lyrics, music videos, movies and television shows? Where are you then? To be clear, I am not interested in dating a man of any other race. But, sometimes I question that intelligence of that decision, because as a group, you all have let us down consistently and repeatedly more than any other. You are supposed to be our protectors. We're supposed to be your queens. Yet and still, we can't turn on the radio without being assualted by misogynistic, sexual and crude lyrics or walk down the street without some brother calling us a b*tch or a h*e should we reject his advances. What do you think would happen if the shoe were on the other foot and the women/mothers/sister/aunts/cousins of the white race were verbally trashed and reduced to sex objects? Now, don't get me wrong, I know all too well about what Black men go through living in American and that there are definitely legitimate reasons to complain. Many. But this is not one of them. This piece was and is about Black WOMEN. NOT Black Men. I understand that as men, you are ego-driven and generally concerned with self. But, come on. The only way to discuss the inability or difficulty of a black woman marrying a comparable black man is to discuss the lack or perceived lack thereof. That is not bashing--it's making a point. An empirical point at that.

Lastly, I don't begrudge anyone a happy loving relationship or marriage. If you fall in love inter-racially, so be it. Best wishes. But, some of the sisters in the piece seemed to have some real issues and should probably look within to solve their dating-a-black man problem. One woman referenced getting a man with "good hair". Are you serious?? Good hair?? She needs some self-love. And another mentioned trouble finding a "good" black man. I submit to her and others in like her, perhaps they should re-define "good" and seriously ponder what is really important in a mate. I think if they realized that a "good" black man doesn't mean a college degree, six figure income or a bmw. Maybe they should consider values, common goals or interests, or work ethic, even if is with a blue collar. Would they date a good Black police officer or a good black bus driver? I bet if they changed their thinking, a lot of their dating woes would be solved. Personally, I thank God for my "good" Black Man. And, I'm going to continue to pray that he and his brothers collectively stand up and reclaim their role as our protectors. As the piece pointed out, we're doing everything, and I for one, am tired.

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A black man — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:15:44 GMT

According to the statistics, a huge number of black boys (future black men) are raised by single black women. When complaining about blackmen's failures, which are depressingly many, a large part of it rests with who raised them, who imparted their values or lack thereof. For an answer to that, look in the mirror, ladies.

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Renee Carter Williston, Vermont — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:43:57 GMT

I think that society should be very concerned about black our black males falling behind academically and
economically,because to ignore this fact by saying, 'It's just a precursor to what will happen to the general population will further isolate black boys, youth, and men from gaining educationally and economically. Right now there are more that six million of our children in special education. these issues concerning our males must be addressed and dlet with to give our males opportunity to advance and not have them further be ignored because research say's, "this will no longer be just a black problem. This will continue to be a black problem as long as racism exist to think other wise is delusional.

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Renee, Walnut Creek, CA — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 08:24:18 GMT

So much of our history and the issues for Black America are tied up in what injustices are happening to our men. "Herstory" or information about Black women is often pushed to the side or relegated to a one liner. I applaud NBC for looking at black women specifically. It is not often done, but it should be. We are people, not just an "accessory" to our race and we have our own story and issues that don't always include Black men.

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Melanie, Orlando, Florida — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 13:55:14 GMT

Hooray for Rehema Ellis! I have been keeping up with the series all week. I am a 29 year-old, college-educated, professional, single Black woman who is totally concerned about these issues. We need this wake-up call. We must continue to educate ourselves and be knowledgeable about what's going on in the world. Let's keep making progress. When it comes to men, we have got to keep our options open. Interracial dating is a great alternative for us. And, as far as health, we have got to do a better job of taking care of ourselves.

I really appreciate Rehema and NBC for putting this out there. Please continue this effort. Thank you!

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Vickie Smooth — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:43:42 GMT

I am a working class black woman in corporate america and to often than not black woman cut each other throats instead of looking out for one another, the envy, jealiously has ran ramped, I stand where the LORD wants me to stand, complaing is a waist of time, it's a opportunity for one to grow. I love my black sister and brothers, WE need to stop putting each other in the trash. No can destroy mentally or emotionally without your consent, When you get to the end of your rope tie a knot and hold on.

God Bless you all
Vickie Smooth

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chicago — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:56:20 GMT

To a Black Man -

To sit in judgement of SINGLE WOMEN WHO ARE LEFT TO RAISE THEIR SON'S WITHOUT A MALE FIGURE IS JUST PLAIN WRONG!!! WHERE are the FATHER'S of these son's. I would think that they are MORE AT FAULT than these women who are trying to be both parent's!

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Brad — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:57:40 GMT

Addressing the statement,

R. Stevens, Conyers, GA

"I know this may sound silly, but sometimes I think the absence of a Black man was a positive because if he had been home, the inspiration may not have been there for us to succeed."

- You are very right when you say that statement sounds silly. I can speak for myself when I say that my two daughters ages 13 and 9 love nothing more than having there daddy at home in there life every single day.

I as a black man, am a blessing for both them and there mother my wife!!!

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Della Carroway, Atlanta,Ga — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:09:21 GMT

This segment on tonight's new is oh so interesting.I wonder how my Dr is really informing me of my health,and doing what is important regarding my health.We must focus on really educating ourselves on really being healthy. Della Carroway in Atlanta.

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Proud Black Woman — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 21:33:20 GMT

I am a 49 year old Black woman who hold a Master's Degree in Educational Supervision. I have been married for 25 years to a wonderful Black man who is also a great Father. I have 4 children one of whom is my oldest son and who in college and is being put in a honors program. My younger daughter is a straight A student who has a fit if she get anything less. I read one of the letter from a Black man who was testifying to the fact that their are good thousands of good Black men. I just wanted to ditto that. My Dad was one,I am married to one for 25 years, my daughter is married to one and I know several good Black men. To the upwardly mobile Black women who still looking keep the faith with the man upstair to lead you to the right on.
are still looking

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Freeman, Greensboro, N.C. — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 12:39:53 GMT

I think that a lot of black women feed into the stereo types cast by negative news media and Hollywood’s depiction of black women finding the American dream though a relationship with a white man. Is the American dream (whatever that is) only found by marriage to a person of Scandinavian descent. Truth is I have not seen personally of this great Black/White marriage thing. I have seen a lot of jungle fever that is not rooted in real commitment and lasting love. Real love is not based in the abundance or lack of material wealth or some false sense of status though finances. Even though it looks good on the surface maybe closer examination is needed. At the end of the day when the sparks fly I don’t want to be just another N______ to my life’s partner. As black man I love our black women whom no matter what; I will always have more in common with. No amount of material wealth could ever take that from me.

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James B Tenn — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 12:48:53 GMT

To all celebrated educated, sucessful Black women. If oprah can find a black man what's your problem?

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Concerned — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 16:01:29 GMT

What is the problem? If black women are enjoying success beyond that of the black male's success without them. And there are plenty of men of other races to marry then why do these so- called successful black women still have a problem with black men? Why can’t you just braise in your success and leave the black men to the sistas that still love Black men. This does not appear to be about the success of black women but more about an attack on black males.

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Kilroy was Here — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 16:04:17 GMT

It looks like the opponents of Black males are hard up for allies.

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Andrea Wiley — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 03:02:46 GMT

I am thankful that NBC has provided a national platform for these critical issues that affect not just African American women, but all Americans.

To learn more about the film "Soulmate" that was featured on Wednesday, please visit www.soulmatefilm.com

"Soulmate" addresses issues facing African Americans such as: singleness, loneliness, the biological clock, dating, the down low, HIV/AIDS, sex, celibacy and marriage after the age of 40.

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boston, MA — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 15:15:31 GMT

As a women's health physician, I find that that Black women are a diverse groups. some are very successful, some are not. some can navigate the minefield of institional racism and thrive. others are not as successful. Attacking the problems of obesity, HIV/AIDS and cardiovascular diseases will be contribute enormously to the health of black women as opposed to breast cancer which most of afraid of but does not affect as many of those affected with HIV, Diabetes and hypertension. Access to health foods, safe environment so people can exercise without fear of violence is also very important.
Dr. M. David

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Marcia Williams — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 02:26:59 GMT

Rehme Ellis, I have always enjoyed your style of reporting, and this topic is just what the doctor ordered. THANKS GIRL FRIEND..............

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Juana Hawk — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 21:05:42 GMT

How many millions of women are unmarried

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Wade H. Edwards, Cincinnati Ohio — Sun, 09 Dec 2007 00:16:19 GMT

Rehema -
Unfortunately, I didnt get an opportunity to see your series on the current standing on AA women(couldn't get home from work in time). I've seen some of your work before and am sure that it was outstanding. We have a mutual friend - Kim Platt (my college roommate) from Pittsburgh and my younger brother worked part time with you at WAMO. Lee McFerren is now the principal at Farrell High School and doing a wonderful job. The plight that will face many of the women you shared stories on is what he and many African American "people" will constantly be de-railed by - success. Once you clean up situations and make things better for you and your people, there's a tarnishing process that we all must fend off. If you have the time - please contact him at the school or go visit the community for yourself and see how this young man is making a difference and the price he must pay to do the right things so that black kids will get ahead in life.

Cordially,
Wade H. Edwards

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cos lee coleman,phila.pa. — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 17:13:46 GMT

Rehema Ellis I want to know are they going to have a series for the positive black men in the United States.

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sie anthony kofi — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 23:56:38 GMT

hello there,sorry to put my worried before u.i am a very humble guy,age of 25 looking for a black single woman for real love.love does not matter with young or old,cute or ugly.love always says u live in ma heart... if anyone intrested can contact me on big_son5@yahoo.com

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Adrienne Graham, Atlanta, GA — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 14:41:23 GMT

"The words, "you must learn how to stand on your own and take care of yourself", must be a template for most of our moms."

Tonya, I 100% agree with this. I didn't get to see the piece so I can only come from a place of experience. I am a successful Black Woman in a healthy relationship, who has a well adjusted teenage son and a thriving business (actually 2). I learned long ago that if I wanted to be successful I had to take the reigns of control for my professional life. I have been discounted and discriminated against on my way up. But I didn't quit. I used those as stepping stones to get to where I wanted to get. I think we (Black Women) take a lot of criticism and tough breaks to heart. I see so many get discouraged and ready to concede or throw in the towel. It saddens and angers me. Instead of letting others dictate what we can and cannot do, we need to stop complaining and make things happen. There are resources out there. We just need to FIND them. For those of us who make it, reach back and give to others who want it too. We have a tendency to isolate ourselves once we achieve success. That is selfish and karmically wrong. I will not give up on my sisters. With the right support system and guidance, any one of us can make it (and have). We should be working together not plotting against one another.

"An Empowered Black Woman"

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maggie barnes — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 18:12:25 GMT

Beware,sometimes your own black child can become your enemy. Black parents in jail and every other kind of financial burden when white school counselors get through hotlining single black moms. If you are educated they really want to get you. Raytown Missouri Schools love to hotline these parents.

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Dr. Deidre Hill Butler, Schenectady, New York — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 11:55:56 GMT

Dear Ms. Ellis, thank you for this special I am going to use it to introduce my college students at Union College in Schenectady, New York to issues relating to African American Women. I teach an upper level Sociology/Africana/Women's and Gender Studies course on the topic.

We may know each other ...my mother was professor of Social Work at Simmons college in the early 1970s...her name is Millicent Hill... family folklore states that you babysat for my brother, David at one time... I am not sure if that is true...Anyway I am a Boston native too.

Thank you for this series and the example of excellence you set on TV. I have grown up watching you and I appreciate your work and longevity.

I would like to speak with you about coming to my campus for a presentation when your schedule allows.

Sincerely,
Dr. Deidre Hill Butler

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mike — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 20:11:44 GMT

I wish I can find a girlfriend. But it seems the girls only want thugs.

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Lisette, Yonkers, NY — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:15:25 GMT

If you think that this is the best time to be a black woman in America you got serious issues. I am a black woman from Europe who observes the deplorable conditions of the black community in America and I could not help my self but conclude that this is partly to blame on the attitude African-American women. Many black women who consider themselves to be educated and upper class and supposedly doing better than black men refer to other black women as the un-educated under class. The way they support the political agenda that perpetuates the misery in their own communities boggles my mind.

As in Europe they have adopted the feminist mindset that is perpetuating the “everything and anything goes” culture of low expectations that is impacting the lives of women in general and black women in particular and wrecking havoc on society at large.

A great many of them bring children into this world without having a moral foundation and value system of raising them to become productive members of society. The most damaging of this all is the constant cry of racism and the continued brainwashing of especially black males. They get the message constantly from many different sources that they are an endangered species and live in hostile society where they will not be allowed to do anything because the “men” will not let them… …which is crippling their minds and removing further away from the larger society. Black women have systematically participated in the scheme to emasculate them and they continue to reinforce the notion that he is nothing more than a lust object. Black women do not live by their own standard they conveniently and without question follow that of somebody else. They are excelling but they do so at the expense of the larger community.

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Edo state, Nigeria. — Wed, 21 May 2008 03:30:01 GMT

I am mr Frank, black single in Africa, educated I am anxiously looking out for black single america to marriage. And as a christian I must expalian and truful, and I would be very garteful if my request is considered. Thanks.

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Johanna, Richmond Virginia — Wed, 21 May 2008 14:59:46 GMT

I am a young black woman who is having no trouble finding men to date or go out with. While I have no marriage prospects, I still keep my options open (with black men) and I am enjoying things. I get so tired of hearing the doom and gloom of black women. I think we as black women need to stop being so particular. The same men you push aside (because he is unattractive, no job, less education) are the same men white and other women pick up. Try to look at the man himself and not just his accomplishments. Right now black women the ball is NOT in our court so we must do what we can. Stop bashing black men and running them away! White women know they are in the lead, so why give any ammunition to it? I am saddened by the statistics too but if you stop bashing it would be a bit better.

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regalos originales — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 17:06:44 GMT

That's a global problem really, and you have study it in the long run..!

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Jerry — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:34:42 GMT

Thanks for sharing this great article. Black women are improving day by day when it comes to contributing to economy